Ok, here’s my dilemma. My partner wants our MoH and Bridesmaids to wear...

The bridal party is your area to decide about, I am letting my partner sort himself and his groomsmen out and the bridesmaids and their dresses and my dress were my choices, its a special day, so what if you need to spend a little extra to make it happen how you dreamed it :) x

Hi people do mix and match styles and lengths now good luck :)

What would you prefer?
Its your wedding you can do what you want.
You can find very reasonably priced long dresses on places such as ASOS, boohoo, TFNC if you did want long dresses

Really the length of bridesmaids dresses are your concern and I would think he could be a bit more understanding of your friend's feelings about her scars. Explain to him about it being possible to take them up. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

Go will long dresses if that is what you want. You don't want anybody feeling uncomfortable on the day. It's probably likely that they won't wear them again anyway even if you do buy tea length.

I have 2 short and 2 long

I had my grown up bridesmaids in full length white dresses and the younger one in a shorter dress. It looked lovely ️ A mix of lengths would be lovely also and I definitely wouldn't make your bridesmaid wear a short one if she is uncomfortable. Personally I would go for all long dresses X x x

I had two bridesmaids with long dresses and two with short

When I was a bridesmaid 4 years ago, there was me at 5ft 1 and my best friends 2 sister's who are both at least 5 inches taller than me! They wore full length dresses and I wore a knee length dress as my friend knew that's what we would be happiest in. They were the exact same colour and very very similar in style so she was happy as well as us 3!

I had a mixture with the adults in tea dresses and the flower girl in a longer dress. Also have you spoken to your friend about a shorter dress, I had one friend with the same issue and she also has a lot of issues to due to her weight and feels very uncomfortable in any type of dress but she was happy to wear the dress the same as the others for the day as she wanted to be my bridesmaid as she’s my oldest friend (27 years and counting) and refused to let her own issues stand in the way! I made a few alterations to her dress from the others to make her feel more comfortable and she wore a thicker pair of tights to hide her scars. She chose to do it herself as I had offered her a suit in the same colours as the bridesmaids so she felt comfortable.

Mine all having different dresses x

I had all mismatched & different lengths .... As I asked my bridesmaids what length of dress they would prefer = so they got to choose ❤️🌟❤️

I hate my legs so when I was a bridesmaid for my friend she very kindly let me wear a full length dress even though the others were all wearing tea length. When we looked back at the photos you didn't even really notice it as the dresses were the exact same colour and style I think mixing it up would be fine xx

At my friends wedding, we wore 2 long dresses and 2 tea length. I wore a tea length. It looked lovely 😊 xx

I also had 2 bridesmaids in long and 2 in short dresses. Colour was perfect match as from the same designer. Xx

I’m having 3 bridesmaids of different ages. 2 of them sisters with different tastes. I’ve told them they don’t have to wear the same style as long as the colour and possibly the make is the same. I’d rather have smiling bridesmaids than pouting one in the photos.

My thoughts are that htb needs to mind his own business when it comes to the bridesmaids! What's it to him if they wear the dresses again? This isn't even a question you need to be asking...sorry to be blunt but the bridesmaid dresses and indeed your own dress are probably the one part of the wedding where you don't need mutual agreement, have what you and your bridesmaids want/feel comfortable with, just disregard what he's said and don't dwell on it.

Long dresses can also be worn again.. go for Multi way dresses they come in just about every colour and different lengths. If you want all long stick with it.

I'm surprised your partner has such a strong opinion on it. Lol.

That’s your decision to make and also I’m pretty sure they probably wouldn’t want to wear a bridesmaid dress again anyway. I know some might but most wouldn’t.

I didn’t realise the groom had a say in bridesmaid dresses? Tell him it’s not his choice, my h2b certainly wouldn’t be telling me what he wanted them to wear, it’s just not for him to get involved with - have you dictated what the groomsmen will be wearing??

Also I wonder how many people would/do actually rewear their bridesmaids dresses even if they could? Personally I couldn’t see myself doing so

At my cousins wedding the MOH was in a long dress and the 2 bridesmaids were in tea length. It looked nice and was a good way of showing the differences between them

I spoke to my sis in law when we went to look for bridesmaids dresses I said obviously il wear whatever u want me to wear but then I reminded her one of my legs is completely covered in psoriasis and she very quickly said oh yes long length it is x

I picked bridesmaids dresses that could be worn again too & they were tea length too. You could also find maxi dresses which could be worn again too though! I think having 1 full length and the others in tea length is absolutely fine but the one who is different should really be your MOH.

This should give u an idea xx

I am letting my bridesmaids pick their own dress style - as long as they all match in colour they should wear whatever makes them feel comfortable.

My maid of honour wore a tea length dress and my other bridesmaids wore maxi dresses and they looked fabulous x

My bridesmaids were different ages shapes and sizes ...i made them all wear ivory but mixed and matched dresses to suit....looked lovely x

Ask your bridesmaids what they’d like. They might allbe happy to have fulllegth dresses x

Ask them what they want. They may all want long dresses X X

I had a mix I had 3 tea length and on full lenght

Bridal party is your demain groonsman is his. Would he feel comfortable wearing something that makes him sekf conscious? Like you said they can have them altered after if want to wear again. Depends on dress and event after really. Sounds like h2b is thinking practical maybe he hasnt realised how upsettinf this would be for braidmaids.

you could do it so that your MOH where's the short dress so she stands out as being different x

Isn't it normally the brides decision on wAt the bridesmaids wear and the groom sorts the men out my husband had no say in the choice of the bridesmaids dresses but I did make sure that they all felt comfortable in wAt they were wearing u don't want them feeling uncomfortable and it showing in the photos x

My bridesmaids will all be in different style dresses as they are all different shapes sizes and heights and i want them to look and feel amazing! I actually hate the idea of matching dresses, much prefer a bit of individuality!

It looks a bit funny, but it's really not too bad. I gave my bridal party a designer, fabric, colour and a few ground rules and let them pick their own dresses as they all had different body types and lived too far apart to ever get together to look (as in different countries). I told them I wanted the dresses to cover their knees, but beyond that the length was their choice. My maid of honour chose to shorten hers while the matron of honour & bridesmaids kept theirs full length. I included one of my pictures to give you an idea. :-)

I was a bridesmaid this summer I wore tealenght n the other 3 wore long dresses we all had different dresses on my friend gave us a colour and told us to pick our own dresses. She wanted us all to b happy and comfy on the day xxx

Your bridesmaids your choice are you.telling hom what you.want best man.and ushers to.wear. i.bet not. Why
Does it matter to him.if they are worn again or not?

Id say if u was doing 2 long 1 tea lngth then the maid of honour wear tea length to stand out as maid n nt just bridesmaid i did this with the colours nt lengths xxxx

I had 4 bridesmaids, two in shorter and two in longer. All the groomsmen wore kilts but one usher really did not want to, we put him in tails the same as my dad who at over 75 again, did not want to wear a kilt. We would rather people were comfortable and enjoy the day, rather than be self conscious, and can’t wait to escape to get changed x

I have 3 bridesmaids my MOH is wearing long my sister in law long and my niece short x

1 of my bridesmaids is taller than the other 2 so she might be wearing a long dress, the others will be wearing short dresses because of their heights, however the colours of the dresses will be the same. I don’t think it matters as long as you are happy and the dresses look good on your bridesmaids. It would be really bad if you had one bridesmaid in a dress that didn’t suit her just because it suited the others. Also I would never put my bridesmaid in a dress if they hated it.

Tell him to but out.. They're your party for the day and tend to be your friends. You know them better than anyone. If they want long dresses then they can have long dresses. Tell him there are such things as dress makers who can change dresses after the wedding if they wish to. The girls might not want to wear the dresses again.