UKbride Member Request 29 Nov 2017

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice regarding invitations. I’m...

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice regarding invitations. I’m getting married May 2019. I don’t want to send save the dates if I can help it just to cut down on costs. Our venue offered a 3 day wedding package where 40 guests can stay in the cottages on site with us and have a meal the night before the wedding, stay two nights and have breakfast the morning following the wedding. We are going to offer this to 40 of our closest friends and family and put it together in a little package and let people know how much it will cost. Of course nobody will be obliged to stay if they don’t want to but we thought it would be nice to offer it. We have to pay for it in December 2018 so obviously want to allow those people time to save for it if they want to stay. So, I was thinking about sending invitations out in the spring of this year for this reason. But I know that’s probably way too early to send out invitations to those guests who aren’t being offered the 3 day package thing! But then I don’t want to only send invitations to the 40 people at first because no doubt word will get round and people will wonder why they haven’t been invited and so and so has. Would it be so bad to just send all the invites out this spring? The worst that people will think is just wow she’s organised? Or shall I send out save the dates but then include the 3 day package info in to those guests who we are offering it to? What would you all do? :)

Kerry Hudson
Kerry Hudson 29 Nov 2017

Im getting married may 2019 aswel thinking of sending invites end of may 2018

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 29 Nov 2017

Although I personally am not keen on save the dates in this case it may be best to send out save the dates and include the 3 day package info to the relevant guests. Otherwise people may think there is lots of time to reply and then forget which would mean you would have a lot of following up to do.

Chloe Mitchell
Chloe Mitchell 30 Nov 2017

I don't think there's a massive problem with sending them out that early. We are sending ours out a year in advance for the day guests as we aren't sending save the dates either. We also have 2 lists of people we would like to have for the day, but our budget is tight so are sending out one set early and the other set when we get rsvp's :)

Chloe Mitchell
Chloe Mitchell 30 Nov 2017

With regards of following up, set an rsvp deadline that is a few months after, so if people haven't responded, you still have time to get in touch. Hope this helps x


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