Erica Davies
Erica Davies 28 Nov 2017

question. if u knew ure friend/family member was getting married, would u...

question. if u knew ure friend/family member was getting married, would u liked to be invited to wedding, or reception, or both??

22 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 28 Nov 2017

Hi I would like to be invited to all of them but it is up to the people getting married:)

Diana Popescu
Diana Popescu 28 Nov 2017

Depends on how close we are really. If we're super close then I would like to be part of the whole day. If it's more like we speak at Christmas and other celebrations, reception would be good enough. I'm not a huge wedding fan so I'd rather avoid the church/register bit. But that's just me.

UKbride Member 28 Nov 2017

I think this is difficult as some places for the wedding can't accommodate everyone you'd like to invite, my wedding venue can only accommodate 46 guests but there are 60 people who want to come and who I want to be there, we will just be inviting relatives and the bridal and grooms parties to the wedding and then anyone else will be reception only x

Nicole Harris
Nicole Harris 29 Nov 2017

Most family friends I am personally only inviting them to the night time. Mainly because my hubby to be has a gigantic family and I am already at 100 people which is meant to be 90 😑 x

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 29 Nov 2017

Depends how close we were and how much I knew they could afford.
An evening invite if be happy with if i knew it was just
Closest family/friends and we weren’t close just friends, where as if it was one of my best friends or immediate family members I’d be happier invited all day..
If that makes sense! Xx

Rachel Turnbull
Rachel Turnbull 29 Nov 2017

A friend of mine sent an open invitation to everyone to the church so they could all watch her be married, plus the reception too, but only had close friends and family for the wedding breakfast. It’s a way of having everyone there without paying through the nose.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Depends on how close you are, if it's your brother then yeah the whole thing but a cousin? I'd be happy with an evening invite also we all know how much these things cost lol I unfortunately had to sit and choose my very very closest to invite to the day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

I don’t think anyone can assume they are getting an invite regardless of being a friend or family! The bride and groom may not be able to afford a big massive wedding so can’t afford to have everyone they like. There is too much pressure on brides and grooms about who is being invited who can’t with out people thinking oh it’s a Friend or family so yeah I will be going x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Depends on the person

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

family both, a friend the party

Erica Davies
Erica Davies 29 Nov 2017

Thanks all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Depends on the freind I was invited to a freinds evening do I was happy with this this but then due to numbers it changed to the actual ceremony so i was delighted

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

I’d never expect to be invited to anyone’s wedding. No matter how close. I would like to go to everyone’s wedding though, I bloody love weddings!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Depends how close we were. If super close,I'd hope for full day. If not so close,I'd be happy for an evening invite

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

It depends on how close I am to the person. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Obviously both but when it comes down to it every one understands there’s usually a limit on numbers so you have to prioritise, I never take offence to just being invited to the evening.

Erica Davies
Erica Davies 29 Nov 2017

im getting married, and most of the family members no longer wants me part of the family circle. and they belong to fathers side. so i dont know if i should invite them, or not invite them, and i dont want father to get into arguments with them cause of me.

Steph V
Steph V 29 Nov 2017

Weddings are just so expensive that I would be happy to be invited at all. We don’t have the budget to invite all of our friends and family to our whole day so are only inviting them if we’ve seen them within a year :)

Erica Davies
Erica Davies 29 Nov 2017

thanks all, this was my question.
wedding not till 2020. but i just wanted some people advice.

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 29 Nov 2017

I've been thinking about wedding breakfast and thinking just because they are family doesn't mean they get an invite as I've got family who I only ever see at weddings or funerals etc so am thinking where paying ourselves so have a right budget and why should I pay for them when we don't bother on a day to day basis. I'd rather have friends there that I actually interact with and not just through Facebook etc. I'd say go with your gut as it's your and h2bs day not everyone else's x

Catriona White
Catriona White 29 Nov 2017

There's no stick answer. Depends on:
Your relationship with them
The sort of wedding they have planned
Their budget
It's not as simple as what you want

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