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UKbride Member Request 25 Nov 2017

Hi. My husband to be and I have been together for two years. I love him but...

Hi. My husband to be and I have been together for two years. I love him but I hate his underwear. He always wears briefs, usually white, rather than boxer shorts. I find tight whities a big turn off. For the wedding night I have bought a really ex pair of bra and knickers especially for him and i'd like him to make more of an effort like i have. How do I tell my HTB that he needs to ditch the briefs and wear some boxers? Do any of your partners wear tighty whities? Who even does these days?

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Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 25 Nov 2017

It's coming up to Christmas. Perhaps buy him some nice alternatives so that he can get used to the idea.

Christina Stevens
Christina Stevens 25 Nov 2017

My partner wears them but he don't wear white ones he wears them to support his bits as when he was younger he was undecended sorry for tmi I find them a turn off but you can actually find some really nice ones I get them from m&s bit on the expensive side but really nice designs. What's it matter anyway, they'll end up on the floor lol. Look at it from his point of view aswell how would you feel if he said stop wearing your French knickers and wear your Bridget Jones you'd say erm no way just an example as I obviously don't know what undies you wear lol. I think you'll find a lot of guys wear pants but we just don't know about it lol xx

Steph V
Steph V 26 Nov 2017

Marriage isn't about underwear its about a commitment. Personally I really don't care what underwear my H2B wears because I'm the only one seeing them. Don't think about the small things because that'll be last thing you'll worry about on your day.

Chloé Roe
Chloé R 27 Nov 2017

Why don't you put together a little package for him to open the night before the wedding-
Fill it with things for the big day
eg. cufflinks, socks, aftershave and add some pants in there too with a little note from you
That way you're not hurting his feelings by telling him his underwear is a turn off

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

I'm just straightforward and tell my partner he looks a twat in them pants lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Just take them off...problem solved hahaha

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Jennifer Smith

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Callum Robinson tighty whities

Susan Ong
Susan Ong 28 Nov 2017

Lol me and my partner always joke about the tighty Whities... just be straight forward and honest or chuck out all the tighty whities in the bin and boxers as early Christmas present 👍 my partner loves to wear holes in socks, I rip them apart so he can’t wear them no more 😂 problem solved! All the best

Elizabeth Tooke
Elizabeth Tooke 28 Nov 2017

Some boxers are baggy and others are more fitted maybe get him a pair of more fitted ones so it keeps him all tucked in xxx

Jessica Asquith
Jessica Asquith 28 Nov 2017

I personally prefer boxers I find them more comfortable if I wore tighty whiteys wtb would laugh at me an deffo find it a turn off buy him some nice boxers for xmas and mention it to him how sexy you would find him in them xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

You’re planning must be going well if this is what you’re worried about on the wedding night you’d honestly have to be happy if he’s sober enough to perform never mind what underwear he’s wearing

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Seriously!! You are stressing over a pair of pants!! I couldn't care less what my h2b wears as long as he is comfortable in his undies. I'm far more interested in what is under them
Not the best start to a marriage if a poor bloke can't choose his own pants 🤔

Lindsay Coombes
Lindsay Coombes 28 Nov 2017

Get him a nice pair of silk boxers as part of a little present for the morning. Your making an effort I am sure he won’t mind 😊

Katey Acklam
Katey Acklam 28 Nov 2017

Lmao...this is hilarious. Just tell them they are gross and they need binning. If you cant have a laugh over undies then are you really a couple. I used to wear mahoosive landers which i still do at certain times of month but not for fruity time thou. Be grateful they are not brown yfronts or paisley jobs..i hear they are making a comeback x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Funny comments ,

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Relax they are only underwear...Buy him something as a sexy gift....

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 28 Nov 2017

Sounds like Christmas undies are needed. The ones in next are good, more like boxers but hold everything in

Good luck x

Jennifer Johnstone
Jennifer Johnstone 28 Nov 2017

I feel this post must be a joke, but you can always point out that if you want kids, boxers are better for the swimmers...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Why not buy them for him as a gift to wear on the day/night.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

You love him not his undies.
Let him.wear what he likes on the day. Buy him a nice new pair.
Maybe something with groom on them and matching socks

Rachel Dawes
Rachel Dawes 28 Nov 2017

Ask him why he wears them. It may be a comfort thing, in which case you'll have to just ask that he leaves them at the door! If not, explain that you might be more invested if you didn't have to repress thoughts of dad crotches whenever you saw them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

If you want to.change his underwear now before the wedding after 2 years..what else will.you look to change.
Let him be. He is the man you fell in.love with white briefs and all

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 28 Nov 2017

This seems a bit of a weird thing to focus on, as long as his underwear is clean I don’t get the issue ...

Otherwise if it’s that much of an issue, say you prefer boxers and he may try for you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Surely his pant are going to be off anyway??

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Buy him personalised boxers

Francesca Coyne
Francesca Coyne 28 Nov 2017

I wonder how these comments would look if it was the other way around and it was a man commenting on his future wife’s underwear being a “turn off” 🤔

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

There's only one simple solution to this one in my opinion. Stop stressing over a tiny little thing and take them off him. It's what's underneath that counts

Amy Orourke
Amy Orourke 28 Nov 2017

Don't get married would be my advice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

For my other half its more about comfort. He can't wear certain types because of cancer so I think your priorities are pretty awful and if you cant have a discussion about why your other half wears what he wears then perhaps you are too immature to be getting married.

Kay Sanders
Kay Sanders 28 Nov 2017

I don't know if he will feel comfortable wearing a bra and knickers 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Put a wee box together as a wedding morning gift.... aftershave, watch, groom socks and boxers that day Property of the bride.... pack his honeymoon case with boxers instead of his briefs! But honestly u love this man, it's not about his underwear xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Get some ODDBALLS. he can still wear briefs but they will be colourful and you raise money for testicular cancer x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Buy him a pair just for the night as a gift x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Have you tried buying him new underwear?My OH switched to trunk boxers when I bought him some as that's what I prefer. But men tend to not see the need for fancy pants,they just need something for their bits. In all honesty though,I don't see this as a deal breaker,and really not worth a fight over. Maybe just buy him a pair and send them to him on the morning of the wedding with a saucy little note,he may even surprise you and wear them

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

There should only be one question to this. Is he comfortable? If the answer is yes, leave him alone!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

My h2b doesn't wear anything so problem solved!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

I don't mean to offend, but if your marrying him you should feel comfortable to tell him anything, and part of that being that you don't like his underwear! 🤔

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Buy him some as a wedding present. However love is more than pants.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Alice read some these comments !!!!!

Vittoria Di Franco
Vittoria Di Franco 28 Nov 2017

Accidentally wash the lot with a red jumper .... problem solved !!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Holly Siobhan Brannan dont know why this made me think of you but im creased

buy some calvin kleins and ditch the briefs he will have no choice but to wear them !! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Umm. Just tell him? If you can’t talk to him about something a trivial as underwear is it a good idea to be getting married to him? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Just buy him boxers.... Then when ever he's jn them been extra complimentary

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

I think that you need to rethink your attitude. If you love someone you love all of them, quirks and all. If you’re struggling to be attracted to him just because of his underwear choice there are bigger issues. My partner could wear a bin bag and I’d still think he was an Adonis and he doesn’t give a monkeys if I wear granny pants or whatever else I choose to wear. No offence but get over yourself and if it’s that big a deal to you I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship if the poor man can’t wear his tighty whiteys in peace

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Would you be happy if he told you he didn’t like the underwear that you wear and he wanted you to wear a different type that you didn’t find comfortable? Let him wear whatever he is comfortable in x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

It's what he's comfy in, but you could give a pair of what u like as a wedding day gift along with other bits n Bob's for him to use on the day hopefully he'll take the hint... although he may not be comfy in what u buy and it is a long day to be having an irritated nether region.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

My god girls some of these comments are harsh! She's not saying he can't wear his choice of pants, she obviously wouldn't be marrying him if she were that shallow, she's looking for advice to tactfully ask him to wear something more attractive on their wedding night.

Amy Bell
Amy Bell 28 Nov 2017

I'm sorry I couldn't help laughing 🙈😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Jabe Norman

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

My fiancé and I have been together 10 yrs with 2 children, engaged for 4 years and I couldn't care a less what underwear he wants to wear. It's important to feel comfortable especially down there, just like it is for a woman to feel comfortable in her bra! You're marrying him because you love him so why should it matter, sorry to say but it's a bit shallow and immature. There are much more important things in life to worry about. Surely being comfortable is alot more important, it's his wedding too. Sorry to be blunt, I do hope you do both have a wonderful day! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Just take them off. Be reet.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

Perhaps you could get him to blindfold you and then you won't have to look at them?!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

What a shallow women...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

Just count yourself lucky that he doesn’t go commando

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Nov 2017

I’m with you...tighty whities aren’t sexy in the slightest however maybe he feels like boxers don’t hold anything in and feels like he’s not wearing anything, you can get boxers that are tight fitting and not loose tho! Go and buy him some sexy silk ones for the wedding and send them to him as a gift but get him some xmas ones to get him used to them

Catherine Hind
Catherine Hind 30 Nov 2017

Surely his choice of underpants would have been a big decision maker when you said "yes". Seriously though you need to communicate with him and if you can't over his choice of underpants what will you do if he wears a horrible pair of shoes or maybe even something serious when you get married

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