If future parents have offered to pay towards our venue, should they decide...

Looks like you are going to have to make time for a chat. If they are kindly paying TOWARDS your venue then you presumably be paying the rest. Perhaps ask for their suggestions for venues and take these into your consideration. Then you can perhaps present your findings and pump up why you want where you want without being rude about their suggestions? Just a thought. Good luck.

Hi it is your wedding so it should be your choice, the two of you should have a chat with them :)

As you have said they have offered to pay for your venue, I think they should have a say if it is too expensive. You need to have a chat with them about your concerns and also find out a price they are kindly giving you (this will help with the choosing of the venue.) And then personally where your wedding is held should be up to you and your H2B. :)

You need to have a proper sit down with them and ask how much they are willing to contribute. They can give their opinions but make it clear that its your day and you will chose a venue you and your H2B are happy with. i think being polite but blunt is a good way forward - then everyone knows where they stand.

You need to sit down and ask how much they are willing to pay and then it should be up to you and your partner to choose where u want your wedding. Then go round a few venues and tell them your budget. You'd be surprised x

I would defo speak with them to discuss their budget first

I would just say look would you please let us know how much you are giving us as we need to budget and it’s hard to budget when we haven’t been given a figure x

My parents are paying towards some of it and haven’t really commented on our choices. We have sat down with them made a list of how much everything is going to cost and then split the cost that way. Perhaps you need to sit and talk to them so you know what their budget is and if they would like a say on your choices.

It should 100% be your choice of venue! They need to stop dangling carrots in your face, it’s childish and unfair, wedding are stressful enough!

Along the lines of. " we are so grateful that you wish to contribute towards our wedding /venue. We don't like to ask, but can you give us an idea of approximately how much so we can eliminate /avoid those outside your comfortable donation. " Good luck.xx

If there’s an issue tell the to put the money towards something else. Maybe the honeymoon or flowers and cake etc. Xx

If you can afford it why not pay for everything yourself and tell them a gift (whether it be cheque or cash or anything else etc) would be appreciated on the day. That's what we did. That way you can have the day the way you want it. Although people will still have their say whether it be friends or family you've just got to be strong willed and keep to what you have originally decided. :)

If they are offering to cover the whole cost of the venue then they are within their rights to say if it's too much however if you offered to cover the difference they might be ok with that...ie if they're willing to give you a certain amount and the venue you choose is more you could pay the extra...you shouldn't have to compromise on what you want just because they have offered to contribute.

This is why fiance and I are paying for it all ourselves. It's a struggle and we have to watch what we spend. But at the end of the day we can turn round and say we done it all ourselves. Why don't you do the same and then you can ask them to pay for your honeymoon? Xxx

Assume you’ll be paying the bulk of it and whatever they give you is a bonus. Choose the venue the two of you want it’s nobody else’s business

I paid for some things for my daughters wedding.we told them £1000 was all we could afford.her dad did the same and gave them money.was up to them what they wanted then.its easier if u say that’s how much we can give u. No arguments then and later on towards the wedding day. Gd luck.have a talk to them.x

It should be the bride and grooms choice, however, just bear in mind if someone else is footing a substantial amount for your wedding and they can't afford it then they have every right to then turn round and say if that's where you want to get married you'll have to pay for it because we can't.

My Mum and Step Dad, my partners Mum and Dad and my Dad and Step Mum all contributed £2000 each and we’re paying the rest. Every single one of them have given us the money and left us to it, just how it should be. Anyone who contributes shouldn’t expect a say, their contribution is a gift, not a payment so they can decide, it’s not their wedding and if they aren’t happy give them their money back.

And this is why I didn’t take a penny off anyone

Choose the venue book it pay the deposit.. watever they decide to give u towards it accept it... (unless of course wat money they give depends on where u can afford) they don't get a say where just cause they are paying.... it's u and H2B day it's got to be wat u want and no one else.

Tell them that's lovely and you'll use it towards the cost of your venue so you don't have to have something you don't want or feel that you have to scrimp.

You need to sit down and ask how much they are gifting if they diffenatly want it spending on the venue Then you should find a venue you like and contribute to the rest your self as it’s your day no one else’s. Me and my hb2B have decided that any money that we are gifted will go on the honey moon then we can have every say in our day 🙂 x

theyve already had THEIR wedding and its not their place to dictate yours, kindly tell them any contribution is welcome but that if it doesnt pay it all you will be paying the difference as you want your day to be urs n urs h2b choice but the contribution will help make that perfect for u

Mo.they sbouldnt. Its a gift. You should be free to.pick where when.and how you hold wedding..and who.you invite.

my mum is contributing towards ours. I did a load of research on prices, wrote it all up then visited places on the list and then she cane up with a number. sometimes people make offers like this too without realising how much these things actually cost. they may have had good intentions to pay but now they are seeing numbers they may not have thought it would be that much.

maybe you could just talk and say we dont want to expect too much so can you give us a number so we dont unintentionally put any pressure on you to pay more than you are willing/able.

good luck and hope you sort it out x

Talk to them; thank them for their really kind offer buy say it would be good to budget / know how much money they are offering so you know how much to save. They'll understand; and if a place is too much you can save for the rest.