Can anyone suggest different ideas for a head table seating plan? I would really like my parents and 4 bridesmaids at the table but both myself and my partner don't want his parents or step mother on it as, unfortunately, we need to keep them as far away from each other as possible (they will not behave for the day - we have witnessed them being disruptive and childish at other events and my partner's sister's wedding) ??
How about a round table and maybe having them on a different table. Xx
Perhaps have your parents, bridesmaids, best man and maybe grandparents? Depends who you are close to.
I'm worrying about the same thing- they haven't spent time at a a family event before so hoping they will just keep out of eachothers way. We are still going with the traditional top table as my partner was 22 when his father re-married so doesnt see her as a step mum just his dads wife who will be sat on a table with her children and with the long table his mother and father will be opposite ends and don't even have to look at eachother.
What about having your parents bridesmaids and groomsmen so it goes something like this:
Bridesmaids- Father of the bride- Bride- Groom- Mother of the bride- Groomsmen
We are just having myself and h2b with our son and my step daughter. Only due to the fact that my h2b’s mum died a few years ago and I don’t want his Dad to be upset, as there is no one else that can take her place, so we will have two family tables each side of the top table instead.
Both mine and H2b parents are split so for our top table it’s just my dad and his wife and then all other parents have their own tables. Our reason is so that our table isn’t 20 people long!
Why not have a sweetheart table just the 2 of you then everyone else around?
I did it so it was me and my husband and then bridesmaids and groomsmen at the top x
Don't do top table sit at a round table with your guests
Have a sweetheart table just you & hubby..your parents & maids at the nearest tables..
We are not having parents at our table for similar reason. They will all be separate tables in front of our top table. We will still have the best man and m.o.h plus our 2 boys tho x
We are going with a traditional top table even though both sets of parents aren’t together.. so on one side of the table we are having the best man, father of the bride, father of the groom, groom then it will go bride, bride mother, grooms mother, maid of honour.
We have me and hubby and his two kids at top table, everyone else is throughout the room :)
Stick his parents on opposite ends and then your parents and then bridesmaids bed to you and the groom x
On my top table I had my husbands mum n dad and my mum and Dad and also my stepdad on my side then to balance it out we had the best man on hubbys side n bridesmaids sat on a table with out brothers n step brothers n sisters it worked really well (my mum n dad still get on very well) I would honestly have whoever you like it’s your day good luck! Xxx
Rachel Loretta
It’s difficult but I’m keeping my parents apart. This not having them on the top table. So we decided not to have any parents. It will just be us and the bridal party. So 2 bridesmaids and 2 best men. It’s not a top table in. A sense but more of an oval one. Thought it would make it easier, plus it’s only for an hour or so while you eat!
Maybe a sweetheart table or a table for you, hubby, bridesmaids and groomsmen?
We are doing a sweetheart table just for the two of us. Then everyone else on round tables as normal. Means the politics is dealt with!!
We're not having a top table, instead my 2 sets of parents and his parents will each host a table which we will have have one course at each table- gives us a chance to mingle between courses but then also share parts of the meal with each of our parents but avoid the awkward placements at the top table. I'm not the type of person that won't eat so I'll make sure I'm in a seat to eat my course!!
I have this problem, I don’t want the top table to be too big and overbearing on the room with me, h2b, 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, my Mum and partner, his Mum and partner and his dad and wife. We’re only having a small wedding with around 50 people, so i don’t want like half the people all on one long table 😂 we’re considering a sweethearts table with just the two of us.
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