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I’m getting married 2019, sadly one of my grandads passed away when I was...

I’m getting married 2019, sadly one of my grandads passed away when I was two, the other in 2012 and my nan is 2014, I’m 23. Obviously I miss them all but I was very very close with my nan. My h2b who is 24 both grandads passed away when he was very young/ before he was born and his nan when he was a teen, what subtle way at the wedding could we remember/include them kind of? Thanks ladies xx

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Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 23 Nov 2017

You can buy photo lockets to go in your bouquet. If you know their favourite flowers you could select them. Another idea would be having their favourite song playing during the reception or something.

Deborah Cooke
Deborah Cooke 23 Nov 2017

Hi, you could have a photo or there are signs which say 'remembering loved ones today who can't be with us' on eBay and confetti.com, I've also seen candles with names on and what about a bouquet charm with their names or pictures in. Hope this helps as I've been looking as I haven't got my dad as he's passed 😐

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 23 Nov 2017

Picking up on what Deborah has said what about a candle for each of them customised with their name. (Confetti.com do them). Let their light shine bright.

Christina Stevens
Christina Stevens 24 Nov 2017

We had one of these signs made

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Sophie Nairn
Sophie Nairn 24 Nov 2017

We got packets of Forget Me Not seeds as favours from Cancer Research and one of my bridesmaids wrote a little poem asking people to plant them to in honour of those who couldn't be there x

Chloé Roe
Chloé R 24 Nov 2017

My friend whose father passed away had a picture of him on her bouquet and then she had a candle on the bar with a little poem next to it in memory of him. It was a lovely subtle way of including him- she then put her bouquet on his grave the day after and she said that was a very special thing to do.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Candles with pictures at the reception, or have the person doing your dress alterations put a pouch on the inside of your dress so you can carry photos or a piece of jewellery from each?? Xx

Cerys Fears
Cerys Fears 25 Nov 2017

We're having another smaller separate cake for them next to photos

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

You can get bouquet accessories with a photo of them in. Or you could do a small table with a photo of them all with a little poem alongside x

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 25 Nov 2017

Some people have a little table with pictures on to remember loved ones who aren’t here...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We had a table with a sign that said ‘where we came from’ and photos of our grandparents and our parents on their wedding days my nan loved it

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Me and my partner both just have one grandma left alive each, I lost my grandma just 2 weeks ago and will be getting married next year. I've asked if I can borrow one of my grandma's brooches to pin to my bouquet. We aren't sure about how to remember the others.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

You can get a photo frame and put all the family that have passed away in it xxxx

Hayley Leeson
Hayley Leeson 25 Nov 2017

I've this bouquet charm to remember my dad. Im looking tofind a nan and grandad charm to put with this x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

What about a table with framed photos of them all and candles?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I lost my mum a few months before my wedding and had a picture attached to my bouquet. We also had a frame that said 'Because we have loved ones in heaven theres a little bit of heaven at our wedding' there are lots if pages that make things like that xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I put a jar with fairy lights in around the room, with a tag to say who they were for and a little message

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My grandad passed away 5 months before I got married. I had a passport sized photo of him and I pinned it to the inside of the sash on my dress so that he was with me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

A remembrance table, you could find pictures of them and put them in frames, write a beautiful poem and frame it and stand it with the pictures of passed loved ones, you could add some candles as well x

Catherine Burt
Catherine Burt 25 Nov 2017

I had necklaces made that included grandparents birth stones x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We are hoping to get a picture of my fiance his dad to put that in a nice picture frame with something with a nice text and a couple of his army dogtags, but I think any memorable item will be nice.

Samantha Holden
Samantha Holden 25 Nov 2017

I have a similar issue we are having a tree of remembrance

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My brother passed away in 2002 at age 21. His favourite flower was the sunflower so we are putting a sunflower on each invitation we send out and if I can I would like to wear a sunflower brooch on my wedding dress if I can find one.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My cousin had all photos of lost loved ones on a table at the reception so they were there. I wore my grandads ring (my grandma has worn it everyday since he passed) and my nanny’s engagement ring (from my other grandad) as my something borrowed so it was like they were all there holding my hand xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Sara Leigh Morgan some lovely ideas here for grandad and Paul's dad xx

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I named my tables after our grandparents, including a wedding photo and I little history of their wedding xx the one gran that was left had the top table named after her xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We had a personalised candle we lit as part of the service and then had it next to the cake.

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I had a picture of my Nan on my Bouquet xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We had a vase of roses that matched my bouquet and round each rose had the a name tag tied with the name of a loved one. Picture in comments

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We gave a lot of thought to this before my daughters wedding...both families have lost people some many years int the past, some more recently plus a much loved Nan couldn't be there through illness....We decided that for us, memory tables would be lovely but very hard for others..Father of the bride noted in his speech that there where people missing that would have been so proud to have been there & raised a toast to absent friends...Absent friends & family are there in peoples hearts..Like I say very personnel decision..Have a wonderful day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Instead of table numbers use their name with a photo x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My sisyer released butterflies at her wedding to remeber the loved ones that couldn't be there. She also had a song playing in the background whilst doing it. Was very special

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I had pictures added to my bouquet for my uncle and my grandad so they were with me all day ️

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Sammi Taylor
Sammi Taylor 25 Nov 2017

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Linzi Sangster-Hart
Linzi Sangster-Hart 25 Nov 2017

I've seen quite a few ideas of this on Pinterest. Lots of people have had a little table with candles or pictures of those people they have lost with a sign like the one above x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

https://www.facebook.com/SparkleBySarax/
This ladydoes amazing handmade and personalised memorial items

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I had a memory charm put on my flowers with a photo of my grandparents

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Iv got flowers made with the pictures of my parents in so they are both with me all the time and also photos wirh a live heart on a table xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My Grandad's favourite flower was carnation so we had red carnation button holes for the men and pink for ladies xxx

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I had a bouquet charm with my 4 amazing grandparents pictures in so that they were with me as I walked down the aisle and for the whole of my wedding day.

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Sarah Townley
Sarah Townley 25 Nov 2017

https://www.facebook.com/savethedatebylily/

Sarah Townley
Sarah Townley 25 Nov 2017

Save the date by lily on Facebook does gorgeous charms to go on your bouquet on your wedding with pictures of loved ones nothing better then that to have them their with you xxx

Vicki Clough
Vicki Clough 25 Nov 2017

We are having a candal lit at the start of the wedding and its coming with us all day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I had photo brooches attached to the back of my bouquet with all 4 of my grandparents in (sadly I lost them all young and was very close to them) I also had my grandmother's wedding ring tucked inside my bouquet as I was getting married and then wore it on my right hand for the rest of the day

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My sister had a tree of remembrance, she tied cards with the names of all those who are no longer with us. Including her dogs and horse x

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UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I'm having a photo of my dad who sadly passed away and I'm having a button hole made for him and pinning it to his photo frame x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

My auntie bought me a locket that attached to my
Bouquet. Which had a picture of my grandad and nanna x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I was at a wedding few months ago and the couple had this with a candle on a table ️

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Hollie Marie
Hollie Marie 25 Nov 2017

We hung this from or alter and from the top table. We now keep it in our front room. Was lovely x

Eliza-jane Riley
Eliza-jane Riley 25 Nov 2017

We're having their favourite flowers as the bouquet and a pebble heart with their names on the main table

Beck Walker
Beck Walker 25 Nov 2017

My dad and my h2b's husband have both passed away so for a way to remember them we are asking people to donate to charity instead of giving us wedding presents x

Sam leigh Evans
Sam leigh Evans 25 Nov 2017

Dion Evans cute ideas here x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I work at a hotel and someone made a tree type thing with old wedding photos on and dates. Was stunning xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

i had custom shoes made so my deceased mother and grandfather could still "walk me down the isle". I also had a memory table-this included a few photographs, and a few poems, candles and confetti. Top table had a seat reserved for my mum and the family table we had an empty wheelchair at the table with reserved for grandad on. We played my mum and grandads favourite song, my groom also had a tshirt with a picture of my grandad and a quote "may i have this dance" he danced with my grandma to her and my grandads first wedding song :) i also had bouquet charms :)

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Very sorry for your loss. We are a keepsake bridal bouquet service which may be able to help in incorporating your loved ones in a very special way. We offer very small locket photoframes which can be worked into your keepsake bouquet handle and that way your loved one can be walking down the aisle with you on your special day.

Feel free to check out our Facebook page www.facebook.com/varshasbridalbouquets or our website for further details www.thebridalbouquet.co.uk

Emilie Sandelance
Emilie Sandelance 25 Nov 2017

We're having the photos of our parents and grandparents weddings 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I'm using both our nan's favourite flowers in bouqets luckily for us they are our grNdads fav colours so we av been lucky In that respect

Laura Sturges
Laura Sturges 25 Nov 2017

I have little locket type things with my nan and grandads photos in them and they'll be tied to the bouquet. I know some have similar charms on their shoes x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

I made these beautiful baubles for a wishing tree for a bride to represent all her lost loved ones on her big day x

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Lauren Orchard
Lauren Orchard 25 Nov 2017

I'm getting this and putting small pictures of each person around the edge x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We had bouquet charms and then a sign at reception day because someone we love is in heaven there is a little bit of heaven at our wedding xx

Chantel Singleton
Chantel Singleton 25 Nov 2017

Have a table with lights and maybe a sign with all the names on saying remembering people in heaven who can’t be here today x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

Had a bit on u cant see reading “missing you as i walk down the isle”

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Katiejane Davey
Katiejane Davey 25 Nov 2017

My mum brought this & I’m having photos on my bouquet xx

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Leigh-Anne Corbett
Leigh-Anne Corbett 25 Nov 2017

I had a locket attached to my bouquet with photos of lost loved ones x

Nina Theophanous
Nina Theophanous 25 Nov 2017

I had a picture on my bouquet (nan one side, Grandad and nan in the other) x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

We had a little frame and then photos of grandparents/uncles etc who couldn't be here with us. Then at the end of the night, we gave the photos to family members and it was really emotional x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Nov 2017

A friend of mine had a memory tree next to her guest book - it had pics of close family members who cudnt join them, hanging from branches! Myself i had a poem for my father who passed away when i was 16, we where extrmeley close an i had always dreaded marrying without him! However i met my hubby and couldnt imagine life without him by my side! When we wed i had a pic of me an my dad dancing at my aunts wedding(in comments) blown up with a poem printed over the top 'save a spot for him' i had it placed on the top pew of the chapel, where he shud of sat and my mum gave me away - i was walking alone but needed mum on the day!! My maid of honour gifted me a locket with a photo of me and my dad inside and 'walk with me dad' engraved upon it, i wrapped it around my bouquet and it helped me feel close to him as i walked down the aisle! Maybe a mix of the above would work? A different way to honour each missing family member who cant attend? A seat held for one, A poem read for another, a dance dedication maybe? Maybe have someonr mention them all in a speech and have all guests toast those who have passed individually by name in a toast? Its a very personal thing an the only person who can decide the best way to honour them is the person wanting to honour them! One thing i wud say is make it fitting to them if they had a shy personality make it more personal like a pic on ur flowers - if a more outgoing personality then dedicate a dance or song or speech to them! Just personalise it for u and them! x wishing u an amazing day! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

At my cousins wedding the tables were named after people who had passed and so could not be there, was a nice touch x

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 26 Nov 2017

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UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

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Tabitha Hirt
Tabitha Hirt 26 Nov 2017

Online you can get a picture frame with glass stones and feathers in and behind them it says ‘because someone we love is in heaven, there’s a little bit of heaven at our wedding’ it could then go bears the gifts table or by table plan/guest book x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

My grandad passed away 6 month before wedding and we buried my nan 7 days before my wedding such a hard time I had a charm on my bouquet and a candle lit in memory of those that couldn't be with us. My nan had also bought my wedding underwear as a gift before she fell ill so I had that too xx

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UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

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Amber Neat
Amber Neat 26 Nov 2017

We sadly have one grandparent between the both of us so we're having a little display with photos of them all on

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

I had these of my loved ones that have passed, they were attatched to my boquet so that they too walked me down the aisle, the day after the wedding i put mine and my bridesmaids boquets on their gravea xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

We got this little chair to sit at the reception for my husbands gran and my papa. I also had a bouquet charm for my papa. My husband I got him cufflinks with a photo of his gran on them.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

We had the same thing. We bought little frames online and stitched them onto the ribbon that went around the bouquet. It was nice because I could feel them when holding the bouquet and probably helped me not get super nervous with all the eyes :) a few people noticed it and said " it was a lovely idea".

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Nov 2017

We did this, not particularly subtle, but perfect for us with lights and flowers for brightness

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Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 27 Nov 2017

You can get a bouquet or shoe charm with their pictures in or maybe have a table of photographs of them so that they will be there with you? It would be fitting if you had their wedding pictures to display. Lots of lovely poems online as well about people being by your side even though they're not there physically which you could put on the table with the photographs or have as a reading?

Bethany-Leigh Tweddell
Bethany-Leigh Tweddell 28 Nov 2017

What about a 'legacy of love' table somewhere at the reception - Like with photos of loved ones on their wedding days - Honoring their love they shared whilst also remembering them! Hope you find something that works for you! Lots of Love X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

Hi Ladies
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https://www.facebook.com/EnchantedFloristWorldwide/posts/928787850619335

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