So I got married almost 2 months ago, the whole day was incredible and almost perfect there was just one problem. I was really nervous about having to talk in front of 60 people and just before the wedding I started to have a panic attack and worried I’d collapse half way down the Isle, when the doors opened I practically ran to my husband and forgot to walk down the Isle with my dad :( it kills me that my nerves deprived me of that special moment and it can’t move past it, every time I think about the day that’s all I think about. I’ve tried seeing the funny side, told myself it doesn’t matter now because it’s in the past, everyone had an amazing day and said how perfect it was but nothing makes me feel better. Has anyone else had something that put a downer on your day? Any advice on how to make peace with it? TIA x
Hi Tia, so sorry to hear you're beating yourself up about this! Honestly, these things happen - nobody's wedding is going to be 100% perfect (even if they tell you it was!) so I really wouldn't worry. Try to focus on all the amazing moments you had throughout the day!
Talk to your dad about it - explain that you were panicking and how you're feeling, and I'm sure you'll feel better once you've got it out in the open and talked it through with him. The main thing about the day is that you got married and you will have plenty of happy memories to treasure x
Have a chat with your dad, I’m sure he was happy to see you starting your own family and that he was their to share it with you. Anxiety/nerves gets the better of people so don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Just be happy :)
I think it's kind of cute. The fact that your husband is clearly your safe zone. And when everything became to much your instinct was to get to him no matter what.
Make Peace with it by celebrating an anniversary blessing by renewing your vows & having your dad walk you down the aisle ... Xx
You could make a plan to renew your vows on your first anniversary and he could walk you down then? The pressure would be off and it would be like thanking him for his support in the coming year? It wont be the same of course but it could give you that 'moment' you were hoping for?
Could you have a party for your first anniversary where your dad escorts you in? X
I was fine until I started walking down the aisle, my dad took my arm, (he was nervous) my garter was falling down my leg lol . I started panicking , my husband wouldn’t face me as he was as nervous . I felt all dizzy and as tho I was going to pass out . Had to keep taking deep breaths. But after the service I forgot all about it. Then got my wedding dvd!! And all you can hear and see is me deep breathing lol. Still had a great day and really not a lot we can do to change these wee mishaps. Xx
We got married 4 and half years ago. The one thing I would change about the day was relying on my hubby to be to have our paperwork to hand over to our padre (we got married by military padre so had to bring our paperwork with us and then take it back to registry office the following week) and he accidentally left it at home with his aunt who was coming to our reception... she had to take a 40 minute drive to meet him.... our whole day was running an hour and a half late so we lost out on photograph time as then had to travel to our reception venue x
My venue tried to kick us out at 12 despite the fact we had it until 1am. I was fuming and to this day it's all I remember (I got married 14months ago) I've also only just received my wedding photos!
I believe there’s a positive from every negative.. You were nervous/scared and you ran to your husband.. That’s actually beautiful, he obviously makes you feel safe and you needed his comfort. That’s when you know you’ve married the one. That’s all you need to remember, don’t worry about your Dad, he wouldn’t have minded, just that you were safe and happy which is what your instinct told you to do ❤️
Slightly different but I made the decision not to be walked down the aisle by my Dad and have my son do the honours instead. It was my second marriage so as my dad had done the 'giving me away' part many years before I felt it was a bit daft for him to do it again. Instead my 11 year old son walked me in. I look back at the day, it was perfect, but I do honestly feel a bit guilty if not giving my dad his rightful place in the proceedings. I know for a fact that he was proud as punch for his grandson to take that place and doesn't consider it an issue in the slightest, it's only me that feels that way. We also never had a dance together ... somehow that was missed too. However we all had a wonderful day. Talk to your dad, make peace with it, he probably doesn't even think about it in the slightest. He's probably just thrilled you had a lovely day.
It is what it is and sometimes you just gotta accept things for what they are . That moment although not planned or perfect or wanted is what happened so it's now yours embrace it for what it is as it's now part of your story
So you were in a rush to seal the deal with the man of your dreams! Sounds lovely! I kissed my husband half way through saying my vows as it was just impulse.. got a laugh and I worried I’d ruined the big “you can now kiss the bride “ moment but in hindsight it was a genuine display of how much I naturally love him. Your dad will still be a happy man.. happy kids=happy parents x
I think there’s always something that you feel puts a downer on your day. Mine is when I look back on my photos my hair is an absolute mess in some of them (it was a pretty windy day) and I feel it ruins so many pics that would otherwise have been beautiful. Not sure I have made peace with it yet it’s not the same thing I know but just so you know you are not alone in dwelling on something from your day. Could you renew your vows at a later date and have your dad walk you down the aisle again if it keeps bothering you?x
Was you dad with you running dowb the aisle or did you just ho on your own ? Bet your dad understands he been married hed know how nerve racking it is bet your dad was feeling the same. Speak to him long as he was there for the importsnt part which is seeing you say your vovs and knowing you are with the man you love he would be so proud. X my biggest upset was my first wedding my dad wouldnt walk me down the aisle and give me away he came the wedding but my brother had to give me away.
My dad was to proud to let me hire his suit with everyone elses. But he didnt tell me. He passed awzy month after i was married and never got to tell me so i just thought he never wanted too. I never got over the fact i didnt speak to him my wedding day much. But i have learned to realise important thing in lufe. The people were thers to join in with our special day they all enjoyed it and things went wrong but the groom showed up bonus. X enjoy married life speak to your dad im sure he undetstsnds xx
At our wedding the venue forgot to put flowers on our registry table. I only realised it after. Luckily we had an arch and the photographer put my flowers on the table. I am still pissed off about it but It could be worse. Eventually you just stop thinking about these things.
I had to marry my husband without my dad I’d give anything for him to have been there never mind walk me down the isle, just think ur lucky he was here to see it and can actually laugh about it with you, I’m sure he understands,have a small blessing even at a Sunday service and walk the isle again xx