UKbride Member Request 20 Nov 2017

Hello, I’m recently new to the term fiancée let alone bride I’ve been...

Hello, I’m recently new to the term fiancée let alone bride I’ve been engaged since Aprill on my birthday. I have no idea how to plan a wedding I have my shoes but that’s about it sadly I’ve never been one of those girls that dreamt of their wedding day.. to be honest it confuses me we are just planning a registry office and venue for the evening. Just wondered what goes into being a bride? Any help? Much appreciated x

Abigail Summers
Abigail Summers 20 Nov 2017

Pinterest is amazing for wedding day checklists - I’m using them religiously.

You need to decide if you want a religious ceremony I.e. in a church or with a registrar.

If like me your not religious and your having a civil ceremony, my advice would be choose the venue first. That way you can see if they have the facilities for a civil ceremony and if so, you’ll have to book with your local authorities for them to come to the venue on the date and marry you. So my advice before anything is choose your venue and you can work things out from there.

Good luck xx

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 21 Nov 2017

Hi I agree with Abigail :)

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 21 Nov 2017

The thing about weddings is what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another - only do what suits you and will make you happy. If you are struggling to think of what needs to be done, as Abigail has said above Pinterest is fantastic for ideas, also is also a good one. You can find to do lists and all sorts of helpful information. I started with a rough guestlist so I had a rough idea on numbers and then started searching for venues.

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 22 Nov 2017

There is plenty of advice and tips on this site. The best place to start is to sit down with your fiance and decide what type of day you would like.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

Just be yourself!!!! Have what you and your partner want, what you believe in, what you like. have the people who are important to you there, and if you want to personalise things, add some little touches to the day that are significant to you - a colour, a song, a theme. Anything at all. There is no right or wrong way to be a 'bride'. YOU are the bride for that day, YOU are the bride at that wedding. Do and have what makes you both happy Xx

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UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

Try having a skeet through some wedding magazines to get in the bridal groove. Definitely try and pick one up that features real weddings. If you feel like something a little different, rockmywedding and offbeatbride are good for a look. There’s no right or wrong way to be a bride. Just relax and try to enjoy the planning and figuring out what works for you and the other half!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

I got lost trying to make people happy and not myself or my husband in the end we did it our way & was the best day of our lives ! Don't let people stick their nose in ! We got married 1 st September 2017

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Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 23 Nov 2017

Book service/civil wedding venue 1st .... & immediately after evening venue & photographer as 3 most important items ( doesn't have to be expensive professional camera person could be a final photo course person recommend via tutor ) When choosing venue important questions to ask is VAT price included , will they allow corkage so u can bring your own alcohol in as works out cheaper !
Warm wishes for enjoying the journey.... Ask any more questions later if you wish ... Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

I would just say leave yourself plenty of time to plan do things month by month, book big things first you'd be surprised how quickly good venues,photographers,cars and caterers are booked. You can also give notice of marriage 12 months before the date which is something Id reccomend doing as soon as you can cause it's a bit of a pain. There are plenty of good wedding planner lists online , good luck

Teresa Burns
Teresa Burns 23 Nov 2017

Hsve you ever planned a birthday party ? The night time is like one big party. If thats what you want. A bar a dj and then how you want it decorated pinterest is fab with ideas. Dont be overwhelmef with other people wsnting this and that most important keep it real about you and your h2b.
Regisyry office you book appointment choose a date and pay. Turn up on the day.
You can wear what you want weather it be a wedfing dress or suit its your special day xx
The next bit is whst i find hardest. Do you want sit down meal or do you want a more relaxed afyernoon tea and just book for a meal out with inmediste family .before going back to venue for knees up. There are so many different choices you can do. But really you need to decide straight away what you want to spend and what you and h2b want.
Most important enjoy your special day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

Myself and my fiancee are doing it as team - the same way we do everything else! It does annoy me sometimes that suppliers assume the bride is in charge. My advice: do it together and just enjoy making little decisions as you go xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

Just think about things you and your partner like, from food to music to colours to vehicles! Don't get swept into any "normal" bride or wedding stuff unless you both actually like it! There's loads of checklists which are worth looking at as I was so worried that I'd forget something that was actually important but I found that there were a few things that I could just ignore anyway like transport because we had everything in one place.
Most importantly, learn to be a bit thick skinned! Whatever you choose, there will always be someone that disagrees with you or doesn't like what you've chosen :) be strong and just say but I like it and it's not your day!

Nikki Davies
Nikki Davies 23 Nov 2017

Whatever you 2 want is the key. Get weddings for dummies from your library and use the elements you want to. Don't let anyone else hijack your day and enjoy x

Natalia Tranquada
Natalia Tranquada 23 Nov 2017

Sound like me
I got engaged in April this year too. We haven’t chosen a venue or booked a thing yet! I too have wedding shoes and that’s it! I’ll be following this, good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Nov 2017

I'm with you I haven't got a clue my best advice is to literally type 'wedding' in to Pinterest and pin anything and everything you like then go through it all and cut it down to the realistic stuff, see if any patterns emerge and then look in your area to get an idea of how realistic they are.

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2017

I think it is about doing what makes you happy at the end of the day, it's about marrying the person you love and doing it in a way that you enjoy and is memorable to you. I am a first time bride myself, I decided to start by finding my venues, I am having a registry office marriage and a function room for the reception, then I paid the deposits to secure the date I wanted, this has then given me a timescale to get things done in so I don't idle by and let it all slip away from me, then I found a photographer and someone to make the cake, I allocated bridesmaids and picked a colour scheme for the wedding so I could match my bridesmaids and my bouquet to that, then I looked for my dream dress which I'm ordering next year but I've found the one. Don't feel it's a chore as you won't get the fun of the planning, ask others to help, family, friends, married relatives, or even a wedding planner. It's your day though so make sure whatever you do fits you and your partner x


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