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UKbride Member Request 19 Nov 2017

so I said yes to the dress yesterday and now having second thoughts. all my...

so I said yes to the dress yesterday and now having second thoughts. all my family cried at the dress and my amazing nan paid for it, there and then. But I have not slept all night, thinking I've done it for them and not me. I keep looking at the pictures, it has everything I wanted, I'm really not feeling it anymore. I have cried and cried and really don't know what to do.What's worse is I still love the other option and wish I had the guts to go for it. What should I do? I really don't want to upset my nan.

23 Comments
E Wilson
E Wilson 19 Nov 2017

I'm sure if you speak to your Nan she will want you to have what you want. Is it too late to return the dress?

Elluisa Vitale
Elluisa Vitale 19 Nov 2017

I would speak to your nan first as she would want you to be happy with it, it’s your big day!

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 19 Nov 2017

Hi you need to try your dress on again you may just love it again but speak to your Nan :)

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 19 Nov 2017

You may just be realising the reality of it all. Try your dress on again and as Lucy says, you may just love it. If not, speak to your Nan.

Steph V
Steph V 19 Nov 2017

Just speak to your nan, she’ll want you being happy and will understand. Also go back into the shop and explain things and try on both your options again and then you’ll know if you made the right decision or not.
Good luck :)

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 19 Nov 2017

I'd see if you could go to try on your dress again for an accessories appointment so you can try your dress on again and try hair pieces on with it (just an excuse to try it on again if you don't buy anything). I second doubted myself as well as I forgot what it looked like as soon as I left. Trying it on again was the best thing I did and honestly love it now. I think I got kind of swept up in the moment and forgot it all. I honestly think trying it on again would be the best thing to do before seeing if you can cancel it and order the other one.

Chloé Roe
Chloé R 20 Nov 2017

I did exactly the same thing. Give the shop a call and go and try it on again- when I put mine on for the second time I knew it was the one!
When I phoned the shop to ask for another appointment I explained how I felt. They held off ordering it and also gave me different options if I did change my mind so I'm sure there is something you can do if you decided against it and want to go for the other dres.
Speak to your nan, she will understand. You are only going to do this once so go for the dress you love!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Nanna’s are generally really cool about stuff ... just tell her she will be happy as long as you are - and do it before you pass your 28days return period x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

your nan might not even realise it's a different dress if you have certain dress criteria they will be quite similar !! And she will will think you look stunning in anything. Call the shop and change the dress sooner rather than later xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

I did exactly the same I got my dress and then had doubts about it because I was still looking at others .... went back to the shop to try it again and loved it ... felt amazing in my wedding day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Go and try it on again. If you still don't like it, talk to your Nan....you only do it once and it has to be right....I'm sure she'll understand x

Claire Gillick
Claire Gillick 21 Nov 2017

Def go try it on again. I doubt mine every day until i have it back on x

Shanna Daniel
Shanna Daniel 21 Nov 2017

You got a pic?

Dawn Mcintosh
Dawn Mcintosh 21 Nov 2017

Go try it on again. If after that you are still unsure then it is not the dress for you and am sure ypur nan would want you to habe the dress that makes you feel amazing. Am sure she will understand if you change your mind

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

It's your day and it's you wearing the dress. I'm sure your nan will want you wearing what you're happy in.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Try it on again I did exactly the same thing! You’ll be surprised how many people do this xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Talk to your nan. Like a grown up.

Andrea Lawlor
Andrea Lawlor 21 Nov 2017

The exact same happened to me!! My mum paid for the deposit on my dress when she saw it and I had second thoughts about it even looking at the pictures but I just tried it on again there at the weekend for measurements and such and I fell in love with it again!!

Go back and try it on again. If you are still having second thoughts it's not the THE dress. It's normal to feel like you might have made the wrong choice as every bride wants her day perfect and to look perfect xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Maybe try it on by yourself and see how you feel about it. Try it with shoes and accessories as well. If you don't like it I'm sure your nan will understand and want you to feel beautiful and happy on your big day xx

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 21 Nov 2017

Don't have it if your not sure I made this mistake x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Nov 2017

Your day your dress. Change it to what YOU want.
You wont be happy on the day otherwise.
Explain to your nan that you prefer the other and thank.her for buying it.
Tell.her what you have said here.
YOU have to feel happy no matter what everyone else wants

JoJo Russell
JoJo Russell 21 Nov 2017

I bought a dress in the first shop I went to. It was gorgeous but I immediately regretted being so hasty, so I cancelled it on the Monday morning and carried on researching every dress in every collection on the web. I tried tons of dresses on in many shops. Finally I found two dresses that where really close to my dream dress. A shop borrowed the samples for me and I ended up buying one. Then I decided I liked the other one better so emailed the shop to change the order, which they graciously did. Since then I have seen another dress online which is even closer to my dream dress, luckily the shop has been great and they are getting the new dress in along with the one I was going to have so that I can compare. I am a complete nightmare. If you have that gut feeling that you are not 100% happy, sort it! Be a nightmare like me and get the dress you love. I'm trying the new dress on in January, god I hope it's the one 😂

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 22 Nov 2017

I am sure your nan would want you to be happy. Maybe go back to the shop and ask to try both dresses on again and see how you feel looking at them by yourself so you don't have others opinions looming over you. You can always ask the shop if you can exchange the dress - if its not being made yet then I am sure they will allow you.

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