Just wanting a bit of advice really, After the excitement of the engagement we are now looking at actually planning the wedding, only thing is... my H2B is away with work (in a completely different country) for around 6 months and we are getting married in 2020. My H2B obviously wants input into what we book i.e. Venue, caterers etc... but I'm at a loss at to what I can do in the time he's away. My other question is, I really love this one venue that I viewed while he's been away and they have promised me 2017 prices but if we book for when he comes back (so he can view it) it'll go up in price. Can anyone offer a bit of advice for what I can and should do? TIA x
Maybe you can scout venues and whittle it down to a few that you can show him when he is back. I don't think this is one anyone else except for you and your H2B can answer - if he is uncomfortable booking anywhere without seeing it first you may have no choice but to wait and let the prices go up, or if you can show him as much as you can in pictures and he is happy with it then book it. It is important to remember that it is his day as well and both of you need to like the venue.
Could you not FaceTime or skype when you go and view a venue, then his kinda there? Just an idea like make the booking when you for sure his got a spear half hour to have a little nose? Better then nothing I guess
Could you take him around via FaceTime? Xx
Lots of venues have online,virtual tours. You can tell him which ones you're looking at,book the appointments and he can do the tour online,or you can live stream him via FB or Skype during the appointments. Some venues can book up quickly,so if you wait until he's back you may well miss out on your dream venue. Maybe have a little discussion about how you're going to work it out
It is amazing he wants to be involved, from what I read this isn't always the case! In all honesty I would wait, I think the venue seems a little pushy telling you to book or the prices will go up, 2020 is a long way off, things do get booked up in advance but I don't know any venue or supplier that is already got loads in for 2020, I'm sure you have time, especially if you are slightly flexible on the date in 2020
Meanwhile I would just do research, create pinterest board, send him pictures of stuff you like, you can properly start when he is home xxx
Can you FaceTime him while your are there so he can see the venue with you?
We booked in 2015 for 2018 and we got 2016 prices because of when we booked. Might be worth enquiringly what the price increase will be. My h2b would of understood if I’d booked but we knew exactly what we did and didn’t want. I think it depends on your partner tbh xx
We was engaged for 4 years before we even started planning anything. And then we decided to get married within 8 months! And almost everything was booked and sorted within about 3 months. Still got a few bits and bobs but nothing too major! My honest opinion would be to just wait till your partner gets back for anything else so that you can do things together. If your heart is already set on this venue I would tell your partner this and then show him pictures, we had already made our minds up on our venue before viewing it because we loved what we saw on the pictures, hopefully he will love it as much as you do and then you can view it when he’s back xxx
Do you have video calling? You could call him during a viewing and get his opinion? For things you can do alone, what about your outfit, bridesmaids, maybe some aspects of decor (the typically girly stuff)
2020 is a way off, its good to plan early but 3 years is a long time so there really isnt a rush. I personally think it would be a shame to do it all without him when waiting 6 months won't be an issue...yes prices may go up but from my experience our venue prices hardly increased by much at all when their prices changed. He wants to be involved and it is something you should do as a couple. You have plenty of time to plan, make a list of venues you like and wait 6 months to go view them with him
I would be surprised if this changed in 6 months time, they just want your deposit asap...book a viewing for as soon as he is back...keep looking & short list your favs..for my daughters wedding she was really taken with 1 which we revisited & nearly booked & cancelled the appointment with the venue we ended up using...good luck & enjoy the search x
As I was living in the US and my (now) husband in the UK, we had to plan everything at a distance. We did a lot of Skype video calls and such to keep everyone involved in things. It's not for everyone, but it's an option.
Errrr why don't you wait? I don't know why some brides are obsessed with booking stuff so early. It takes the fun out of it and more importantly you might change your mind. I'm getting married next Nov and still have tons to do. Don't stress. Enjoy being engaged. Start looking when he's back and look together 😊
As someone who has to go away for work for long period of time (aka 6 months) it’s a horrible feeling knowing people are cracking on back home and organising things without you, this is supposed to be a special time for you both let him enjoy it as much as you are. My H2B acted like viewing venues was his worst nightmare for a Saturday afternoon but once we were there and chatting to the coordinators etc, he was loving it as much as me and I loved the fact we were both so excited about looking at places.
Go back and do a video tour for him or live video chat so he can see too
Check out venues etc. online, create a private pinterest board and pin the websites of venues you like to it. Invite your H2B to that board. Like that he can always add pins too or review what you have pinned.
I waited. He proposed the day before he went overseas for 6 months. We just waited until he got back to plan anything though I did short list some venues. Wait. It’s much more exciting to do it together. X
Why not wait. It’s your wedding as a couple not just yours, he should be as involved as he wants to be as well.
Hun you can do this .... I did,in fact I did two ceremony’s in two counties while he was away (my OH was away in Sudan for almost a year ) have you explained your situation to the venue you love ? If you book a date for him to view they might hold price for you ... or .... go take iPad etc and do a FaceTime/ Skype video call with him so he is seeing it as you are walking around.
As to everything else ... bombard him with links to anything ... tbh most things you can wait till he’s back , how long of the 6mths does he have left .
He sounds like a real keeper, can you ask the venue to send you a brochure or something he can look at? With ours I also googled the venue and with modern technology a lot of peoples photos are online from their weddings so you can get a feel of what others have done and what the space is like x
FaceTime while at the venue so he can see it...email him all the info and take it from there.