UKbride Member Request 27 Oct 2017

I have a childhood best friend, but i only see her for Christmas/birthday...

I have a childhood best friend, but i only see her for Christmas/birthday (maybe?!), we don't really make the effort to keep in touch much anymore....I'm worried she may be offended if i don't ask her to be a bridesmaid, any advise how i can tell her?

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 27 Oct 2017

Hi I don't think she will be surprised that you don't ask her, just send an invite :)

Zoe Atkins
Zoe Atkins 27 Oct 2017

If she's a friend then she will understand. There are other things she could do if you wanted her to be involved, like a reading or signing the register. But ultimately it is up to you who is involved and in what capacity.

Steph V
Steph V 27 Oct 2017

I'm in the same situation with my twin cousins but at the end of the day it's MY wedding (but they'll be invited to my hen of course.
But If she is a friend she'll understand, no need to tell her that she is not a bridesmaids as this may hurt her feelings. Just send her an invite which she'll appreciate.

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 28 Oct 2017

I don't think it should be an issue but personally I wouldn't say anything about not choosing her or your reasons. Rather just make a big fuss of how pleased you are to see her at the wedding. Maybe put a little note in with the invitation saying you would love to see her there.

Julianne Heffernan
Julie Heffernan 28 Oct 2017

I asked my sister and soon to be sister in law. I think my friends were a little upset but i couldnt choose. I have however involved them in planning the day and asked my closest friend to be witness. X


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