I have asked my sisters to be my bridesmaids, however they're showing little or no interest in our wedding and one has even commented that the world doesn't revolve around me. I've started to feel guilty for even booking the wedding as it just seems a massive inconvenience to them and I'm starting to feel like I shouldn't have asked them, what should I do?
Hi I would tell them that their services are no longer required, do without them :)
This is a tricky one as at the end of the day your wedding is for one day and your sisters are for life so is it worth upsetting them? How far away is your wedding as they may get more interested the nearer it becomes. I've found people are becoming more interested in mine now it's less than a year away. Maybe you could mention to them how you feel but you need to remember that people aren't going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. I personally wouldn't go making any decisions you might regret but I'd definitely consider having a chat with them so that they know how you feel.
I am having the same problem with one of my bridesmaids. Only trouble is its daughter of my H2B. She won't tell me her measurements for dresses and moans about all the ones I am choosing.
How old are your sisters? This may have some bearing on their lack of interest. To be honest, I would hate to be asked to be a bridesmaid (did it once when I was 14) so not all people are excited about it. Try to think about how interested you have been about other people's weddings. I'm sure they will come round eventually.
Chat to them ... & if they say no they don't wish to be bridesmaids ( because they are worrying about costs ) ....ask friends instead ! Xx
Hi I think you should ask a couple of friends instead as most people would be excited to be a bridesmaid. Let em get on with it. Don't let anyone spoil it for you x
If they can't be bothered then don't have them as your bridesmaids. You will be better off without them if they're going to behave like that
Wow, you really shouldn't feel guilty. If they are going to act like that, don't bother with them! Don't have them as your bridesmaids and focus on other things
Tell them to f*ck off! You don't need that kind of negativity the run up to the wedding, you need people that are excited for you. My bridesmaids talked about my wedding more than i did, i didn't want to keep bringing it up and sound like an asshole but they were so excited they wanted to be involved in everything, with the nerves and the stress i wouldn't of coped if they were acting how your sisters are. Weddings should be all about love and happiness, they should bring people together. If you have other people you could ask, i would, maybe talk with your sisters first and see what's wrong, but if they carry on, drop them.
Ask them if they're happy to be bridesmaids and tell them there is no pressure if they don't want to be.
Make sure you still talk about other topics too, not just your wedding (may be where the 'world revolving' comment came from?) - although I appreciate a wedding, your wedding, is a very very exciting thing!
Talk to them! Tell them exactly how you are feeling. If they are not interested then tell them to be just guests and ask you friends instead. Xx
It’s your wedding, not theirs, I didn’t expect anyone to be as invested in it as I was, I had zero input from my bridesmaids, and that was fine-less people to argue with! Did you ask them because you wanted them to do things for you, or because you wanted them with you on the day?
Mine were the same and it got to the point where we just asked them to come as guests... its a lot calmer and less stress now 😂. Just point out how they are making you feel (politely) and say that it might not be so important to them but it is to you and you do have to get things done so if they aren't going to be invested or just have the manors to reply to you then I'd ask them to be guests. X
I'm in the same situation with my younger sister. I was MOH for her wedding 12 years ago. I'm FINALLY getting married but she is now 32 and every time the subject of our wedding comes up she changes the subject immediately. (I personally think she's jealous as she is now divorced and wants her new boyfriend to propose). I've given her the ultimatum that I would love her to be my MOH (I'm not having any other bridesmaids) but it's entirely her choice. I'm just trying not to take it personally and if she doesn't want to do it it has ZERO influence on the wedding.
My wedding was two days ago, i had little/no interest from some bridesmaids it felt like just buying some guests a dress and to me that is not what it should be about. If i had my run up again id of put my foot firmly down and said that it is one very special day in my life, that i will never get again and i want you to be a part of it, if you dont care or would rather just be a guest then i had so many other people that were involved and seemed much more excited than even i did, whom i wished has been bridesmaids. So don't just take it, you'll regret it at the end of the day they should be happy and excited for you!!! X
Tell them how you feel, they might not realise how they are coming across. At the end of the day this is your big day, no one elses so dont ignore the issue and try not to let things get you down.
When is the wedding? Is it this year or next year? My bridesmaid aren’t that excited yet however they said they’ll be more excited nearer the time as ours is next year and a long way away still. X
Sibling jealousy. Actually it is your wedding and the world does revolve around you till.after they day.
Ask.them if they do.or do not want to.be bridesmaids. If not get a friend
Don't bother then? You can pick your friends but not your family! Have people you want to have because you want them, don't do it out of obligation
I feel the same and even though other family members have said its because my weddings two years away it still doesn't feel fair to me or I get the 'it's your wedding I'll wear/do/say what you want' it's one of the most important days of my life and I have chosen my sisters to be such massive parts of it and one doesn't seem interested at all to the point I just can't keep trying anymore. It hurts so much I don't think people understand but I know it will be crazy different when it's time for them to get married. I have decided there is only so many times I can try talking to people about my wedding desperately wanting them to be interested, it will come to the point where if people don't make the effort they will get left behind and you should Look at it the same way. I wish you and your H2B all the best in your married life together xxxxx
Ur sisters should be happy for u and ur husband 2be and tell them at their service are not welcome no more
Just ask them straight out if they want to be involved or not! Tell them how they are making you feel
Not beung mean or anything but tell tgem to.piss off its ur day hun dont.let anyone bring u down dont feel guilty ur the bride if they cant be happy for u then tell them to do one xx much love hun
Your sisters should be happy for you no matter how far away the wedding is. My sister's have both pestered me about my wedding and booking it for months. I haven't asked them to be bridesmaids yet because I know they will get ahead of themselves with everything and we still have over 2 years to wait.
It sounds like a huge jealousy thing - I know my brother will be like that with me and it won't be about him for once