Steph V
Steph V 17 Oct 2017

Hi, I am newly engaged and already trying to work out budgeting, we have...

Hi, I am newly engaged and already trying to work out budgeting, we have found our ideal venue which is in our budget, only thing is they are not licensed for weddings as this is outdoors with a marquee. We are looking for an inexpensive way to get around this. I have always dreamed of walking down the aisle with my dad and all our family around, obviously we are not able to do this legally. The nearest registry office is 20 minute drive away, do you think guest will mind if they wait around playing games (or drinking) while we legally marry with doing the blessing first? Would love to hear some suggestions. TIA

27 Comments
Lizzy Carter
Lizzy Carter 17 Oct 2017

You could have some guests with you at the registry office and then more join at the venue. Or do your ceremony on another day? x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 17 Oct 2017

Registry offices as a venue are ridiculously expensive unless you do the limited ceremony which is under £100 but only allows 4 people - the bride, groom and two witnesses. You could do that prior to the wedding on the morning or even the day before.

Steph V
Steph V 17 Oct 2017

Thank you for your responses, I think we'll have to look into doing it at the registry office with the two witnesses. I don't know why we can't get married where we like, would make things a lot easier lol x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

I know people who got married a few days before then just had a ceremony for guests

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 20 Oct 2017

Go for it

They all wait while you have pictures anyway 😊

Carla Cumiskey
Carla Cumiskey 20 Oct 2017

This is exactly how I want to do Mine! 😁😍

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

Why not invite guests to.registry office and then all go to venue for reception. 20.mins away isn't far and everyone can share in your ceremoney

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

Cheapest way .. pop to registry office for legal ceremony then have a hand-fasting as your main all out do , as this has no legal basis you can have anyone conduct proceedings

Nathalie Hessing
Nathalie Hessing 20 Oct 2017

We are trying to get our venue making a license for weddings (big backyard of my fiance his parents - his mom is marrying us) if we fail to obtain a license, we properly pop to the register office the day or morning before our dream ceremony without telling others. X

Samantha Reason
Samantha Reason 20 Oct 2017

I wouldnt mind if that was me tbh. I want a quicky wedding too and if everyone wants to go out drinking after, i wont say no to that 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

Go for a humanist ceremony, the officiant I am let to believe is licences themselves as opposed to the venue having a licence. I’ve know of folks to have humanist ceremonies in their back garden or in a marquee in a field.

Natalie Eames
Natalie Eames 20 Oct 2017

Why not do the registry office the day before with your close family and witnesses and then have a celebrant do a ceremony the next day as the wedding with dad walking down aisle etc. This then would be your wedding day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

Go to registry office whenever you feel like it and then get a celebrant on the day, will still perform a ceremony with walking down aisle etc but will be all your details etc xxx

Steph V
Steph V 20 Oct 2017

We've looked into having a humanist but as our country don't see this as a legal practise we'll have to still do the registry office wedding but we do want to have a humanist for the actual 'wedding'. I'm quite traditional in the way I want my dad to walk me down the aisle and not see my H2B before our wedding but I've grown up in the countryside so I want to appreciate and incorporate the outdoors in my wedding. I really appreciate these suggestions, will be thinking more about this 😊 X

Sammi Taylor
Sammi Taylor 20 Oct 2017

My mum had this issue. What they did, was they got married during the week with a few close friends and family, or even just with no one there. And had a fake wedding ceremony on the day, no licence needed because it's not the real deal. Nobody needs to know and is a lot cheaper. You just pay someone to do a pretend ceremony and wear your dress and everything there :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

You could always do the legal bit a day or so before, and then have a blessing?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

8

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

My brother did the registry with just the wedding party in the morning, followed by the blessing and wedfing reception. It worked well (my sis-in-law had two dresses: a white summer dress and the proper wedding dress for the blessing)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Oct 2017

We are having a humanist ceremony and having legal wedding a couple of days before. Since we booked our venue it has actually acquired a license but my heart's set on a hand fasting ceremony x

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 20 Oct 2017

Get a celebrant :) we are using Bex Waldron of White Rose Ceremonies, she and her team are amazing!

View More Comments

Comment

Before we add your comment, please: log in to an existing UKbride account or join UKbride
Why Join?