I'm in the process of sorting out my to-do-list and other bits and bobs but...

There are some nice poems online to ask for money for a honeymoon or vouchers. I think it sounds less cheeky with a rhyme :) x

We have the same dilemma but don't like the mention of expecting presents or money. We have decided not to mention either as we feel our friends will ask what we would like and we can tell them then. I think most people nowadays don't want their money to be wasted and would rather ask and get it right.

Hi vouchers are a good idea :)

Vouchers are a good idea. I am going to be using a poem that says something along the lines of we are happy if you just turn up but if you want to get us a gift.... x

Vouchers are a good idea but only if they are from somewhere you would use them. If I got John Lewis I would hate it.

vouchers are a good idea :)

Do out a poem asking for money but put a line in it stating about vouchers and on the back of it put in a list of places for vouchers to be bought

We've put a little poem in ours that basically says we've lived together for a while, we've already got stuff for the house, we just want them to be at the wedding to celebrate with us but if they wanted to give a gift then money towards our honeymoon is what we want (it sounds nicer than that ) but basically just states we want them there more than anything but if they want to give a gift then we want money! Last thing we need is about 50 wedding day photo frames/ Mr and Mrs champagne flutes, I know it's the thought that counts but what are you supposed to do with them after the wedding? one or two is nice but not a whole bunch of them A girl I work with got honeymoon vouchers so that could be a good idea ️

Why do people always write posts like this?! I think it’s downright rude to expect anything!! Don’t get me started on the poems asking for money to pay honeymoons either!!! Where’s the time when people married for love and not just for presents/money/vouchers!!!

I'm getting married next year and wouldn't dream of asking for vouchers/cash etc.
We will be grateful for whatever people decide to buy us whether that be gifts or vouchers etc.

We’ve put a poem on our invites asking for money towards our honeymoon ... but only if people feel the need to ...

I'm not saying anything. Anything gift given is appreciated. If anyone asks I will tell them x

That is so helpful as feel uneasy asking.

I am setting up a gift list with John Lewis...however i am going to put a note saying "if you do not wish to purchase of the gift list the bride and groom would like money"

I asked for money lol actually we asked if people wanted to give us a gift the contribute towards our honeymoon. X

We are trying to find a nice way of asking for meal out vouchers and experiences, we live together and have most things we want - we love days out and creating memories so we would like experiences and meal vouchers, that's what we are going to ask for.... just to find a nice way of asking?

Me and my partner have been living together for 5 years so we have everything so on ours (because his family in particular are the gift giving kind of family as are some of our friends) were putting that we would love for them to spend the special day with us but if they're thinking of getting a present that vouchers or money would be better as we already have everything and could be used for us all to have a family weekend or something etc. (In a nicer way) wed prefer no gifts but we know what his family are like, they like to celebrate with money gifts etc.

I have only been to one wedding where there was no gift list included and it was an absolute nightmare trying to find something appropriate.
Traditionally people never lived together until they were wed so a gift list helped to get the newly weds started on filling their home with essential items. Today most couples are already living together and have those essential items. I would much prefer to give vouchers or money than something that will gather dust.

I think every couple should gauge the situation based on the knowledge of their family and friends. I have been to a great amount of friends and family's weddings in recent years and there has always been a poem for either a gift list or honeymoon contribution. I have never once been offended or expected any different personally.
Most of my friends have paid for the wedding themselves, and seeing them struggle to save the cash to pay for it, I am more than happy to contribute to their honeymoons or give them money towards something they would like, but otherwise couldn't afford.
I think judge each situation differently. No-one on this forum knows your friends and family and how they'd react or whether they would think it's appropriate. So use your judgement to decide I reckon.
And remember the first rule of wedding planning... you will never please everyone. Good luck x

I love buying presents when going to a wedding I think a little poem or rhyme sounds nice I know presents arnt expected but it's a lovely feeling to get a gift or pop a few pennies in a card to perhaps help towards a honeymoon xx

We are using a company called giftforus. X

We are the same but we are asking for money check online and pintrest you can get some really nice poems asking in a non cheeky way and you could include a list with the invites of places you would like vouchers for xxx

last 5/6 weddings ive been to have asked for a donation to honeymoon through a quirky poem n tbh thats fine id rather ppl enjoy a honeymoon than buy them something that prob ends up in a cupboard

We didn’t ask for anything, no guestlist, no note in with the invite, because we didn’t get married for gifts!!
All of our guests knew us well enough to know we’ve been together a long time and lived in our own home for 3 years. Many gave money, which was much appreciated but not in any way expected!! X

We didn't need anything for our house as we had lived together for 7 years so we asked for money towards our honeymoon. We put a poem in with our invites.... it read;
The most important gift to us is you sharing in our day,
But if you'd like to contribute in some other way,
We would love some extra cash to put into our pot,
For our special honeymoon after we tie the knot.

We have a gift list thing for our honeymoon with Virgin so people can donate to that

There are a lot of poems on line you can use. We asked, if people wanted to get us a gift, to put money towards ate honeymoon. If you want vouchers for a specific place though you should specify where. Xx

It's much more fun to say nothing, and receive 10 toasters and a dozen kettles ;)
Seriously though, I don't think asking for cash or vouchers in lieu of presents is unacceptable these days, as many couples already have most white goods before they marry.

I didn’t send anything to my guest about gifts just the invitation

We were unsure what to do so added a bit explaining that their presence at our special day is enough but we know some will want to get us something so as we have our own house we have everything we need but have a small gift list for the more traditional guests and suggested money towards our honeymoon as another option. Kind of covered all bases. The gift list is just a few nice items to add to or replace things we already have.

We have added a poem similar to other people's post. I don't think it's rude, when friends have asked for cash or vouchers to their weddings it's helpful, as I never know what to buy!!!

I putting this poem in my invite

We asked for money towards our honeymoon. Its ok to say you prefer money over gifts.

Kerry do what you want Hun and tackle no notice of anyone else xxxx