My H2B doesn't speak to his sisters and doesn't want them at our wedding. I get on with his sisters and would love them at our wedding. My sister and I also fell out a few years ago. I feel if our sisters aren't there on our special day, we will regret it later down the line. Has anyone else had this situation? What did you do? I've told him I am inviting my sister and told him my reason. I am tempted to invite his sisters and not tell him.
Hi I think you need to talk this over some more :)
I agree, you need to ha, be further discussions with your H2B. Ultimately I think this needs to be his decision; if he is so against having them there then I think you need to accept this - remember it is his day too. Whatever you do - do not invite them without telling him, it’s only going to cause arguments later down the line and the one time you really don’t want the argument is on your wedding day, not to mention this would be a big break in trust if you went behind his back x
I think talk it over some more. I think you would regret it. My h2b really want a his brother to come. They haven't spoken in years and my h2b keeps trying. We have sent a save the date to him so he knows well in adavnce. We will also send an actual invite. We just think it better to invite him and he makes the decision not to come. We won't have any regrets as we tried.
I think you should both speak about this more, as you really don't want your h2b falling out with you over inviting them with him agreeing to it. I've got a similar situation with my own sister.
No way - it's his day too and I would be furious if someone did this to me. I would talk further with him and say we'd probably regret not inviting them down the line and as it is... he'd look the bigger person for inviting them. Your wedding day is SO busy, he probably wouldn't even really see them there!
maybe you should arrange a meeting beforehand with them all so your h2b can talk to his sisters and see if it can be worked out first. I think he will be very upset if you do that behind his back.
Id never invite without telling him. Im not having one my sister and id be fuming if my other half invited her on the sly x
Umm if the boot was on the other foot I would be fuming your basically going to lie o your future husband and that could mean your having words on your wedding day cause you went behind his back... I got married last year and I regret having half the guests I did and wish I didn’t invite some people and I know my husband feels the same! Is your husband don’t want them there then don’t invite them or have another little word! But I think it would be very wrong for you to do anything behind his back!!
You can't go inviting his family to the wedding without telling him if he has said he doesn't want them there...it's his wedding too and It isn't all about what you want. Sorry but they are HIS sisters first and your friends second and if he has such strong reasons to not want them there then they shouldn't be invited...if he finds out you've gone behind his back I'm sure he won't be happy. You might be right that he will regret it in the future but if that's a risk he wants to take then it's up to him.
U can't go behind his back, agree or not, u need to abide by his wishes, I'd have major issues with my h2b If he did that behind my back irrespective of his reasons, tell him what u feel and think but ultimately as it's his sister's, it's his decision
As long as you and your h2b are there for your special day that's the important people.
My husband didn't want my best friend at our wedding, I invited her anyway an he got over it within minutes, because he was too busy partying and celebrating, if someone's that important to you then do you really want to compromise
Personally whether you are friends with his sisters or not I think you need to respect your husbands decision for not wanting them there.
If it was the other way round I’m sure you’d be very upset if your husband invited someone who you don’t want at the wedding
I wouldn't, I have strong feelings about some of my family and if they turned up at my wedding without my consent I'd hit the roof and it week old spoil the day. I wouldn't want to be getting married while I'm annoyed at my fiancé for going behind my back. I'd respect his wishes personally.
Crikey! Definitely don't invite his sister's without him knowing! Last thing you want is to upset your new husband on your wedding day! Like someone else said. They are his sister's first before they were your friends. My advice is to sit him down and talk to him about the reasons why he doesn't want them there. Maybe suggest that by inviting them might break the ice between them. Don't force the issue. But please don't invite them without him knowing. That will be opening a whole can of worms. You want your marriage to start with trust. That would make for a very bad start.
I didn't invite 3 of my 4 siblings, I don't regret it at all
Great way to start a marriage
Its his wedding too, I didn't want to invite my husbands mother but we did because it was what he wanted to do, she showed her true colours in the end but it was his decision, if he doesn't want them there then its up to him to decide. I would talk to him a bit more about it first and discuss the reasons why he doesn't want them there, then let him make the decision x
I wouldn't invite them without speaking to him first as this could cause an argument between the two of you which is not a good start to a marriage !
My older brother isnt invited to the wedding and if anyone tells him when it is they wont be coming either. They've all been warned.
If he's said he doesn't want them there you have to respect that. It's his wedding too.
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