Hen do situation me and some family members have planned a couple day trip away, we messaged about 15 people and only 4 are saying they can go, we’ve even found it half price to what it should have been and is quite cheap now my problem is I’m getting moaned at by other members of the family saying I shouldn’t go and plan something everyone can go to, am I in the wrong to still carry on with the plan or should I scrap it and do something else, even tho still not everyone would be able to go? This break is the first time in 9 years I would be away from my kids and probably the last until they move out ???? so was quite excited but now just don’t know what to do Thanks for any help and sorry it’s so long x
It's your hen do. Personally I'd still go. Have another at a later date for those who couldn't attend x
Hi do what you like the ones that are moaning are probably the ones that wouldn't turn up anyway :)
I think you should do whatever makes you happy, it sounds like you are long overdue a break and it is YOUR hen do! Whether 4 or 15 people go the ones who really matter will be the ones who are there and you will have an amazing time! Don't change your plans to suit others, it's your wedding so your decision! Xx
You can always have more than 1 hen do
GO! like you said as a mum you rarely do this. have a break,let your hair down.
I'm planning in doing the same. small group to go away and then a local night out with a few more friends. x
Its your hen do, I would do what you want and carry on. If they cant make it thats not your fault x
Still go with those that can as not everyone will be able to go to everything. I would do this but then also plan a night out or something with the people that can't go so they still get to enjoy the hen experience.
It's your hen do....do what YOU want to do. So what if only 4 go. It will make it more intimate and the most important people will be there with you xx.
Go and have a great time then have a get together with everyone on a more budget friendly night out at another point!
Guess what it is you that is getting married so it is you're hen do. Do what you want not what everyone else wants. Hen dos nearly always has drama
Agreed with what others are saying. Have more than one hen do! Go and do what you want to do, it's your hen do and nobody else's. Don't let them tell you what to do. If they don't want to attend then screw them. Just have one around the town at a later date that everyone can attend to stop all the moaning. Have your break away from being mam that you want. And this way you get two hen dos! Nobody complains and you get a break. Winning all around!
Have 2 hen do's xx
At the end of the day it’s your hen night but why not have 2? My husband went away for a couple of days and then for the people that couldn’t do he had one around our area so it pleased everyone and if no one could go to either they couldn’t moan about it
Go away I had the same problem when planning my sister's, it ended up it was the first she had a break from her kids in 12 years. When we got back I had something small in the house for those that couldn't go away was just a few nibbles and an Ann summers party with few drinks still then was only those that went away plus 3 others. People like to talk just carry on with your planning you deserve it x
Not everyone can afford the cheapest of places these days. Go.with those who can and arrange a meal somewhere on a night out with those who.can't when you get back.
My future DIL.is having 2..A.weekend in Liverpool.for the younger onrs and a meal for the older ones and go out somewhere after
Go! Not everyone can go to mine in Edinburgh but it's where I really want to go for mine. So I'm doing it.
Have two lol. Have your trip away then do something local that everyone else can come too. Xx
Go!!!!!
I am having 2, a weekend away a couple of months before, and then a local more low key one a couple of weeks before. Lots of people can’t make the weekend for many reasons, or it’s just not their thing - and I totally respect that. But it is what I would like to do, so am going with those who can & who want to.
Good luck & have fun x
It’s ur time, do what makes u happy. I can tell u from personal experience- If u try make everyone else happy, then ur’ll be missable. Good luck and enjoy ur break. Have a wonderful wedding.
Go and tell the family members that you will plan something else thats cheaper for others if they want to go to that xx
I’m planning a few days abroad (only the 2nd time I will have been abroad and 1st will have been 12 years previous) and that would only be for approx 8 of us and not my mum in law to be so was planning like a race night at home nearer to my actual big day. I’d say it’s YOUR hen you do what you want x
I say go! It's your hen do and if people want to be there enough, they will make the effort to be there. You can do this one and then if you are worried about it, organise a meal/night out with everyone else - As everyone is saying this is YOUR hen do! Don't let any influence or guilt trip you into changing the plans xxx
Go! So what if others can't!!! I'd jump at the chance for a holiday for mine!! Anyway its only the hen do not the wedding ;) you'll have a blast either way!!
Your Hen Doo is for YOU! Do what you want to do, regardless of who will or won't be able to go. Do something like a girls night in/out for the people that can't go & then go away & enjoy the break. My Matron of Honour is organising mine & has openly said to everyone she is planning something I will enjoy regardless of what everyone else thinks/wants to do! It's the 1 time we get to be selfish as mums, our Hen Doo & Wedding Day, make the most of it I say
Go! I wanted a girlie break in Amsterdam. I found a great deal and thought it would be great to have my closest girls with me...I have caved and I’m no longer going because I got moaned at and I’m really regretting it...there’s also nothing stopping you having a second hen party where everyone else can join either :) x
It's your hen do what you want x
Go!! No matter what you ain’t going to keep everyone happy. Plus this way you can have two xxx
Go and enjoy yourself. I have a diverse group of friends and know they won't all go on the same hen do. So I'm picking what I want and having a simple do for everyone to make it to. If they can't then I'll just see them at the wedding. You can't please everyone.
Go!!!
Go if they choose not too then it's their loss. Go snd enjoy yourself with the people who can be with you I'm sure you will have a great time. If others who can't go want to celebrate with you maybe have a night out local when you get home. But don't not go away x
GO!!! Enjoy every moment and when you get back have a meal or a spa day with your other friends and family. Don’t miss out on any opportunity for your own happiness!
It's your hen do! Do what you want. It makes a good excuse to have a 2nd hen do for the ones who couldn't make the trip. X
Who's hen do is it..........?! Enjoy your weekend x
Do both!!!
GO!!! I had planned mine abroad but in the end only 2 came as 1 fell pregnant. We just had a normal girly weekend away then I had a proper hen do when I got back.
Id definitely still go!! Its YOUR hen not theirs. If they are really bothered, choose a night when you get back where you can all go to a meal that has say dinner and dancing. Or find a local ladies night event and do thay too! You only get married once! So treat yourself to two things!! Xxx
Do what you want to do. It's your hen do. You can't please all of the people all of the time.
Do it anyway!! I wanted Amsterdam for mine. Ended up doing something closer to home (don't get me wrong I still had a great time) and still it was the same people that wanted Amsterdam that attended. No one else. I understand everyone has money issues. And not everyone will want to fork out for it, this why you should be selfish. It's the one time in your life no one should judge you for thinking of yourself and only yourself as it is your hen do. Not everyone will agree, but it is an occasion all about you after all x
Its your hen do. If you want to go then go hun xx
Have 2?
Go! Just do a night out/in aswell xx
its ur day after all so u should do wot u want its ur choice, those who wants to something else let them u can still have fun with those who really care about u hint hint u will have monwy left over so go and enjoy urself and dont regret anything good luck hun xx
You should go away don't change your plans. Your family should find the money and want to come x
Just go! If people want to moan let them moan. It's your hen do and the people that want to be there will be there. Enjoy the break why you can xx
You can't please everyone! It's YOURS so you do what YOU want otherwise you'll just be miserable! If people are whinging about it that says alot about them in my opinion.
If the bride is happy and wants to go away then go ahead and do it it's her day have another hen night at your home town later this is what we did for my daughter everyone happy.
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