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UKbride Member Request 10 Oct 2017

For various reason and things that have happened I need to fire 2 of my...

For various reason and things that have happened I need to fire 2 of my bridesmaids but don’t know how to go about doing it?

15 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 10 Oct 2017

Hi JUST TELL THEM STRAIGHT THEY ARE NO LONGER REQUIRED :)

Claire Hellewell
Claire Hellewell 11 Oct 2017

If it's something they've done then I wouldn't worry about telling them just tell them why.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I'm having the same problem.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

“ thank you for your time but your services are no longer required “

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I had to do this! It was awful! But i just didn't feel close to her anymore and didn't want her to be stood up with me on my wedding day! So i pre wrote and planned what I wanted to say.. but then when I had organised to meet her she bailed... As per usual! So I ended up telling her over messenger! And I'm glad I did cause she got really annoyed with me and got her mother involved! :/ she had paid for her dress and all she cared about was getting her money back (which I was happy to do) but ended up asking my maid of honour to do the swap cause I was worried she would be mean and being 25 weeks pregnant I couldn't handle the stress! :( xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

If it’s for financial reasons: tell them that - they should understand

If they did something bad: tell them that - either that it’s over or that you still want to be friends but don’t want any bad feelings or unrest on the day - they should understand

If it’s weird political stuff that’s hard to explain: tell them it’s for financial reasons....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Set your living room up like the apprentice. Sit them all down. Give them a run down of their performances. Do the YOURE FIRED! With the pointing and ev. Congratulate remaining bridesmaids on progressing to next round.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Keep seeing posts like this. I can't imagine ever choosing a bridesmaid that I would later not want. It's bizarre! I chose my best mate of 20 odd years as my Matron of Honour and although we don't even live in the same country and we sometimes go years without seeing each other, I know 100% that she was a perfect choice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Jolene Standen this made me think of you xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

You aren't employing them so can't sack them. Be a better friend.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I have had every nightmare going with bridesmaids. !
The finished line up is worth it tho lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Things change people change if you no longer want your bridesmaids get rid, it's your special day and it's up to you who you share it with.. You don't want to live regretting it

Teresa Burns
Teresa Burns 12 Oct 2017

Just be honest with them all can do. It's your day remember that's important thing Yours and hubby 2 be day .

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Oct 2017

I got de-bridesmaided (and de-friended) because I booked my wedding for 3 month before my friend's. Haha!

Kay Sanders
Kay Sanders 15 Oct 2017

It's your day, if you no longer want them as your bridesmaids it's totally your choice. X

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