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UKbride Member Request 10 Oct 2017

Hi, I have a bridemaid question. My fiance is having 1 best man and i have...

Hi, I have a bridemaid question. My fiance is having 1 best man and i have already got 1 bridesmaid. Ive got 3 or 4 other really close lifelong friends and would love them to be part of the wedding but not wanting the numbers to look reslly unbalanced. Can anyone think of other ways they could be inluded in the wedding? I was thinking of asking them to do a reading each but is 3 readings a bit too many? Any other ideas? Thanks

28 Comments
Sharon McGuire
Sharon McGuire 10 Oct 2017

It doesn't matter these days if you have equal numbers of bridesmaids to groomsmen, I've seen so many weddings where the bridesmaids have outnumbered the groomsmen, sometimes by more than double. Only once have I seen it they other way round. We've got one best man and two bridesmaids, just do what makes you happy and don't worry about what looks right or wrong. If it's right for you, the that's all that matters.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 10 Oct 2017

Hi I agree with Sharon it is really up to you :)

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 10 Oct 2017

Its totally up to you but a reading is nice too. I think 3 readings is pretty standard. I have been to plenty that have 3. They could also be your witnesses? x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

My husband had 2 best men and 1 usher I had 11 bridesmaids lol x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

Sounds great. Can any sing? Do a nice song that means sonething to you and your H2b

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

My fiancé is having 2 best men. I’m having 3 adult bridesmaids and 4 flower girls. Did imbalance, have your dream day!

Lucy Glew
Lucy Glew 11 Oct 2017

My h2b is having 1 best man and I am having 3 bridesmaids I don't see the issue. Does it really matter? I hve never heard of them been equal numbers 🙈

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

I would just have them as your bridesmaids. Its usual for the bride to have a few!

Mark Humphreys
Mark Humphreys 11 Oct 2017

I'm having 2 bridesmaids 1 flower girl and he's having 1 best man.... we have 5 ushers cos between us we have 5 sons and 2 daughter's

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

I had 6 bridesmaids and he had 1 best man ... doesn't matter..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

Depending on where your getting married there may be rules in the number of readings. We are only allowed 2.
In regards to bridesmaids. Have as many as you want. I have 5. My fiancé has 1 best man and 2 ushers

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

We get married 3 weeks on Saturday and I have 5 bridesmaid and my hubby to be only has his best man. He didn’t want ushers but I wanted all the girls as bridesmaids so it’s completely your choice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

My partner is having four best men and I’m having two bridesmaids. I don’t think it matters how many just that they mean a lot to you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

I had 5 bridesmaids and there was only 1 best man xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Oct 2017

Unless the numbers really bother you, it's not a huge issue to be unbalanced. My (now) husband had just a best man and I had 4 bridesmaids. Everything still flowed wonderfully and all looked fine.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I had 9 bridesmaids (6 kids 3 adults) and we only had a best man. No ushers etc x

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 12 Oct 2017

Don't worry about odd numbers , I had 5 bridesmaids .... & 1 other friend to be a witness & 1 to do a reading ....
X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I thought a wedding was about marrying the one you love and sharing that day with those closest to you, not about how it looks.. if it's unbalanced . Really? Have those that important to you, irrelevant if they 'balance'.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Im having 8 bridesmaids,plus 2 flower girls,a ring bearer, 2 page boys, 2 best men and 2 ushers. We have just included the people we wanted to include xx

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 12 Oct 2017

We are having moh. 3adult bridesmaids &3 young 1s... 1 best man.. ringbearer. & both mothers are walking down isle with me too.. (to control the kids.. lol..)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

It's your wedding have as many bridesmaids as you wish, make one a maid of honour, and have fun, and 3 readings may be a bit much, although I have seen up to 6 readings. but they were quite religious.

Hala Al-Chalabi
Hala Al-Chalabi 12 Oct 2017

Readings, witness

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

The groom usualy has 1 best man anyway it dosnt realy matter how many bridesmaids you have maybe your hubby to be can have an usher a best man and a man to do a reading then you can have your friends as bridesmaids

Emma Setterfield
Emma Setterfield 12 Oct 2017

I'm having 6 bridesmaids and my fiancé is having 1 best man and 2 ushers, my mum is also walking me down the isle so a lot more women than men, it's your day you get to choose how you want it to be 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

Is one of them really confident and outgoing? Maybe one person can take on a role of master of ceremonies and introduce you into the room at the reception and announce the speeches? Then the other two can do readings in the ceremony?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Oct 2017

I’m having 2 bridesmaid 5 flower girls and my other half has one best man and 3/4 usher he hasn’t fully decided.... it’s up to you it will be fine and will not look unbalanced at all xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Oct 2017

My partner considered use
Hers as part of my groomsmen so we had 5 vs 4 so she added a bridesmaid, witnesses are a good option to, 3 readings could be a bit much but depends how long they are going to be

Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 15 Oct 2017

We're having 4 readings - 2 religious and 2 contemporary

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