So today was the first time we got to go and see a venue which we both really liked I had such expectations and was so excited after a 20min bus ride and half hour walk as sat nav took us wrong way lol. We finally found the venue let’s just say the signs were hanging of and were so small it was unreal, we walked up the long drive way which was nice and autumnal to see the venue which to say the least was awful. But sometimes places look better inside so we get in was all dark and very depressing met the wedding planner and oh my gosh she was so rude!!! For the first time in my entire life I felt ashamed to be a lesbian and ashamed of my tattoos and piercings she looked down her nose at everything on us even down to my engagement ring!! She made my partner feel equally ashamed of our relationship we had expectations of how today was going to go, she gave us a price showed us one room and basically kicked us out. It took longer to get there than what we spent with her,so we left feeling depressed and ashamed of who we are which we should never feel and especially my partner It brought back a lot of bad memories for her! Shall deffo not be recommending them to anyone ever!!!
Oh wow I am so sorry to hear you went through that! I hope your next visits go better x
Thats absolutely shocking, I'm sorry you had to go through that :(
People like that certainly don't deserve your custom, or anyone elses for that matter. I'm sure youll find somewhere you both love to celebrate your special day. x
Thankyou ladies have a wedding fair on sat fingers crossed will go good x
Sorry to hear this, the wedding planner should be ashamed of themselves, they sound awful! You on the other hand, have nothing to be ashamed of, never be ashamed of who you are or who you love. You will find the perfect venue, and have the most amazing day. x
Outrageous! I'm so sorry you had such a terrible experience, she should be ashamed of herself, you and your fiancee certainly have nothing to be ashamed of. Spend your money elsewhere with people who will make you feel as special as you deserve. You will find the place that's right for you, keep smiling x
Hi only looked at the place we booked the people were really friendly :)
That is disgusting! She should be ashamed of herself, not you and your partner. Silver lining is you found out before giving them any of your money. Do they have trip advisor? Leave a review on there. Then take a deep breathe and carry on looking for your perfect venue. x
Thankyou all for the lovley comments that’s what I said to my partner I shall deffo be leaving them a very bad review on trip advisor, a few other people have said how rude they are also but it’s worth always giving them a chance. Off to a wedding fair this weekend so looking forward to that and looking at our second venue so fingers crossed this one goes good x
That's horrible no one should be made to feel like that. If I were you I would complain to the venue. It is not acceptable. I'm sorry you had to experience that and hope that you and your partner find somewhere that will make your day perfect. xx
I would get in contact with their owner/head office and make them aware of the whole thing.
No one has the right to make anyone feel bad about themselves.
Also the way she behaved comes under discrimination laws and you should pursue as far as you can because another couple like yourselves could go in and not be as strong about the reaction.
Finally I would like to say it happened to myself and my husband at a few venues, they decided just from looking that we weren't 'their sort of bride and groom' or couldn't possibly afford the price, it's amazing how quickly these people judge when they are meant to pull you in ! X
Think I'd be making an official complaint to the manager...no way should either of you be made to feel like that. Disgusting! Wrong place for your wedding. Find somewhere that makes you both feel amazing instead lovely x
Thankyou all for your comments definitely going to be making a formal complaint against her x
Do not be ashamed of who you are! You deserve a perfect wedding day, do not forget that.
Their loss.
You should complain!
About 3 years ago I catered a wedding tea party in a Brighton Church for two lovely ladies, slightly older but young in heart. It was a joy to cater for them, don't waste money on people who are bigots and be proud not ashamed for goodness sake. Straight or gay who cares! Last year (with the NHS help) I fought Breast Cancer and now all clear.So sadly can't do catering but now sell (with hubby's help) Wedding & Bridal Accessories on line . Sure you two will find the place of your dreams and here's to a fab wedding x
I would like to know which venue this was?
Sorry this happened to you. Their loss! I would name and shame them on social media and make an official complaint. Good luck with your wedding. I'm sure you will find somewhere that deserves to be your venue soon xxx
Never be ashamed of who you are . She’s rude and you should complain to the managing directors of the venue
Don't be put off sweetheart, not every venue is rubbish and not every wedding planner is a total twatwomble! Keep looking and never be ashamed of who you are and what you want! It will all come together xx
You should never feel like that! Glad you found out now before paying anythinf
That's absolutely disgusting! You should never be made to feel like that especially at a wedding venue! It's meant to be an exciting day for you both, you should never leave feeling ashamed. You should name and shame the place so that no one gets their business. I hope you find the perfect venue for you both and i bet you rock those tattoos and piercings 🤘
put a complaint in, love is love no matter if its between a man and woman, woman and woman or man and man - never be ashamed of what you are! <3 xxx
There's no way she should be in a job as a wedding planner with that attitude! I hope you put in a complaint! you'll find your perfect venue and meet a lovely wedding planner I'm sure, as for he I bet she's loosing them lots of trade x
Just finishing editing another Lesbian wedding we filmed at Leez Priory Essex, fantastic day, great crowd of people, beautiful couple. The venue has always been one of my favourites.
Omg that's awful!! You should name the place so that people can steer clear of it. Don't let this put a downer on your engagement though, keep your Chin up and still be excited, there are some really lovely places around with just as lovely people waiting to greet you :) I'm also in a same sex partnership and I also have tattoos and piercings, we have found our venue and the lady who greeted us was so nice. Xx
What an awful woman how disgusting ! I hope you find somewhere that makes you both happy for your special day x
What a terrible experience, you should write all of this down in an email to the management. You’ve found someone you love enough to marry, so many go their entire lives without ever finding that! Focus on your happiness and don’t let one bitter person who probably values the superficial things that disappear in time over what really matters, happiness and contentment, ruin this for you.
I would name & shame venue & wedding planner that's awful... I had a similar snotbag arse attitude when I went to a bridal shop I was told I was to fat wear a coloured wedding dress & wasn't prepared to spend a grand on one of her awful dresses needles to say I told the bloke to shove it sideways....job done! Xx
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What venue was that? Definitely going to avoid that one!
I'd make a formal complaint and leave a really shitty review. How rude!
Hope you and your partner find somewhere nice :-) x
Do not feel ashamed of who you Are! Spend your cash somewhere else as she's obviously very narrow minded.... do u know what ladies I'd be going above and beyond and putting a huge complaint In! She has lost that company money and I'm sure management won't be pleased
Never be ashamed of who you are, the planner should be more ashamed of herself and if I was you I'd issue an official complaint, I hope you find a place worthy of you and your wife to be. X
Stuff 'em. That's not the venue for you. Honestly go for somewhere you are welcomed.
Never feel ashamed of who you are, you will find the right venue for the two of you and I hope you both have the most wonderful day, please don't let one rude and ignorant person spoil this experience for you both x
Never ever be ashamed of yourself unless you have done something wrong (killing someone is normally something to be ashamed of)
There is nothing wrong with being gay, I have a number of gay friends and they are no different to anyone else
Tattoos are part of your personality, just because the snooty wedding planner doesn't like them, again, nothing wrong with them
By the sounds of it, the venue was rubbish and you never would have been happy there
Here's to looking for a new venue that you will both be happy and have the feeling of, this is the one
You go girls and screw snooty wedding planners! X
That's awful ... we had an experience like that too ... we travelled for 40 mins by car to get there to be told that the lady that organised the wedding bookings had taken the day off ... the bar manager kept us waiting for 40 minutes, opened the door to a room and said this is where you'd be... gave us a photo album to look at and said I have somewhere else to be ..... the whole thing took 5 minutes .... I ripped the brochure uk he gave us and left it on the table ... needless to say we booked elsewhere ... you will find somewhere perfect for you ... don't give up xx
That’s horrible :(
You will find somewhere way better
But in the mean time treat yourselves - have some ice cream or hot coco and just enjoy being free to be yourselves!
Name & shame, hit them where it hurts, in the wallet.... Sounds like your better off else where anyway, makes me laugh that someone is in a job to serve the public & whos income depends upon it can be so judgemental, without us they would be pennyless.. Not a good way to work at all... would do review an warn future couples... Best wishing in finding your perfect place, for your big day & very happy future... i have tattoos too its personal choice, nothing to do with any1 else...
Anyone who makes you feel bad for being who you are does not deserve your time, money or the honour of planning your wedding. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience, but I'm sure you'll find somewhere that'll be just perfect. Best of luck with finding a venue, and with your wedding! x
I am so Sorry !!
Big hugs to you both (((( ❤️ ))))
Warm wishes for your special day & may these memory become an insignificant dot & rightly disappear !
Love sarah xx
That's awful!!!! Hold your heads high and move forward We live very near Brighton and a gay wedding is the norm... I cannot understand how some people are still so up their arse about it in 2017!! Seriously?? That woman should be ashamed, not you! Get yourselves to Brighton and have a fabulous wedding
That's really awful, I'm sorry that happened to you. Please don't feel ashamed of your relationship. The Wedding planner should be feeling ashamed of her actions.
Name and shame that horrible woman!
Unfortunately sometimes you do get this with venues. We got this with one venue we didn't even get the chance to look at any rooms they were so rude. Walked out of there and around the corner we went to a different place and that's the place we had our wedding venue. Don't lose hope there is always somewhere for you that goes above and beyond
Dont ever be ashamed of who you are, snotty mare needs to give her head a wobble! Onto the next venue! xx
I am so sorry that you met with such a rude and unprofessional person. Please do not take let this put you off, there are lots of wedding venues to choose from and you will know when you first see it which one is right for you both. Go for it and enjoy the experience!
Disgusting behaviour hope you've reported her to her manager people like that don't deserve to be working in such a job.where they should be helping go up less look for there dream wedding and going the extra to fulfill your dreams not burn them down and create unpleasant memories. X
Name and shame I say.
Disgusting behaviour especially is This day and age where we are supposed to be big on equality.
I witnessed a beautiful same sex marriage recently and it was perfectly beautiful.
Go elsewhere and review this Terrible woman.
Best of luck ️
I'm so sorry to hear toy had such a bad time. You should never be made to fell ashamed for being you. But that woman should definitely feel ashamed of herself. I hope you have a better experience at the next venue you look at.
Disgusting behaviour
Oh my goodness Lisa b that’s awful 😱... for people asking of the venue it was manor park country hotel in Clydach South Wales
Don't know if you seen( lady who's post this is)
Looks like u had a lucky escape
how awful for you both. never feel ashamed of who you are. it's small minded people like her that normally have major hangups about themselves and that's why they can be so rude. I would definetly complain. Twitter is an amazing way to let people know how shocking the venue and service was x
This is awful. I think you should inform her manager via email or letter. No one should be made to feel like that. You will find your dream venue, keep looking x
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