Claire McAspurn
Claire McAspurn 8 Oct 2017

What's everyone's thoughts on the groom taking on the bride's surname???

What's everyone's thoughts on the groom taking on the bride's surname???

31 Comments
Francesca mccann
Francesca mccann 8 Oct 2017

I personally wouldn't want mine to do that. If I wanted to keep my surname I would double barrell it x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 8 Oct 2017

Hi I agree with Francesca but I will be proud to have my Husnand's name :)

Claire McAspurn
Claire McAspurn 8 Oct 2017

My partner doesn't speak to his dad's family & he's suggested him taking my name. I've got an unusual surname and he is a Smith. Just not sure how people would react to it due to it being untraditional. Double barrled would be a bit of mouthful x

Kelsey Todd
Kelsey Todd 8 Oct 2017

I think it's a great idea, smashing down the usual traditions :) I would have preferred Dave take my surname as my surname is going to die with my generation (1 of 4 girls, 3 female cousins, no male cousins with the Todd name) but he refuses and so I'm taking his name. Ah well! :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

I think if that's what you both prefer then its a wonderful idea. There is nothing wrong with the man taking his wife's name in this day and age.

Linda Paterson
Linda Paterson 9 Oct 2017

Long as you both agree and happy who cares! :-)

Amanda Davies
Amanda Davies 9 Oct 2017

I wanna keep mine to keep my family name going but so does my h2b so we gonna double barrel ours

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

I'm gonna take my fiancées name. I have no love for my surname and think that hers is much nicer. I also have a friend that was a bit of a trouble maker in school and took his wife's name so their children don't have stigma from their surname.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

I had a friend who's husband took her name and that was about 15 years ago! Do what you want. We still haven't decided; currently thinking of mixing our names to create a brand new last name x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

My husband took my name and is in the process of changing everything over. We toyed with double barrling it but it would be too long

Lisa Reynolds
Lisa Reynolds 9 Oct 2017

It's not traditional but who cares! Only thing is I think he'd have to change it by deed poll, but I don't think it's that expensive.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

Do wjay you like! Privately i used hubbys surname. Legally still have my maiden name despite the fact i have no atrachment to it or my father. Im just too lazy to chamge it legally

Teresa Burns
Teresa Burns 9 Oct 2017

My cousin did as all the kids names were in brides surname so instead of changing 4 names he took on brides

Lisa Beaumont
Lisa Beaumont 9 Oct 2017

We are doing double barrelled of both I’m taking his he’s taking mine so Beaumont Barns 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

We are coming up with a new name together :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

Mines taking my last name. I hate his lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

Tanya Flower

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

I would not change my name when we married. Too much of a feminist. About a couple of months later hubby said OK we'll join our names together, so we did and best of all my mother in law HATED it. And I was never so glad that we did that as when he left and changed his name back, our daughter had both of our names rather than just his. Plus if you say our name with a French accent it sounds wonderful (as opposed to the Black Country one its usually spoken with).🤣

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

After taking my husbands name and having to change all my details....long winded! I’d say go for it and let the groom do all the name changing after

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 9 Oct 2017

I'm keeping my surname because I got my sons surname changed to mine after I split from his dad, I would love my fiancé to have my surname but he's the only male so to him his name would die if he changed it....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

Sean Farrell

Corinne Walkden
Corinne Walkden 9 Oct 2017

Personally I like the tradition and am looking forward to taking my partners name :) x

Claire McAspurn
Claire McAspurn 9 Oct 2017

Thanks everyone. I only know of one couple who has did this and I remember hearing a few comments about it being strange. I'm not against taking his name but do think it would be hard for me going from an uncommon surname to Smith.
He has spoken about wanting to change his surname even before we got engaged and has said he would ask my dad's permission after all it's his family name which I find very sweet xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

We've just bought a house in Portugal and we're going to call it Casa Isendora, which is a mixture of both our names. My hubby was thinking of using this as our surname, but being half Swedish and Isendahl is his family name, which is pretty rare in Sweden, he wants to preserve it. I'm looking forward to becoming Sarah Isendahl.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

My husband took my name by double barrelling with me so we essentially took each other's names! Do what works for you and makes you guys happy

Olivia Curran
Olivia Curran 9 Oct 2017

Mr Curran-Fox ✅ Gearóid Mac An TSionnaigh 🤵👰

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Oct 2017

Both keeping our own names. If you have a name you like why change it. Miss and Mrs are being replaced by Ms in any case.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Oct 2017

It’s 2017 - Go with whatever you both want! It’s your name!! I’m marrying a girl and I’m taking her name as she wanted to keep hers and I’m not concerned about what my name is, so naturally makes more sense for me to take hers!

Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 10 Oct 2017

Can't wait to get rid of my surname as constantly get called by it for my Christian name. I'm proud to be taking my fiance's name. Sorry but I'm a traditionalist. But each to their own.

Jess Beaver
Jess Beaver 10 Oct 2017

Jake Childerley

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Oct 2017

I think it's a very personal choice to be honest

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