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UKbride Member Request 4 Oct 2017

I don’t speak to my father so he won’t be attending my wedding. Who...

I don’t speak to my father so he won’t be attending my wedding. Who should walk me down the aisle? My mother or one of my brothers? xx

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Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 4 Oct 2017

It's really up to you.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 4 Oct 2017

Hi I agree with Susan :)

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 4 Oct 2017

Whoever you would prefer x

Emily Vincent
Emily V 4 Oct 2017

Whoever you are closest to and feel share that connection with xx

Sera Rowe
Sera Rowe 5 Oct 2017

I'm in the same situation. I have a older brother who always stood up for me when I was younger. I will be asking him.

Claire Hellewell
Claire Hellewell 5 Oct 2017

Yeah it's a tricky one. I would say mum but then that depends who your closest to.

Sarah Jenkinson
Sarah Jenkinson 5 Oct 2017

Either, it's your day so you should ask whoever means the most to you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'm having my Mum give me away - my Dad died 11 years ago. My Mum was overjoyed that I asked her and I wouldn't want anyone else to do it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I don’t speak to mine either and he isn’t coming to the wedding. My older brother is walking me down the aisle

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I walked myself down the aisle so it’s really up to you how you do it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My mum and my son will both be walking me down the aisle to give me away xx

Crystal Hood
Crystal Hood 6 Oct 2017

I'm under alot of pressure to pick someone. My dad died 13 years ago and I haven't spoken to my mum for the same amount of time. Everyone keeps asking me who I'm going to ask! I really don't know!! I share your pain

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'd go for your mum but if you are closer to a brother then I'd say he'd be happy too. I'd go with what your heart and instinct x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My sister had our Mum. She's never had a relationship with her dad

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

That’s a decision only you can make! I had my step dad walk me down the aisle

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I don't speak to any of my side of the family so they are not invited to the wedding. I have asked my partners Grandfather to walk me down the aisle we are getting married on his birthday so I thought I would be a extra treat for him plus we are close and he's done a lot more for me in the 5 years I have known him than my father has done my entire life at the end of the day it's your choice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Anyone who means the most to you. I got married on Saturday and I walked myself down the asle. I'm a divorcee and didn't feel like it was 'right' to be given away from my family (clan as when that tradition started) I have our sons give my hand to the vicar when he asked who gives this woman as I felt that was more appropriate.

Deanna Wright
Deanna Wright 6 Oct 2017

Whoever you want to walk you down the aisle! 😊
I'm having my mum walk me down the aisle, because when my "dad" left us, my mum took on both roles, and raised us all on her own. She raised me, and I want her to give me away 😊

Sonja Gibson
Sonja Gibson 6 Oct 2017

Im the same havent seen my dad in yrs so i asked my oldest brother to walk me down.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

It's completely up to you. I've asked my Uncle who is also my godfather. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I’m the same as you I’m walking alone - I walk alone all the time hahaha can’t be that bad

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Brother/s

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

It's entirely your choice... If you can't decide perhaps have both walk you in?
My father passed away a few years ago, so my little sister walked me down the aisle :-)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

It might mean most to your mum. I'm guessing that she was the one who raised you and gave her life to bring you up. I'd definitely ask her if she's the sentimental type

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'm the same my mother will be walking me down the aisle I can not wait c

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 6 Oct 2017

I was disowed by my Father 4yrs ago.. so have asked my eldest son... if i hadnt got my son from 1st marriage, i would of asked my brother, as mum said she thinks its a male role.. Got her walking with my youngest son (he is ring bearer) & mother in law walking with youngest brides maid. ( My soon to be niece, her granddaughter..) so all together there will be 8 of us including me...lol..

Debbie Lees
Debbie Lees 6 Oct 2017

I knew along time ago that my mum would be walking me down the aisle, she raised me and my sisters. Best of luck on your day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'm asking my mum

Keri Dunstan
Keri Dunstan 6 Oct 2017

I don't speak to my dad either so asked my mum to walk me down the aisle. I did her this picture x

A member uploaded image

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Whoever you'd like! I'm in the same situation my dad is a piece of work so I've always said I'm having my mum, the women raised me and my siblings basically alone. She taught me everything I needed in life and she deserves the honor of walking me down the aisle Nicola Lambert. Gotta love a parent that takes on both roles

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 6 Oct 2017

My Grampy is walking me down the aisle as I don't speak to either parents :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Your day so choose who YOU feel is right, even if its not a family member.

Terri Ellen Fletcher
Terri Ellen Fletcher 6 Oct 2017

Whichever you prefer! If I was in that situation and say my mom raised me on her own I would ask my mom as a sort of nod to her hard work and stuff. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Just have both brothers

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 6 Oct 2017

Whoever your closest to x

Siobhan Batchelor
Siobhan Batchelor 6 Oct 2017

When my friends sister got married, their father had previously passed away. So she asked my friend, her brother, to walk her down the aisle. Ask who ever you feel comfortable with. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Mother

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Both brothers x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Whoever you want Darling, it's your day. I'm getting my brother as I dont speak to my Dad either.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Either is up to you. Traditionally I would ask the oldest brother.

Elizabeth Nelli Moors
Elizabeth Moors 6 Oct 2017

Maybe your grandparents? My dad past away, so I'm going to ask my nan to walk me down the Ilse, if she cannot do it I will ask my brother's.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My son walked me down the aisle, was beautiful maybe a brother?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I was in the same situation. I had my eldest brother give me away.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Im havin my 2 sons walk me down the aisle as i dnt speak with my real dad nd my mum nd step dad dnt get on xx

Helen Gracie
Helen Gracie 6 Oct 2017

I'm close to my dad but I'm still walking down the aisle by myself. I don't like the idea of being handed over from one man to another. My sister is my bridesmaid so will be walking down the aisle too just noone on my arm.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My dad past away last year so I’ve asked my father-in-law to be to do it as we have a good connection and get on really well, my stepdad wouldn’t do it again as every time he has involvement in a wedding they end up divorced x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

To me it be my mum but it would depend who you were closer to.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I have never met my "dad" haven't seen him since I was 3 days old, my mum was over the moon that I asked her especially when I told her I was asking her because she took on both roles and raised me with no help what so ever, if my grandad was still here I would have asked him and she knows that but was over the moon that she has been given that role, but she is refusing to do a speech xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My dad passed away when I was little and I've been thinking who can walk me down the Isle but think I'm going to walk myself down. I'm a grown woman and I don't need to be given away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'm asking my mam which will also be my something old on the day

Joanne Lay-Treen
Joanne Louise Treen 6 Oct 2017

U cud walk with ur mum or yr bros can hav more than 1 walk u dwn xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My son is walking me down.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My son will be walking me down he will be 14. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My Dad died when I was 15 so my Mum will be giving me away. They divorced when I was 7 and she has been my Mum and Dad for the majority of my life. She deserves the honour

Claire Gillick
Claire Gillick 6 Oct 2017

I think Mum. I think they sometimes get a bit left out. They get to do sll the girl things but no real ‘role’ in the wedding. I think she’d love to walk you down the aisle x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

Both. Your wedding your choice. Good luck.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I'm in a similar situation so my grandad (mum's dad) is walking me down the aisle instead. My dad is invited to the wedding but I doubt he will turn up. I haven't told him yet that my grandad will be giving me away. But it's your day so choose whoever you are closest to xx

Emily Barnett
Emily Barnett 6 Oct 2017

I'm not being given away as I don't agree with that tradition. I'm using the walk down the aisle as a symbol of it being the last time I will walk alone x

Rebecca Richards
Rebecca Richards 6 Oct 2017

I lost my father 2 years ago, my son who will be 13 is giving me away but if i didn't have boys, I would ask my mother. I think having your mum would be lovely !

Emma Setterfield
Emma Setterfield 6 Oct 2017

My mum is walking me down the aisle.

Teresa Burns
Teresa Burns 6 Oct 2017

I'm having both my mom and my son walk me with my daughter as bridesmaid so we come as a family towards h2b and his 2 children so all meet together.
I wanted my son and mom so thought sod it my day my way xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

I have no dad or grandad so my twin boys are doing it. One either side so it will be quite emotional.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My nephew is giving me away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

You can walk down the isle by yourself if you wish as no one should realy take the place of the brides father but if things are realy that bad between you both then its realy up to you i dont know the circumstances between you an your father but hope theres a way you can both make up before you getvmarried you only 1 father and once hes gone theres no going back you must be hurting deep down i would think about this wisely in hope you dont regret the desicion for rest of your life but like i say evetyones circumstances are different if theres no way at all making up with your dad then its up to you who you have

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Oct 2017

My dad isn't a part of my life so my mum is giving me away as she's raised me over the past 24 years!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Oct 2017

It's whoever you want. My grandad walked me down as he's been like a father to me x

Marie Sutherland
Marie Sutherland 7 Oct 2017

U dont have 2 have any if u dont want to. Im walking by myself x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Oct 2017

He would have been so proud of you still miss him............

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Oct 2017

I'm having my brother

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Oct 2017

I walked my sister down the aisle and did the 'father of the bride' speech. Whoever means the most, or whoever you want to should do it. Still think k she wanted her son to do it but he was bit young, would've been really nice as well. Rachaell L McGoniglle thoughts?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Oct 2017

I'm having my brother walk me down

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