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UKbride Member Request 1 Oct 2017

I'm getting married early October 2018 and am in the process of finding a...

I'm getting married early October 2018 and am in the process of finding a dress. It's moments where you're standing in a dress and looking at yourself thinking "I wish my parents could see this, my mum should be here". I felt so lost. How are you remembering your lost loved ones on the day, and how do I get through the day without getting so upset that they aren't there to see me?

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Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 1 Oct 2017

Sending you a massive hug (((( ❤️ ))))
I lost my dad to a brain tumour & so had my brother give me away .... & right at beginning of the service we had the lady leading the service mention my dad & those who couldn't be there on davids side of the family ... Meant
alot to us .....
Love to you ... X

Lesley Smith
Lesley Smith 1 Oct 2017

Luna's Little Touch do boquet charms with loved ones photos on good prices great

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I love this idea

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Aleisha Bristow
Aleisha Bristow 1 Oct 2017

I lost my grandad 6 years ago still quiet raw n I’ve decided to have his photo and a nice verse in a frame on a table. We r also getting married on his birthday as a special way to celebrate!x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

Hi I lost my when I was 8 so wedding planning has been really hard for me. I'm going to incorporate his favourite flower into my bouquet to honour him but I'm unsure of what else to do

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I lost my Dad nearly 3 years ago. I've found lots of lovely ways to incorporate him into the day on Pinterest. xXx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

My Dad passed away unexpectedly 25 days before our wedding so my sister and brother walked my down the aisle. I had a bouquet charm with his photo which one of my bridesmaids gifted me on the morning. Then our reverend said a few words and lit a candle for him to burn throughout the ceremony. At the reception venue we had a place setting and chair left empty in his memory and had a memory table with photos of all our loved ones who could not be with us on the day. Xx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

Also I found that I just got through the day a lot better than I thought I ever would purely from the huge amount of joy and love that was felt and had throughout the day. It's truly overwhelming. I hope it gets you through your day and you can think of them on the day and know that they would be so proud of you. X

Ruby Boardman
Ruby Boardman 1 Oct 2017

I feel like all the time about my Nan.

Danielle Ryde
Danielle Ryde 1 Oct 2017

I was thinking about doing a table up with pics of people who aren't here anymore so there's a part of them there with you x

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

They may not be there in body but they will be in spirit and they'll always be in your heart. My parents are dead and that's what I told myself. Hope it helps and good luck xx

Amy Gray
Amy Gray 1 Oct 2017

I lost my dad in January this year and getting married in April so I’m going to have photo of my dad sewn into my dress and a photo of his on the head table next to my bouquet

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I gave my wife a locket with a picture of her mum in for a wedding present. Luckily I had told her bridesmaids to make sure she opened it before doing her makeup as it made my wife a bit emotional

Sara Barry
Sara Barry 1 Oct 2017

I have a frame with wording in it and surrounding this frame will be framed photos of the people x

Claire Hope
claire hope 1 Oct 2017

they are always there in you heart, they are looking down on you all the time and im sure they will have a big smile on there face on your big day

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I'll be wearing a bracelet that my grandfather on my dad's side gave my grandma. I never met her as she died when my father was 11. My grandfather has since passed on and it'll be a nice way to include them x

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I lost my mum just over 2 years ago and am also getting married in October 18. I'm struggling to get motivated with anything to do with my wedding. We were best friends and I know she would of been there and involved with every little thing to do with it, probably telling me it would be better to do it the way she thought. I was told the other day I need to sort my dress but it all just feels so overwhelming and not right to do it without her. I am incorporating her favourite flowers into the entire theme and have her jewlery too. Not helpful but I understand how you feel. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I'm really sorry. I lost my Mum in 2014 and I'm getting married in 2018. It's really surreal, as like you we were very close. I'm leaving a seat at the front of the ceremony for her and making a table with her photo which my bouquet will go on

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I know my mam would be over the moon as she thought the world of my fiance. I am having a hand tied bouquet so that I can put it on her headstone the next day.
She is Always with me in spirit. Hugs

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I feel your pain so much. I've told myself that my wedding day should be one the happiest days of my life, and that's what my mum would've wanted. She would've hated it to be spent with tears and sadness so I'm going to try my hardest to enjoy the whole build up and ultimately the day, in her honour. And I know she's with me every step of the way. Xx a friend of mine has also brought me a photo charm to tie to the back of my bouquet so I can see her with me all the time. I'm also having a pic of my mum and dad on their wedding day sitting on the registrars table whilst I get married. X it's going to be difficult without her there, esp as it was something we always dreamed of together as I was growing up, but I'm trying to think of things she would've like too to bring them into the day (like my dress, I 'know' what styles she would've liked so I've gone for that type - luckily I liked it too lol) xx hold you head high and smile, they are right next to you holding your hand xxx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

They may not be there in body but they are with you in your heart and in all the other family members too xxxx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

My mother's favourite colour was peach and my favourite colour is blue. So I'm going to have a peach and pale blue theme to the wedding. I'm also going to use my parent's wedding cake decorations (my dad is still alive and he thinks it's a lovely idea) and wear my mother's charm bracelet.

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I had these on my shoes so my daddy still walked me down the aisle.

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

My Nanna died a year and a half before my wedding so I knew I had to have a part of her there with me on the day as we were very close, I had some material from her silk pyjamas sewn into the inner part of my dress, keeping her close to my heart ️ I truly hope you find something that helps you be at peace on your special day xxxx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I lost my mom 2014 and I'm getting married early October 2018, we're having a photo table with the sign on the photo. I'm also wearing her gold watch that she never took off.
It's going to be hard, I cried my eyes out when I bought my dress and I've had weepy moments because I know she would've loved to be a part of everything and love my fiance especially when my dad isn't bothered by any of it. But they're always with you, they'll be watching it all with a big, proud smile on their face x

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

We done this everyone loved it

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I'm having a photo of my dad on my bouquet and I plan to have a heart from one of his t shirts sewn onto the inside of my dress. At the reception we are having a table with a candle and photos of our loved ones who cannot be there. Pinterest have lots of really good ideas ️

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I having a beautiful frame made up with a poem put onto it remembering all the people I we love and lost.on the top half there will be ribbon tied from side to side and their photos will be pegged up.the flowers from the wedding will then be layed on their graves the next day.they will always be there with me ...no matter what day.x

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

I unfortunately lost my mum a few years ago. What I'm doing is a table with pictures of her and my partners loved ones who are no longer here with a lit candle and at some point in the evening we will raise a toast to them whilst playing a song sung by my mums favourite group xxx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

We got married on my mum and dads wedding anniversary I wore my mum's veil clipped my daddies ring into my bouquet had a memory candle made with a picture of my dad on it and on the top table we had a picture of my dad

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

we had 6 butterflies on our cake each symbolizing the ones that who could not be there, we also had Jerusalem as a hymn as hubbys granddad was a huge rugby fan (welsh but thats what made it so much more important to have English anthem lol) and before we shot off to honeymoon i went and put my bouquet on granddads grave, i knew in my heart that my loved ones were with me, have a song that your mum loved playing in your reception and have a minute to yourself in the morning and have a chat with her she will be able to hear you xx

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UKbride Administrator 1 Oct 2017

My dad died in 2005 and I'm getting married in 6 weeks and 6 days. I'm getting married on the same day as his memory which I no some people might find weird but it will make him part of my day and I will feel like he is there with me. I'm also walking down the aisle to one of his favourite songs x

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UKbride Administrator 2 Oct 2017

I am a Florist and attach memory charms on to my clients bouquet for only a small charge , I have also done a separate matching bouquet to go on gravesides or pomander balls in the colours of loved ones favourite toy or team etc x

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UKbride Administrator 2 Oct 2017

We released two doves at our wedding as list both my father in law & Uncle in law before the wedding of cancer xx

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UKbride Administrator 2 Oct 2017

A pomander ball for a little boy who died young his favorite toy was Tweenies x

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UKbride Administrator 2 Oct 2017

Memory locket on grooms Button hole of his son who had the Tweenies ball on the graveside too xx

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Emily Vincent
Emily V 2 Oct 2017

I am having a memory table. It will have photos of all the people who cant be with us. - all my grandparents, OH granddad, one of my aunts and one of my uncles and my god father. We wrote a poem and have a photo of each of them with a label who they are as the other family wont know.

Claire Rodgers
Claire Rodgers 2 Oct 2017

I lost my mum 10 years ago when i was 32. The dress hunting i found hard with the girls and not her so I did that with my OH. I am not sure how I will cope on the day. It will be hard enough so we decided not to havw a head table so I dont have to cope with the empty space and didnt want anyone else up there. I am also not sure how I will cope with speech time. I was close to my mum...we spoke every day and sometimes three to four calls a day and endless text messages. She didnt get to meet my fiance but we have all said she would love him. It will be hard for all of us who have lost someone but we all know that we are not alone. I am wearing a peice of her jewellery on the day and the hair clip that she wore on her wedding day so she is with me in some way xx

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UKbride Administrator 3 Oct 2017

I always said I'd incorporate my mum's dress into my wedding. When I went to have a look at her dress there was a piece of embellishment that had fallen off into the dress bag, I knew that was the piece I was going to use. I wrapped it around my bouquet (the bit you hold) the pearld dropped beautifully. I also wore my mum's underskirt at my wedding reception. There was a 'in loving memory' table that I arranged, with my mum's picture, a poem and a candle near my top table xx

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 3 Oct 2017

So sorry to hear of your loss. I feel your pain as I'm sure many others do. A bouquet charm is a lovely way to remember that person and have them with you. Whilst it's lovely to remember them do try not to let it spoil your day - it's not what they would want if they were still around as they would always want you to be happy. Good luck.

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UKbride Administrator 5 Oct 2017

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