UKbride Member Request 27 Sep 2017

So me and my fiancé went and looked at a venue on Monday, and provisionally...

So me and my fiancé went and looked at a venue on Monday, and provisionally booked it for 18th August 2018. I've stupidly got excited and let a few people know that's the date we're planning. My fiancé has a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship, and I can only assume the mother/ex has heard about the wedding date, as she's now claiming she will be taking their daughter on holiday from the 13th august to the 20th. Obviously we explained that that may be an issue because of the plans for the wedding. She's making no effort to try and make the situation better... A wedding without his daughter is not an option, so what do we do? Do we book for another date, or try and speak to her? It just seemed like too much of a coincidence that she booked a holiday for them dates, the day after we booked the wedding venue.

Lucy Mumberson
Lucy Mumberson 27 Sep 2017

I would try sitting down with her and coming to an agreement, at the end of the day it’s your special day and if she’s really going to restrict his child from being there then it’s not fair, surely she must have other dates to go on holiday. Hope it gets sorted :)

Catherine McKeown
Therese McKeown 27 Sep 2017

What a coincidence indeed and what a horrible so n so!!! Definitely sit down and talk it through keep your calm though I imagine that would be easier said than done 😠

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 27 Sep 2017

You could sit down and talk to her, but as you have already said you have explained the issue to her, you may very well be wasting your time - If that date isn't particularly important to you I would change it - that way she can't really come back and say 'oh actually we're doing this on that date' without being blatantly obvious that's shes trying to cause issues. Yes it is a very big coincidence that their holiday clashes with your wedding and the way shes acting suggests she is deliberately trying to be awkward - but on the other hand coincidences do sometimes happen, and looking at it from the other side, she may not have heard about your wedding date and If she has already paid for deposits/ flights/etc to go away then I would understand why it could be upsetting for her and her unwillingness to try and sort it out.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 27 Sep 2017

Hi very convenient if you decide to change the date keep the date to yourself :)

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 27 Sep 2017

I would change the date if it's not an important date for you both. Then you should be fine or she will be proved to be being very obviously obstructive x


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