Am I right to be annoyed? The best men have chosen my fiances stag do to be...

it may be the only date that they can all get together I wouldn't be overly bothered unless it was a milestone birthday but I don't like celebrating birthdays anyways

I would be annoyed but maybe it's the only day everyone can do? Spend the day with your friends and family. You have plenty more birthdays to celebrate with your husband. My husbands stag was organised for he day of our sons 3rd birthday I was a bit annoyed but they didn't leave until 2pm so it wasn't as if he wasn't there at all x

i would be upset too but my h2b wouldnt allow it.

You have a choice - explain to H2B and BM that you are disappointed and would prefer the date changed or decide how you can enjoy your birthday without him. But the most important thing is that you don't stay annoyed.

I think I would be annoyed too. Important to not get annoyed with h2b as he hasn't arranged it.
Can you speak to the best man again and say I'm not been funny but we're doing something for my birthday. 10 months before the wedding is quite early for a stag do so can they not re arrange for it to be a bit later so your h2b can celebrate both without feeling guilty. Coz it's not his fault his mates have booked stay so on your birthday. He isn't going to want it upset you but he's not going to let the boys down if they have arranged a stag for him. Maybe speak to your h2b and ask him to persuade the best man to change the date. If not get the lads to pay for a weekend away for your birthday on another weekend for you and h2b to make up for it haha

I would be very annoyed with the best man my H2B wouldn't allow it x

If there a lot of people invited then logistically it can be a nightmare to get a date everyone can do so it may be that. Personally I would see it as you have a lifetime of birthdays together so what does him missing one matter and i would take the opportunity to do something with family or girlfriends to celebrate instead

Why are they doing the stag 10 months before the wedding anyway. It's seems far too early.

I would tell your h2b to have a word and ask him to have the stag 3-4 months before not 10 months before!

May be worth asking why that date was chosen and if it is possible to change it as that's your birthday? There may be a reason or the best man may just have not realised it was your birthday and feel awful when he finds out?

I personally would be fuming, unless there was no other possible date in the 10 months they could possibly do!!
On the other hand, take advantage that the boys are away, get the girls together and have a little celebration of your own. Last birthday as a Miss!! :)

I would be furious about that too! Its your last birthday as a miss and its special! I'd kick up a right stink!

Surely there is another day in 10 months to do it! I would be annoyed too but my h2b wouldn't have accepted the date.
I would speak to the best man alone and ask if there is a reason he chose that date after telling him it was your birthday. Obviously I don't know you or him but he sounds jealous to me and possibly wantee to cause a rift?

I'd be annoyed! If it's so far away why chant they change the date?! Your fiancé should tell them to change it

Personally I wouldn't mind. I'd spend it with my friends and family. Plenty more birthdays to share together

Go have a great time with your girlfriends.

Just think how many years you will be spending your birthday with him. Men don't always think ( sorry Gents ) they won't have done it with malice. Let him go and have fun and you an get together with your mates and celebrate with your fiancé the day before or the night after ( ok - he may not be in the best form straight after )

100% fuming Zoe Louise Growden

For heavens sake grow up. If your like this now about a birthday what.will.you be like for anything else.
Your not a child . Birthdays arent a big deal now your older....unless if its a big one. It wont kill.you for one not to.be with the man your marrying

I'd be annoyed but he'll only get one stag... you'll have plenty more birthdays which he will be there for. It's a major thing organising a group of people on one date so that may have been their only option! My fiancé told his friends not to pick my birthday date but if they're not told not to, then I suppose they will pick when they want and assume it's ok!

My fiance is going away on his stag for my birthday. It doesnt bother me at all. Its only date he could get all his mates together. The weekend of October half term week. We get married 25th november. I would rather him miss my birthday and have the stag he deserves with all his mates! I have planned to have my trials all done one my birthday with my mum and the kids. Then will go out for a nice meal. Still enjoying my birthday and he will enjoy his stag. Aslong as i get a happt birthday text 😂😂 i will be happy lol xx

Celebrate your birthday with him another day and make other plans on your actual birthday? X

Unless it's a milestone birthday I would be OK.. Just remember the stag is an event that will occur to mark an upcoming wedding which is yours and your vows will entitle you guys to spend every other birthday in your life together.. Plus why not choose to celebrate your birthday with h2b on another date so you can be like the queen and have two birthday celebrations ☺️ x

I wouldn't be annoyed unless it was a milestone birthday. You will have lots of birthdays together as husband and wife. Have a girlie birthday with your bridesmaids xx

I would be pissed off too, 10 months is loads of time surely they could all find another date that they are all available?

I think unless it's an important birthday do something another week- it is really hard to
Get everyone together for these types of events, I am sure they haven't done it despite you. Enjoy your birthday with family and friends and then do something nice with your fiancé around that! I am sure he will appreciate your support and understanding xxx

They may have done it to get him in trouble!
I wouldn't be annoyed about it, you'll have a lifetime of birthdays together. Go out with the girls instead.

Choose your battles. Hopefully he'll only have the one stag do but you'll have plenty of birthdays. I'd let it go. If he knows you're upset though maybe do something special the weekend before/after?

I would be so annoyed if it was me he wouldn't be going on his stag do and they would no longer be his best men . Even if it isn't a milestone birthday you only get one day a year that's all about you

Unless its a milestone date then I wouldnt be too worried. I have lots of circles of friends and to organise to get all of them together is a nightmare when people have work, partners, kids and finances to take into account. Its one of those things and in the grand scheme of things not that big a deal x

Double hen n birthday girlie celebrations for u .. get bookin ! X i wud

with all due respect and i totally understand that its your birthday and you want to spend it with your h2b but what about the women whose husbands work away and dont get the choice to spend their birthdays with them?I havent spent a birthday with my husband for 3 years now due to him working away however he makes up for it when hes home. Also if the lads have booked to go away IE abroad then maybe they have chosen the date/dates they have to keep costings down and hense why its been organised so early in advance. As everyone has said its only one birthday and im assuming had it have been a milestone one then your h2b would have said something to the lads regarding the date.

Yes you're right to be annoyed. Tell them to stop being cock waffles and pick another day

I think this is a little selfish! And sounds like you are having a temper tantrum! You can celebrate your birthday the day before surely?! I wouldn't mind moving the day we celebrate my birthday if it meant my fiance could go and enjoy his stag do with all his friends. A marriage should be about give and take....some women are so take take take!!

Haha I love it when people think the world should stop because it is the anniversary of your birth when actually you're only a day older than the day before.

Celebrate before he goes or celebrate when he gets back.

If it's not a special birthday, the. I would be fine. Just organise a girly night out for your birthday so you can still celebrate your birthday.

Its ONE....just ONE birthday before you spend the rest of your lift hopefully with the man you love. If your throwing your dummy out the pram now before the wedding over ONE birthday....good luck in your marriage....

Its a birthday its not your anniversary go out an celerbrate with friends or a ladies house party or even better have your hen night on your birthday let him go on your birthday to his stag do your going to be his wife not his mum you can still have your birthday and have fun there will be other biryhdays you can have with him

I'd ask if it could be changed but if not arrange a date close by that you and your fiance can do something instead. If it was me I'd be a bit upset (if it was done purposefully), but If that's the only date all of his friends can get together I'd like him to enjoy that time too.
Xx

My husbands stag was on my birthday a week before our wedding. Didn't bother me, we celebrated my birthday before hand and I spent a last birthday as an unmarried woman with my family and made a big deal of it with them

Sorry I don't see what the fuss is about. It was probably the best available date and he will only have one stag do but you will be having a birthday every year. Personally I would arrange a night out with friends and then another with H2B when he gets back.

I would let my fiance go it's one day no big deal there's other birthdays

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest personally. But if that's how you feel, that's how you feel! You could always have your hen on the same date. Then you wouldn't feel as if you were missing out :-)

I dont see what the issue is in all honesty my hen do will be on my bday weekend and my other half could do the same if he wanted to like someone else on here said go out with your girlfriends and have a night out with your h2b when hes back. X

I'm so sorry you've had people write very mean comments!
I wouldn't be happy at all if this were me.
The only thing I can suggest is to do the hen then as well xxx

It is a bit inconsiderate since they know but he's only going to have one stag do (hopefully) and well you have a birthday every year!

It's just a birthday that happens every year. Hen, stag and wedding happens once (hopefully)

Hi I would be upset too :)

They can just bloody well change it then can't they!

I'd be fuming to, there's plenty on time in 10 months to do the stag x

I would be very upset! There's plenty of weekends within a ten month period and absolutely no need for that! As for people saying it's selfish, so what! It's your birthday!

Joanne Wilde 😂😂😂 sounds like a right madam hahaa

Loads more birthdays only 1 stag whos being the selfish one

Why don't you just have a girly night for your birthday with the girls and then celebrate before or when he gets back

With 10 months to go I don't think you're being unreasonable! Speak to the best man, ask if there was any reason for it to be so long before the wedding, and if it can be pushed back, even if it's just a week! Sure birthdays are every year, but if it's on a weekend and you're both off work then that's rare if I'm honest! If they'd planned it for your birthday week I'd say suck it up, but not your actual birthday!

I think the comments people have made on here telling you to grow up are really rude. You have every right to be upset as you want to spend your birthday with your other half. I think it was really inconsiderate of them as you pre-warned them of the date and they have 10 months to do it. They should have spoken to you about it before booking. My fiancé also agrees it was pretty bad of them to do this. Not sure what you can do though if it's already booked. Just hope your other half makes it up to you by taking you out for a nice meal or something after.

I'm so sorry you reached out for advice and were provided with such nasty comments from people!
The question you asked was reasonable so I don't understand the negativity!
Personally I might be a bit upset, it doesn't matter how many Birthdays you've had together, as how you celebrate with each other is different for everyone. My fiance and I always try and do something special for each other's Birthday, however I understand it's different for everyone.
I spoke to my fiance about this and he agreed that if it was genuinely the only date everyone could do then fair enough as it's hard organising lots of people. What might have been nice though, is if the best man had approached you first just let you know the situation so you know it wasn't spiteful and to acknowledge how it might make you feel.
I hope this helps!! X

Id be a bit annoyed but id ask for the reasons why before getting angry about it. They may have a legit reason for that being the best day to do it. And i think they could of thought it would be fine since you havent planned anything with your h2b for your birthday!

I wouldn't be happy if he hadn't asked me if I minded first, my fiancés best man asked me what dates he was available because my fiancé never knows when he is off work without asking me.

Wow get over yourself. You will have the rest of your lives to celebrate your birthday together. So selfish !!

Errrrrr..... seriously, let's be real here, why should you sacrifice your birthday celebrations???? There are other dates they could have chosen. Why not start as you mean to go on and be absolutely honest about how much it means to you to celebrate your birthday together??? Don't worry about looking chilled or laid back about something that's genuinely important to you. Well done you for speaking up about your feelings- better than bottling it up, it will be a good start to your marriage xx

You have the rest of your lives together to celebrate your birthday with your hubby when you'll be his Mrs Stag! Stop fretting and have a girly night out with your bezzies instead! In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?

I would be annoyed at first. but to be honest my birthdays are always boring so I wouldn't care in the end lol

I would be a tad bit annoyed but my birthday is literally the one day a year it gets to be about me I don't even celebrate Mother's Day for myself and in every other aspect of my life it's always about my son and partner so for it being ten months away I would just say look sorry your gonna have to change to date I had things planned go the weekend before all the boys have plenty of time to put holidays in your not being selfish and all these idiots calling you so and telling you to grow up are pathetic they have no clue what your life is like I make a big deal about my birthday now as my own grandad and aunties and uncles forgot about my 21st birthday after that my birthday is my way only I don't ask for anything except one day where I'm allowed to be spoiled and you should have the same

I'm guessing they think it's funny and all being part of the stag to patch his fiancée on her birthday. I'd rise above it and wish them all a fab, fun night and take the opportunity to have a girls night out Birthday! You'll have him for the rest of your life. Don't sweat the small stuff x

I don't know what they are planning or how many are involved but it takes a lot of work to coordinate a large group of people. Perhaps it just happened to be the best date. It's a little disappointing he's away on your birthday but surely you could celebrate another day. You'll have years of birthdays together instead.