Hi. I've got a bit of a dilemma about dates and ceremony time... we really want a 2pm ceremony...i think that would be the perfect time to make sure the day flows. However most days for next year have 2pm booked up... apart from August 19th or 16th September. It's a Sunday. We have children but we are only inviting family children.. so 16th September means taking them out of school on the Monday.. I'm not sure if schools allow that. But 19th August I'm worried a lot of people will be away on family holidays. I don't want to expect people to change their yearly holiday date. Would 16th September be better and just take kids out of School for the following day.
What about bank holiday Monday? That's what we did this year and it was perfect xx
I would stick to August personally, with notice people can make holiday plans around you :) VERY tricky to get kids out of school and not something many parents will want to do (in my opinion)
You can't just take kids out of school unless they are ill, unless you get permission and some schools are very strict.
I got married this 16th september.. do the 16th! Best date to get married as long as you give people plenty of time to book it off, then there should be no problem xx
We got married on the 12th of July this year. It was a Wednesday. We had 20 children coming. They all attended. So that meant they all missed school that Wednesday and probably the following day. If people want to be there they will. Don't worry about the people who won't come because of that reason, it's obviously not high on their priority list to attend your wedding.
I dunno why your worrying,
One day off school isn't the end of the world and they don't have to take them out of school, weddings only take up one day, not two x
Anything less than 3 consecutive days is not classed as a holiday. Rules are exceptional circumstances and a wedding should pass that
We would always recommend to send a Save the Date to all of your primary guests as soon as it's set. The 16th August is better as no school and a great chance (??) of the weather being better. As long as you get the dates in the diary early you should get everyone there that really matters. MakingMemorieswithTLC.co.uk
Unless people have a very good reason for taking children out of school it will be recorded as an unauthorised absence, if they consider calling and saying child
is ill they have to remember that children talk about what they are going to do or have done , plus with photos appearing on social media it would be quickly found out.
I get married on a Wednesday next August. Yes the kids are off and means the adults will have to take couple of days off. But if they really want it be at it wedding they will come. Xx
I know a lot of parents might not want their children to take a day off school (I wouldn't mind myself if it was for something like this, but my partner is someone who wouldn't like it).
You could perhaps ask people now before you book the date if they have any holidays booked for next year already? And if they don't, book it and send out save the dates straight away so they won't book it when your wedding would be.
We were looking at a Sunday ourselves in September next year, we only had our children and our close family children coming, so knew they'd probably let them have the day off, but my partners best man is a teacher, and some of the other adults are teachers too, so we just decided to pay the extra money for the Saturday. Of course we were lucky to have that option though
For your own children, Have a word with the head of school, As long as they have good attendance it shouldn't matter...
We had 2nd September & even though s Saturday had a lot of worried parents about start of school term .... I suggest you go for August & send out invites now ( not save the date ) as then folks know it's a fixed date ......
Also be prepared that many won't come regardless how far ahead you tell folks as some always do the same date every year for holidays ..... As I lost a close girlfriend due to this sadly !
Warm wishes for your special day ,
Love Sarah x
Weddings dont count as exceptional circumstances unfortunately and some schools can refer for a fixed penalty notice. Unfortunately it appears schools are far stricter about attendance now. Id see who have hols booked in advance too for aug..
I would definitely go for August, I married the 2nd August (2015) it was a Sunday. I sent out save the dates quite far in advance so people knew not to book a holiday for then. I don't think people had a problem with it being a Sunday they just enjoyed the extra time off work lol.
August- then get your save the dates out early (we did Aug bank holiday and sent out save the dates about a 10 months/a year in advance.) Everyone we invited came and it was fab! X
For people with kids. Deffo august x
Why 2pm..... a lot of time, effort and money goes in to planning a wedding. Get married earlier, that way you get to enjoy the day longer as the day flies by. X
Mines on a Wednesday in June. We've invite friends and family with children we let them know if they want the all day event then the kids will miss school or if they feel unable to do that they are welcome the evening do at 6pm. So far everyone has said they will bring there kids. I also live 1 &1/2 hours away from venue so some are evening coming for 2days xx
If you want the September date I would ask school they often make allowances on these occasions.
Unless you're having the wedding far away from family and people have to travel, why do they need the Monday off if the wedding is on the Sunday?
I would imagine most schools will say no to having Monday off because the pupils were busy on the Sunday, unless its a long distance to travel and they are close family which justifies them travelling the distance
We got married at 12.30 at church was perfect timing we got to the tipis at 1.30 we had welcome cocktails and a magician (whilst we had our pictures done) till 2.30 group pictures then we went into tipis to eat at 3.15 ate at 3.30 finished speeches around 5.30 we had a singer 6-8 some people went outside again and children played on bouncy castles and evening guests arrived at 7pm welcome drinks for them singer had an Hour set left then we had a magic mirror and dj till 1 the day ran really smoothly I would have wanted it any shorter as it gos so fast x
We got married on a Sunday in August and as long as you give enough notice people arrange stuff with work. Had no problems what so ever.
Just asked my children's school this morning as I'm getting married next year and was told they are allowed the day off school for a wedding as it is an exceptional circumstance.
It's all a bit of what ifs .. just ask everyone and then go from there ️
We got married on the last day of term in May and school were fine, we had 11 children no problem. August is good if lots of children attending as summer holidays but adults will still need time off work. Get save the dates out ASAP so it's kept free
You have a year so holiday plans wont yet be made. And why 2pm, any time chosen and your dad will run smoothly.
If you have a Sunday people will.need time off work monday not just kids and school
We got married on a Sunday at 1:30, a lot of the kids that came stayed over and had the Monday off. Everyone came who was invited and the day was amazing. With notice people will come and schools don't really worry about 1 day for a wedding. All the best x
Just call the school and say they've got chicken pox or something. My ex was a teacher and said that a kid was only given 1/2 a day for the funeral of a family member. It's pathetic. Do what you want and to hell with the school. They're not going to fail everything and become drug addicts or whatever because of missing one day.
Just have it in August I'd say, but I'm biased because our wedding date is the 18th!
Do what YOU want. We are getting married in a Friday and have had no issues getting my son authorised leave from school. Don't worry so much
Give people enough notice for the August one! I think family would rather not miss wedding your wedding and could change their planned holiday dates if they had to and hasn't booked any holidays.
I got married August 22nd 2015 and if you give people enough notice it should be fine.We sent save the dates out in dec xx
If you go for the August date, I'd send invites asap. Some people may have holidays already booked, or their workplace may be very strict on leave. At my workplace our holidays go in for next year on 2 Oct and we have a limit on how many people are allowed off.
As long as people have plenty of notice they won't book holidays. We got married on a Wednesday at end of July and most people took time off work and booked holidays for later xx
I got married on Sunday 20 August this year. As long as you give people plenty of notice they can plan their holiday around it and do both. I would go for August.
We'll be getting married in Feb 2020 on a Sunday and you're damn right I'm not sending my kids to school on the Monday. The school will be given plenty of notice but I'm not seeking their permission.
I got married on the 16th September last year which landed on a Friday we didn't have many kids at all just family children, I gave everyone with kids over a years notice so it was up to them what they did. My auntie took my cousins out of school (6th form and high school) and my father in law took my brothers in law out of school for the day as well (to be fair all of the above were big parts in the wedding, bridesmaid, ushers and a page boy) there was only one cousin that was pulled out of school but my auntie left after the ceremony to pick him up and they were both back for the evening meal. The last time my auntie wanted to take my cousins out of school she requested the one day as it was the last day of term and they were going away and the school refused so they had to go away a day later she was told of she took them out of school she would be fined for each child so she rang them both in sick on the wedding day
All of you saying "to hell with school" really need to get your priorities straight! I know that it's annoying that you can't take kids out willy nilly for stuff and that but what's annoying for people working in schools is parents expecting their kids to be caught up because they take them out! One day at a wedding is a bit different but if you can do it in the holiday I would 😊
I work in a school and I can't just take a day off to have my wedding on a school day/ day before a school day just because it's easiest or cheaper!
Your case is different because it's family children and just one day so if they need the day off the next day (like travelling or something) most schools will let that because they aren't monsters!
Hi just book it and don't worry over 1 day from school and if people will be on holiday then it will be cheaper for you :)
What about 1 day lost from work. After a Sunday wedding will anyone want to go.back?
It may backfire if people don't want to.have time off work or can't get it off.
We got married on a Monday afternoon. Our son missed school that day but most guests picked their kids up between the ceremony and meal. All the kids were back at school on the Tuesday. I don't see why you think anyone of the children should need to miss school the day after the wedding - its not like they are going to be hungover lol
I would go august. X
I got married on 19th august which happened to be my husbands birthday too we sent out our wedding invited earlier then usual and had no problem with people being away as if people really want to be there they will make sure there available I don't think we had any one not attend also went to a wedding last Thursday which was a school day and there was loads of kids school age there so I don't think that will be a problem either go with the date you'd rather it's your wedding
We got married on a Monday and it.was only my daughter who was at school so she was off the Monday and the Tuesday (the were shattered the next day) and I wrote a letter to the school and they were fine with it. Just told the nursery my son wouldn't be in on those days xx
You can't decide whether family members take their children out of school so I'd stick with August and send the save the dates out as soon as possible. I would never recommend taking children out of school even if it is just one day. Also, it is likely that the parents will receive a fine too. You may find that some people would just leave your wedding earlier to get their children to be ready for school the next day. If the dates are such a problem then I'd look at changing the time from 2pm. I don't think you'd notice much on the day if you changed it by an hour. I think you are overthinking it.
Keep to august and that gives people enough time to book days of work ect ... schools wont allow other family members children to book day of school august is a perfect month for a wedding and in the 6 weeks holidays and it will give the children something to look forward to in the school holidays