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UKbride Member Request 17 Sep 2017

What would make you more upset, me not asking you to be my bridesmaid, or...

What would make you more upset, me not asking you to be my bridesmaid, or you finding out that the only reason I asked you was because your mom and dad forced me to?

21 Comments
Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 17 Sep 2017

That's a tough one.

Lisa Reynolds
Lisa Reynolds 17 Sep 2017

I wouldn't assume I would be asked to be a bridesmaid for anyone, it's an honour to be asked. For me, being asked because someone made the bride do it would be hurtful. Remember it's your wedding and you should ask who you want to ask, don't feel pressured.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 17 Sep 2017

Hi don't ask if it's not what you want you will only regret it :)

Alison Jarvis
Alison Jarvis 17 Sep 2017

Well if you were my sister I'd be very upset if you didn't ask me but other than that If you didn't want me to be your bridesmaids id rather you didn't ask

charlotte stanley
charlotte stanley 17 Sep 2017

I would hope that if parents 'forced you' that nobody would be petty or immature enough to reveal that to the poor bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

The latter I think would hurt me more

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

If I found out I was only asked because you were forced to do so.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

Ask them they can't be that bad can they?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

The latter.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

Finding out I was only asked because you were forced to

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

Don't ask them if you don't want them, finding out later would be hurtful and having someone you didn't want would tarnish your day

Beccy Ridsdel
Beccy Ridsdel 17 Sep 2017

If you don't want them to be your bridesmaid I don't think you should ask at all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

Finding out you were only asked because you were forced to would be pretty upsetting, but not being asked would depend on the situation..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

The latter. If you're not that close why would it bother them anyway?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

I'd prefer if you didn't ask me cos I don't know you....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

The latter. If you're not close, doing it because you feel obligated/pressured by parents and it meant someone that you are close to would miss out I'd be tempted to ask parents to stump up for the extra cost. (Assuming it's a budget issue and not because the other person is an asshole who you don't like)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

I wish that I didn't have one of my bridesmaids as my bridesmaids

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2017

Assuming you are old enough to marry, then why are you not old enough to make your own decisions? Your mum and dad can't 'make you do' anything. You're are an adult right?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Sep 2017

I asked one girl to be a bridesmaid to help control my other one .... she agreed because I told her why lol but the bridesmaidzilla came out in full force and neither are now in the line up lol

Ceilidh Baird
Ceilidh Baird 19 Sep 2017

Only ask someone to be bridesmaid if it is what you alone want, do not let anyone else make the decision for you.. do what makes you happy!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Sep 2017

I would be so upset knowing you were forced tomask me i would rather just not be brid3smaid and come as a guest

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