What would make you more upset, me not asking you to be my bridesmaid, or you finding out that the only reason I asked you was because your mom and dad forced me to?
That's a tough one.
I wouldn't assume I would be asked to be a bridesmaid for anyone, it's an honour to be asked. For me, being asked because someone made the bride do it would be hurtful. Remember it's your wedding and you should ask who you want to ask, don't feel pressured.
Hi don't ask if it's not what you want you will only regret it :)
Well if you were my sister I'd be very upset if you didn't ask me but other than that If you didn't want me to be your bridesmaids id rather you didn't ask
I would hope that if parents 'forced you' that nobody would be petty or immature enough to reveal that to the poor bridesmaid
The latter I think would hurt me more
If I found out I was only asked because you were forced to do so.
Ask them they can't be that bad can they?
Finding out I was only asked because you were forced to
Don't ask them if you don't want them, finding out later would be hurtful and having someone you didn't want would tarnish your day
If you don't want them to be your bridesmaid I don't think you should ask at all.
Finding out you were only asked because you were forced to would be pretty upsetting, but not being asked would depend on the situation..
The latter. If you're not that close why would it bother them anyway?
I'd prefer if you didn't ask me cos I don't know you....
The latter. If you're not close, doing it because you feel obligated/pressured by parents and it meant someone that you are close to would miss out I'd be tempted to ask parents to stump up for the extra cost. (Assuming it's a budget issue and not because the other person is an asshole who you don't like)
I wish that I didn't have one of my bridesmaids as my bridesmaids
Assuming you are old enough to marry, then why are you not old enough to make your own decisions? Your mum and dad can't 'make you do' anything. You're are an adult right?
I asked one girl to be a bridesmaid to help control my other one .... she agreed because I told her why lol but the bridesmaidzilla came out in full force and neither are now in the line up lol
Only ask someone to be bridesmaid if it is what you alone want, do not let anyone else make the decision for you.. do what makes you happy!!!
I would be so upset knowing you were forced tomask me i would rather just not be brid3smaid and come as a guest