Hi guys. So me and my bf have been together 9.5 years and been engaged a month. We are hoping to get married next Sep. We do have a predicament. None of our parents are willing to help out so it's all down to me and my fiance. We would love to have a hotel and sit down meal and then an evening buffet. The problem we have is the money side of things. Do we go for what we want and scrimp and save which will be over £3k for the venue plus everything else or do we just have a church wedding and hire a village hall which will be a third of the price ?
Church and village hall. You can still have a nice wedding that way. You can hire out your own caters for a cheaper price. If you want to scrimp and save for ages to have the 'perfect wedding' than it's totally up to you guys.. it's about making the day special so if you can do that for the third of the price then that's brill it's about you and your partner at the end of the day. Maybe another idea is to save up so much and then book a late minute wedding. A lot of hotels do deals which can be up to half price with everything included.
I get married saturday and because we have paid for it ourselfs we have done local church and hall. We have done it all for 1400. We have 110 to the day and a max of 250 for the evening. Its worked out so much better and im much more relaxed than i would be if it was a big venue xx
Or maybe do it a year later and you have longer to save for your big venue x
Check different days, some venues do midweek package deals, we changed our day to a Monday n it was over half the price, we gave everyone plenty of notice for work n only 2 have had something to say about it being a week day, lots of people work weekends now anyway so we didn't see the difference, tho I see nothing wrong with the village hall option, they can be just as lovely x
Hi hun, we have done our wedding on £3,500 that's everything, venue, sit down meal, buffet ceremony is all at the same place. Dresses , bridesmaids dresses when I say everything I mean it
We are in the same position but I just doing a registration office as it cheeper and we got a pub booked that we fist meet we got friends doing picture we got family that got a classic car we can use friends doing hair and makeup dress was only £600 wish is a great website as you can get things cheeper it can be done if you willing to cut things and as long as you married love of your life who will know how much you spent
Why don't you get married 2 years in September and have the wedding you want? We booked this year for 2019 just so we could have the wedding we want rather than what we can afford right now. I'd of loved to book for a year away but I know I would regret not having everything I want xx
Decide which bits are important to you both and which bits you can compromise on, also check prices on different dates- they can vary lots! We got married in a beautiful registry office (we aren't religious so that didn't bother us) and had our reception at a local golf club- again beautiful surroundings and lovely food! we got married on Valentine's Day this year and EVERYTHING was cheaper because it was a winter wedding! Might be worth looking at if your budget is tight!
If there is no compromise, put the date back and save for what you really want, in my family we often give cash at Christmas/birthdays, we put that all in the wedding fund and saved like mad! We had a lovely day on a budget all planned and paid for in 8 months x
Me and my fiance are in a a similar situation. We are getting married 2 years from our engagement to make sure it will be everything we want it to be.
I wouldn't go booking anything until sure you can afford it, if you've been quoted a price you will want extras that cost a lot more than you will probably budget for. Why not book wedding for 2 years time so you can get what you want and have more time to save. Or save over the next year then book something once you have a rough idea of how much you have managed to save. X
I would price up the venue for a different month, like November, January or February. Wedding venues are normally quieter those months and you might be able to get a better deal x
I'm getting married next September and we are going to the local chapel them the local community centre. It's a lot cheaper and can be just has nice. We plan to have a fish and chip van for our 'sit down meal ' then buffet at night xx
Ive got a church and village hall for my wedding! Loads cheaper and I can really make the venue my own
Were having a late afternoon registry office wedding & pubs function room.. i've done my own flowers, made the hand bags, & MiL2b is making our cake & paying for buffet. & because we have saved money on my "vintage" gown, we have booked a surprise entertainment for guests & 2 nice cars.. Bridal party are just expecting a disco & local Taxis.. It's all about choosing what to splurge on & what to cut out. We chose a function room that needs very little decorating.. so saved there too... Good luck!!
You've got to just be realistic with what u have and what u can do I've got a tiny budget and had to cut loads of things I wanted sadly its life u can't have everything u want I'm gutted tbh but u have to go with what you have
Have what you want and just give yourself more time to save for it? You don't need to get married next year I'm assuming so why rush?
Have a look on Groupon for offers, there's a lot of them for around £2k for everything x
Have you looked at registry offices? And maybe a restaurant or pub after? You could see how much that would be! If they have a private dinning area!
If you have a budget and your wanting to get married next year then hall would prob be the better solution if your worried about money, or plan longer a couple of years gives you more time to pay things off and you can set monthly payments up once you got deposits all sorted and be less stressful. Proper look about for companies to hire try and do as much as you can your self it's all doable if you put your mind to it whatever way you get married I'm sure your day will be a lovely day xx
I've gone through lots of options... in my case I'm getting help but I was going to pay 7000 for just the venue and food etc but I've finally decided your only paying for other people to attend and it'd still be a special day having a church wedding and a reception in a function room like the village hall. In my case the golf club 🙂 it's the special touches you put to the room that counts x .. I was originally January 2020 but now I'm going cheaper it's now 2019 x
We did a church then a council owned Manor House which cost next to nothing to rent out with views to die for. It was perfect for us and did all food and drink ourselves. We had the best day and was so relaxed. X
Honestly I would put the wedding off and save for the day you truly want. Otherwise you might be left saying "wish we did" xx
Loads of hotel wedding offers on Groupon, worth a look. A church can be expensive too so maybe look into having a registry office? There are some really nice ones out there. You can also find a list online of all the places that are licensed for civil ceremonies (usually on the council website) and call them to enquire about prices.
Check other venues infound a really nice place for 2000 ceraminy room. Reception sit down meal and buffet later.
Also different months or a mid week will lower the price
Way to get Price down go for a Monday & in winter ... Folks might like adding a Monday onto a weekend to make it a bank holiday get away ! Warm Wishes for a Magical day , ours definitely was Special .... We did a budget wedding at church & village hall ..... Loved it !!
Church and Village Hall or postpone to save up.
The holiday Inn do a sit down meal and evening do from 1599 ... your welcome xx
Omg i so know how you feel!! Me and my fiance are getting married in June '18 we would have loved a big hotel wedding too but your talking easily 9-10 grand plus then all the little extras we have 4 children so that was an outright no just for 1 day. We are now getting married in cornwall at liskeard registry office which was only £259 having pics on crantock beach and a meal at the bowgie inn guests we've kept to a minimum both parents and 1 family ( friends) have said yes so far and they are paying for their own meals ( just pub lunches nothing stupid and fancy) then we are having a party when we get home. Can't wait :)
Registrar is 350 in Cumbria thanks to the General Synod a church wedding is 450!!!
We've both been married before and with us both having children and lots in the family we're having a late afternoon ceremony and then a reception. Weddings are boring for children and then they start to play up. We didn't want that. So we could use what we'd save for a Saturday wedding (we have lots of travelling guests).
We get married in November this year and have been planning it for 9 months. It's coming in at about 2K. I'm doing my own hair and make-up, I do it every other day anyway. We're not hiring suits and my perfect dress cost £50 on eBay, beautiful and in pristine condition. You don't have to spend thousands and thousands to have the perfect day.
Some people have got us things for the wedding as our gifts, could your parents not contribute that way?
My Mum has hired us a sweet trolley and my sister-in-law is doing our cake. Just an idea.
As long as everyone has a good time I don't see why we should be spending thousands on making it a full day when we can have exactly what we want for much less.
I'd price things first you need to spend a lot of your budget on deposits. That has been the hardest part. Since then I have been paying off suppliers and my partner saving for the venue.
I also priced the 2 types of wedding and for a few hundred more we are having the wedding we both wanted.
Problem is you can't have it all, get married when you want and compromise on what you have or wait to get married and have everything you want. I had the exact same problem, I wanted to get married and not wait but wanted everything I wanted. What's more important to you? Being husband and wife as soon as possible or being able to have the exact day you want? It's as simple as that. Ways to save money as others have said
1. Choose a weekday, we went to a wedding on a Friday and it was brilliant
2. Village hall, there's companies out there that can provide a marquee interior for any room, it's not as expensive as you think and totally transforms the room
3. Look at what you willing to save on, for me it was stationery, accessories and shoes, bridesmaids, photobooth etc.
4. Make your own little touches I made a directional sign myself, favour cards, photobooth sign, etc etc it's not as hard as you think and we used the bridesmaids bouquets as centre pieces
5. Look for people selling wedding decorations, table centres etc
6. Do you have any friends that could help you out with flowers/ invitations etc etc
I hope you have the day you wish for regardless of when you decide to do it xx
The package can be 999 with evening buffet
Scrimp & save, look up how you can do bits yourself to save money (invites, no favours, do your own hair/makeup, no cars etc)
You could have a late afternoon wedding with speeches and afternoon tea and then have the buffet/hog roast or similar in the evening. You will save a fortune by not having a sit down meal.
My friend is having an afternoon wedding at a church and then evening event with hog roast etc, no sit down meal but they will still do speeches and stuff which works :) Her parents are paying. However, my partner and I are paying with no money from family, we know what we want so we are waiting until 2020 so we can save up for it. Friend & I both got engaged within weeks, they are getting married next year.
So I found a few venues I liked and looked at prices and then my mom found one for half price on Groupon, I had spoke to the woman anyway and she was aware I was on a budget and had been trying to help out as much as I could, when I told her we had found it on Groupon she said that she could match that although it had expired. I would definitely call around and email people asking what offers they could do. We found some places that would do either a sit down meal or a buffet for 50 people for £1000 but would mean reducing numbers, also look on Groupon 😊 xx
We are in same predictament. Me and my fiance are grateful for his family but they arent in a position to help either. And my family- well lets not go there really. But we are booking for 2019 and we will have something we can afford but that is nice
We are paying for the wedding ourselves - we can't afford a stately home type venue but still wanted sit down meal etc so we have gone for a pub that does the whole day inc. ceremony with exclusive use, and booked it over 2 years in advance to give us time to save. We looked at doing registry office followed by a village hall with a hog roast company for catering and it's working out roughly the same amount - so we chose the pub as we won't have to set up the venue and tidy up afterwards.
We have are scrimping and saving, the hotel and food etc alone is 3000 and we will be proud to say we have done it I also haven't asked for help xx
I'm scrimping and saving, to have our dream day, after all, it's once in a life time and it's a celebration of our love
I had a church and social club hall wedding. Everyone loved it, very informal and fun.
where do you live?
we are getting married on a Sunday. you will find Sunday - Thursday are cheap save yourself about £1000 doing it.
Well why not plan the wedding for September 2019 and give yourself a bit longer to save? That way it'll be easier on you to get the money together without having to compromise on what you really want. And tbh if you havent booked anything yet you might struggle to get the suppliers that you want for next September as most people book far in advance and its a popular month to get married so leaving it a bit longer might be better. Trust me it comes around quick enough!
We hired a community hall after our church wedding. Our sit down meal for 165 was fish and chips from the local chippy!!!
We are having a 4pm church wedding and then an evening reception at a golf club venue. Saved us a fortune only feeding guests once x
We're going to Gretna and we've got the cermony, function, meal, bar and hotel room the night before plus the bridal suite after for 2,500 xx
My other in law did all the food for our wedding. It was ham salad. And for dessert we had jelly made in storm margarine tubs. This was April 1971. No one cared. The music came from someone's record player. And it was held in the local village hall. I havnt a clue how much it all cost. But it was a great day.
You don't have to spend lots of money to have a great day
You can try a Friday or Sunday wedding
Try a different month
Or if that's not an option go with the Village hall as they are great venues and you can decorate it just how you would love it
Do what feels right but don't start married life in lots of debt x
Well provided you can definitely afford it, I'd go with the church wedding. I bet if you had it you'd probably wonder why you considered the more costly option! You'll have a fantastic day either way
It's all your choice at the end of the day. If you really want the more expensive option, go for it and take the sacrifices! You (hopefully) only do it once at the end of the day! If it doesn't really bother you so much and you just want to be married by the end of it then go for the cheaper option.
Me and my h2b have been together nearly 10 years, he proposed to me on Christmas day. I always said I because I've waited long enough to get engaged then I don't want to wait too long for the wedding. Due to its both being independent people we don't want money off our parents, so we're saving and planning on getting married in 2019 so we have plenty of time to save and we can plan it all without too much stress
why not have a late afternoon wedding at church then to village hall for an outside caterer come and do a meal there or a huge buffet and you can have everyone you want at the whole thing, disco cheaper than a band, use friends cars with ribbons,
Its not where you get married it's who's there to make your day special to you. I would get married anywhere as long it was with the people I love x
You could always get married on a weekday, we get married Sept 2019 and originally where looking st getting married a Friday or Saturday but the venue we picked was looking 9,000 so we priced a weekday and are now doing it on a Thursday for nearly half that price
I am having all of mine at the same place £685 for 30 sit down and 80 at night. that's all the food, first drinks for day guest is on us at a cost of £200 and we don't drink lol. all in all with shopping around my wedding will cost less than £1700 and that's with my dress xx
We are using a golf club function room. They have there own catering to and its a fraction of the price of a hotel
I say if you're going to get married soon then church and hall but why not book for 2/3 years time so you can save for the wedding you want and pay bit by bit?
Hi. Have a hall and save your money. It's your marriage you invest in and not the wedding. Believe me your guests who love you both will not give a monkey's what they eat or where they eat it.
Me and partner have paid for everything our selves (mum is a cake maker)
It's very doable to have what you want if you have extra time, we got engaged Oct 2014 amd are to be married this Oct so 2 years saving has helped us achieve that, aswell as having a baby born last year amd a house to run
If you really want your dream wedding, why don't you put it off & save? It is a difficult situation to be in. As on the one hand I guess you would love to get married asap, but on the other im sure you'd love to have your dream wedding? We are in a similar boat fiance wise, so we are now saving like lunatics for the next year, which will just about cover it! We're also getting married next September! :) x
Look at weekdays & out of traditional wedding season. Some places charge up to 50% less for those dates. Good Luck.
I suppose it depends what's important to you. Getting married to your partner or having the typical 'fancy' wedding. We had a fancy wedding, Manor House, wedding breakfast, evening buffet, the lot but we planned 3 years in advance to accommodate what we wanted. If you've been together so long already then take a few years to plan the day you truly want xx
If you really want the wedding with the trimmings hold off for another year to give you some breathing space to save. Either wedding will be lovely if it is what you want xx
I haven't read all the comments so I'm sure someone else has already pointed it out, but please double check the price of a church wedding before choosing this route. Our church ceremony is costing close to £750 by itself, it would have been FAR cheaper for us to have our ceremony in a registry office or town hall. Village hall weddings can be beautiful but think of other options too - maybe a pub with a marquee in the garden, or smaller hotels?
All my wedding comes to £3000 for everything that's getting married at hotel, photographer , dresses, meal and buffet, music,hair and makeup, transport for people that need it, decorations,presents, rings and me and h2b getting married may 2019 xxx
Why is it people expect thier parents to help? It is not their job you should never expect anything if you want to get married then you should pay for it and if people would like to contribute then that's a bonus. Grinds my gears when people expect and then moan when thier parents don't pay. Do what most of us have had to do save as hard as you can and then pay yourself x
If my husband and I had been saving for our ideal wedding we would still be saving now. As it is we realised that being married was more important to us. All in all our wedding cost just over £1000, this includes registry office, meal after ceremony, reception venue, decorations, buffet, DJ. It hleped that we had a close family friend make all of our wedding outfits (husbands suit, my wedding dress, my sons suit and my daughters bridesmaid dress) and cake. Hope this helps u xx
Hold out for what you want and push the date back a couple if years to afford it x
I guess you have two options, you either go with what you can afford, or you change the date of your wedding and save longer to have the wedding you really want. You are already pledging your lives to each other, so waiting a little longer, although frustrating, if it means you get the wedding you want, why not? :) Best of luck x
My daughter just had a registry office and village hall wedding. It was an amazing day, it was all they could afford as we were not in a position to help . Xx
im having a church and thats still £800 so church is not always the cheaper option, id say save abit longer and have the wedding you want 3k is very reasonable! im paying £7500 for venue n church
You have what you can afford. None of it should be put on a credit card or loan taken out for one day. If you can't pay with cash then go without or with something you can afford. That's my moto and how I've been brought up.
Have you looked at Wowcher/Groupon etc? They sometimes have wedding offers for certain amount of people etc.
Might be worth a look before you decide!
£3k for a venue isn't bad at all I'd snatch there hands off and just save x
The other 'random' thing I can suggest is checking out groupon. I booked our wedding in April, and we get married tomorrow (eeeekkkk). With venue, church, flowers, cake, photographer.....pretty much everything we've come in at £3k, but everything is covered in that! Just a thought x
There's always the option of the Registrar office if church isn't your thing. You could then do a pub/ restaurant afterwards for a very affordable price. You gotta do whats right for the both of you...you wouldn't wanna look back years later with regret & think "we should've...."
For us total bill was £8,000 that was for railway station for the day, steam train, photographer videographer sit down afternoon tea for 50 evening buffet for 120 Dj registrar hair makeup suits dresses for me maid of honour & bridesmaid & honeymoon to Italy which we go on tommorw we got married last Saturday 9th September we had the most magical amazing beautiful day we could ever hope for
You could do completely DIY and invite people to a 10 years together party and surprise them with the wedding ! Booking a venue for a party is a lot cheaper than for a wedding !!!
I think that it depends on what is important to you. A great day is dependant upon the atmosphere and not the amount of money that you're spending!
I found that as soon as you mentioned the word wedding, prices rocketed!
We sourced everything ourselves! We had the ceremony & the reception in the same place. We went to France-City Europe- & bought all of the alcohol; we bought lots of stuff from EBay like balloons, bunting etc; decorated the place ourselves! I made the cake because I can bake & ice!
My dress came from Debenhams in the sale- it was reduced by £400; his stuff came from John Lewis! We did everything in about 8 weeks! My invitation s I made myself with card from Amazon & my skills on Microsoft
My point is that you don't have to spend squillions & if in your case you buy things incrementally whilst saving for your venue, you will have the best day
Good luck with it all & of course congratulations
If you have a village hall you can choose caterers or a restaurant to do the food and have greater control whereas at a hotel you may be restricted with the food they offer. Also you can get decorations and things from Poundland or B&M or other places. Also maybe try some charities, some charities have a wedding section as part of their shop maybe try them for wedding invites etc. I'm using Macmillan Cancer shop as my mum died of cancer. If you have friends with particular skills maybe ask them to use them instead of buying a present, such as invites, photography etc
Go with what you want. Will you be disappointed if you both really want the venue? Me and my partner went through the same. Been together just a bit longer than you and have a beautiful daughter who's coming up for 10. We weighed up the we're doing it once, do we really want that many guests? Do we wait another year (but we have other things we want to save for). In the end we went with the venue and set a budget. Checked for a few months we can save enough and we can. But if we couldn't I think we would've gone with the cheaper rather than scripting for longer.
Groupon do amazing wedding deals. 50 guests usually for the day. Look around cause there could be an amazing deal to be done. Xx
It's your day, it will be amazing marrying your partner....church and village hall is perfect! You can decorate it on a budget and will look great! the guests are there to celebrate you! not be surrounded by expensive decor they don't even pay much attention to! I got married on a beach! and we are happily married 22 years later. It was a very special day for us, saying the vows.....it was our day! I loved it. This is your day, you'll love it, your wedding, your marriage! hey, if you want professional photos for free ( if you are in East Sussex) my partner and I will give that to you! :) www.jiphotographyforalluk.com We give away one wedding a year to a couple on a budget who we think should have amazing photos! Let us know. Good luck with it all!