I've been to two weddings in the past year. November and May. I'm still waiting on a thank you for the gifts I gave them for both weddings (different set of friends). My wedding is at the end of this month and plan whilst on the plane to our honeymoon to do our thank yous as I think it's extremely important. What is everyone's thoughts on doing and receiving thank yous? Is it now no longer the etiquette? Am I old fashioned? Still doing thank yous, but curious (age early twenties)
I'll be doing thank yous for all of our gifts. Going to keep a note of who gave what as we open them. Then get a photo of or wedding day made into a card to send everyone. Z
I've only ever had 1 thank u card back, I don't expect it but I intend doing it after ours x
We ordered our thanks you cards the day before we went on honeymoon so when we got back we could send them straight out! I did have one gift with no 'from tag' so didn't know who's that was, but everyone else did get theirs sent out within a month of our wedding.
Although a couple of friends have said we shouldn't have wasted the money on doing it as they knew how thankful we were!
We got married on the 2nd Sept and went away on the 6th- we ordered ours before we went away with a pic the vicar gave us and came home to them today Always have sent little thank you notes- we do for our 2 year old for every birthday/ Christmas gift too
I got a thankyou card from a wedding I went to as a plus 1 because I gave them a card .. I will be doing mine asap after my wedding .. I think it's polite x
They may one might be waiting on their professional photos to use one and get a thank you card made up ? as that's what we are doing but as for the November wedding sounds like they arnt sending out one, I do think it's extremely important x
I think doing thank you cards is being curtious and gratious!. I shall definitely be doing them. My opinion it's just plain rude not to thank someone for a gift.
I'm doing thank you cards. It's nice for guests to feel appreciated especially if they have had to travel/get accommodation to attend and if they give you a gift.
I made a little photo collage thank you photo for everyone, was about 6 weeks after wedding due to wanting a group pic off the photographer.
We did our thank you's within a few days of our wedding. We went to a wedding reception last August and didn't get a thankyou until we got our Christmas card in the December. Personally I thought it rude to leave it that long.
Never had a thank you card from a wedding before, but they do usually thank me in person on the day.
a thank you should be sent. I find it incredibly rude when people don't send a simple thank you, regardless if its £5 or £500 it's just etiquette to say thank you x
My thank you cards had a photo from the wedding day on the front so I had to wait to get my photographs from the photographer and then sent the thank you cards out which was about 2 months later x
We had a picture taken on our wedding day with a bunting that said 'thank you' and had it printed onto cards. We did thank you's, wrote down what everyone bought or if they were over generous (few £100) then we made an extra note to be more grateful on those cards I still think it's the done thing xxx
I didn't do thank you cards. Only because we were intending on using a pic from the wedding. However.our photographer buggered every photo so we didn't end up getting any. By the time we realised months had passed and it was too late really to send them. We did speak to everyone and thank them,explaining the reason why we didn't send any. x
We got married on 7th August and had a celebration on 27th August. I'm currently writing our homemade cards as I want to get them out soon
We will be doing thank you cards for our wedding, I have 2 sons & always send thank you cards for presents received for birthdays, christenings etc... I like to send them as it acknowledges that you've received their gift
Yep, I sent them straight away
Been to about 15 weddings over the past 12 years and I think that I've only had one or two thank you cards, which then go straight in the bin. We are doing a receiving line to personally thank everyone for coming & will probably say thank you in person to anyone in particular
I think it is important I thanked everyone via text the day after wedding and sent out thank cards too however I have been to 5 weddings and only received one thank you card xx
We will definitely be doing thank you cards and I'm 25 :)
We sent thank you's to everyone, when opening our cards at 1.30am I even remembered to write down what people gave us! Quite proud of myself for that one!
I think you should always do thank you cards. I'm still waiting for a card from someone who got married in 2014!
We got married in July and are waiting on our wedding photos as we were wanting to use a photo from the day on the cards.
We did thank yous, but I wouldn't expect one these days. Always nice to receive one though, which is why we did them
100% we will be sending them as I think it's just plain rude not to. I was always made to write them as a child for birthday and Christmas presents and will intend to do so with my children as well. X
Wait to send Thankyou letters till .AFTER you come off honeymoon.
People won't expect you to send them while on honeymoon at all.
Order them now and start sending them the week you return
I'm getting married in 2019 and this hadn't even crossed my mind...! I thought favours and paying for the entire event would be enough!? I've not ever received a thank you for wedding gifts....I thought that was part and parcel of the day.
I went to 4 weddings last year and only received a thank you card from one couple so maybe it's not the done thing nowadays? I wasn't expecting to receive a thank you card from anyone but I'll be sending them out after my wedding
iIsuggested to my daughter to do them as the gifts came in, but she waited to do it after the honeymoon and settling into the house, she hand wrote them with a personal message to each, she regretted waiting and wished she had done them one at a time :)
I have always received thank you cards and will definitely be sending them. I am so grateful for everyone making the effort to come and for their generous gifts. Xxx
We will be doing them for sure as it's the done thing and as everyone has said it's nice to say thank you for a gift. However this post has got me thinking, we thank our guests for coming with wedding favours, a 4 course meal, wine and champagne, sometimes accommodation for the night, and then send them a thank you card too!! Pretty good going being a guest, no!?
I think common courtesy should elicit a thank you
When I got married I sent out thank you cards as we were both very grateful for our guests coming and being apart of our special day and the very generous gifts they gave, I think it's such a small simple thing to show gratitude x
I'm going to be issuing thank you's after the wedding. My self and the h2b are a bit traditional in that way.
It's nice to do them but I deffo wouldn't do them on the plane take your time
Ahhh this is a pet hate of mine! I strongly believe you should send thank yous and actually get a bit miffed when I don't get one as it's lack of acknowledgement of the gift.
We did and I still have the list of gifts we received. I've had thank yous from all the weddings I've attended, though sometimes they've been saved until Christmas card
I hate it when you don't receive a thank you card, really bad manners! We sent thanks your after our wedding, the kids do after Xmas, birthdays etc. Simple manners.
We had a whirlwind after our wedding, got pregnant was very poorly, and we bought the thank you's but never got around to sending them. We rarely receive thank you's though, I don't get offended though.
Been to 2 weddings this year, received a thank you card from one & not the other... quite frankly I wasn't bothered either way.
I certainly would never EXPECT a thank you card. A thank you on the day is good enough.
Cards are just an additional cost and a waste in my eyes... the one I received only ended up the bin the next day
I think doing on the plane is a little too keen, but yes I've always been taught to get them as soon as possible. I find it very rude they haven't sent anything, even if it's just a text or something.
I got married a month tomorrow and still not managed the thankyou cards!
You will be surprised how quickly time passes and I have personally concentrated on my name change. I certainly don't think anyone expects you to write anything on honeymoon!
From previous weddings I think one to two months is ok but tbh in the modern day it might be something that fades away.
It's completely up to you. X
I'm writing thank you cards but I think aiming to do them on the plane is ambitious. You will probably be exhausted and you may not have even had time to open all your presents (I've been married two weeks and still haven't!). We are getting a wedding photo printed on ours, so aiming to have them out 4-6 weeks after the wedding.
We got thank you cards made as part of our photography package and sent them out (early 20s when I got married)
We sent thank you a within a month of our wedding and we are in our early twenties.. We took a picture on our wedding day with a 'thank you' to pose with and had it printed on cards. If you explain your plan to your photographer they can plan this in to their editing etc
I think it's really rude you haven't heard back from them. I gave wedding cake as a present and received not one word of a thank you!
I do on the other hand receive the odd hand written thank you from my brides and it always brings a smile to my face.
I guess some people are just rude!! Xx
We gave out thank you cards, I'd say thank you for any other type of gift and it also marked the effort and love people had put into attending our wedding day. I personally think it's just good manners and I always give a gift at weddings so really don't think it's too much to expect a thank you, whether that's a card, text, verbally etc. Some couples disagree judging by the lack of thank yous we had for their wedding gifts/ money haha x
I"ll be sending thank you cards, it's only polite and good manners to do it xx
We went to London right after our wedding and we had little thank you post cards made...we sent them out after we got back. It had a photo of us on the day :)
I got married at the end of July 2017, ordered our personalised thank you cards at the end of august, took just over a week to be delivered and have been writing cards out since, trying to write them as I see people but now the majority just need handing out. I have received thank you cards before sometimes 6-8 months after the wedding. But I agree it is important and polite to do so. Just need to remember life gets busy at time and some people may not of even though of it.
I got a thank you photo printed off with a poem on saying thank you for being part of our day
It's just good manners to say thank you for any gift you receive, it doesn't have to be anything over the top but shows you appreciate the gift.
We sent thank you cards, but I'm not offended if I don't receive one I don't give gifts to get a thank you
I 100% expect a thank you card and have received some beautiful ones in the past however I have also been to weddings where they haven't sent them and have felt rather miffed about it so yes I do totally understand you! I certainly will be doing thank you's
We planned to send them out and had them all printed and ready to go but life got in the way and we just didn't have time and then forgot about them. Although all guests and gift givers were thanked for their gifts. Not every one does it tho think I am yet to go to a wedding and receive a thank you card
We attended a wedding last year and received a thank you note from the bride and groom about a week later x
I have done thank you notes for our engagement presents which was July, in process of sending them now. I think it's just polite but they can take some time to sort out. I know I won't be doing them til after the honeymoon though, that's time for us and us alone!
I sent thank you cards, got them made on vista's print in a postcard style with a collage of photos from the day and hand wrote an individual message on the back of each... cost about £30 for about 60 (120 guests, mainly couples) And not much for postage, I had loads of stamps anyway! A few have probably been chucked but I know my mum etc framed them x
I think etiquette is 3 months as most people now like to use wedding photos on their thank you cards x
I got married a month ago- want to get Thank you card with a few official pics on so haven't done them yet but want to asap. I think it's important to do then but think people understand they may take a while to sort.
I started writing mine as soon as I could. We had a John Lewis gift list and I noted down what people bought as they did it so I could personalise as much as I could.
We're on our honeymoon ATM so as soon as we're back I'll send them out.
I haven't received thank you's from weddings I've attended and hadn't really expected to either.
I've always received thank you's after attending a wedding, even if I didn't give them a gift!
I did thank you cards after our wedding, I felt it was quite important to show our appreciation to all guests who came and made our wedding such an amazing day and thank them for sharing our special day with us but also for their lovely gifts.
I waited for my photos to come back and then had thank you cards made which included my favourite photos of the day :-) I also gave thank you's to all my suppliers like my cake maker, venue etc X
I spent a small fortune having personalised thank you notes made with our wedding picture for everyone at our wedding, and those not, who sent us presents or money. I then forgot all about sending them and found them in the box about a year later. I did however make sure to thank people in person or on the phone if they were far away. We thanked people on the day or we made, what we think, was a lovely post on Facebook thanking everyone and tagged them too. Xxx
Age late 20s, we will be sending thankyou in the next few days. Got married on Saturday.
Always do thank you cards! And make them personal, not generic. I may be old fashioned but if people have spent a fortune on dressing for your wedding, travelling to it, spending on drinks and buying a present for you then the least you can do is send a handwritten note thanking them. It's an expensive day for them too so I'd expect to receive just a small note. Basic good manners and etiquette
Yes we sent thank yous out as well and always received a thank you. We even done this when we received gifts for our first baby. It is very important for us.
Ordered some nice postcards with a wedding photo on as soon as we got home from honeymoon to send out as our thank you card. Shocks me that people don't! Xx
I've been to lots of weddings, some I've received a thank you and others nothing
We will be sending them out
I agree, it is so rude not to thank guests for making the effort to come, and also for the gift if they gave one. We are going on a mini moon to Devon in a holiday home just after the wedding and will be writing our thank you cards there x
I got married 3 weeks ago. We will be sending thank you cards for our gifts but we are waiting for our photos back from the photographer as we will be using one of those to make them x
I am pro "thank you " rude not to
I ordered mine so that when I got back from the honeymoon they were ready for me to write and send out. I think people have made the effort to get you a gift you need to say thank you. Same as any gift you receive xx
I get married next year and we'll be doing thank you cards it's just courtesy especially when we have guests coming from miles away too
I did thank yous and do think it's important. But I think that doing it on the plane on way to honeymoon is probably unrealistic. We hadn't opened our gifts either by that point! If you do a gift list you don't get them delivered for a couple of weeks afterwards. I did thank you cards with some pictures from my photographer and most thank you cards I've had have been the same - it's a nice personal touch and will take a few weeks to get pics back and order cards if that's what you want to do. Yes cards are important but I wouldn't do them on honeymoon!
I got married in July this year and not yet sent them as awaiting for my photos to send them it x
We just got married in Saturday 9th September we opened our presents & cards last night we are off on honeymoon this Saturday for a week & plan to send out thankyou cards when we get home x x
I got married in aug and I'm waiting for my photos to come back so I can put them on my thank you cards... it's killing me that's I've not sent them yet... I feel so rude... but I am definitely sending them xx
I will be sending thank you cards although I've been to lots of weddings and not received one for the gifts we've given
I got married in mid July and it was mid October before I got our thank you cards out due to early pregnancy morning sickness. I did apologise to everyone for taking so long though xx
I am getting wed june 2018 and am 25years old, and will certaily be sending thank yous out.
Its something that my family have always done, even when I was at primary school my mum would help me write thank you cards to my friends for my birthday gifts.
So its a deffinate for wedding gifts and its lovely to receive them a week or so after the wedding or after the honeymoon.
They dont have to cost the earth either so there is no excuse that there is no budget left.
We got married in August last year and didn't get round to sending the Thank You cards until Christmas (although it did save on the postage :p). There were some people that commented on how long it had been since the wedding, but in honesty I have been to weddings and received no formal thank you. I think it is a lovely gesture and I would like to think some have kept it as a momento...but am fully aware that many will have ended up in the bin so think it is entirely up to each individual and budget because they do cost. A personal thank you phone call/text/chat would be just as nice in my mind.
A little manners go a long way, the cost of a card to say thank you is minimal imo. It offers a personal touch as well. We sent them out and tbh I thought it was just polite to do so.
We sent them but as a child I always had to write thank you notes for gifts as it was the done thing and it's polite..... and at least whoever gave you the gift knows you actually received it!! X
I have never received a thank you card, or even a simple text before. I get married next month and thank you cards hadn't even crossed my mind but now I've seen this I will definitely consider them xx
We get married next March and we'll definitely be sending thank yous. My dad always brought me up to send thank yous after birthday/Christmas, I'm 22 and still do it 🙂
I did my thank yours from engagement party the next day and will probably do my wedding ones in the week following the wedding I think it very rude not to give one x
I was a little bit late with my thank you cards, but every person who came (regardless of whether they gave us a gift) got a handwritten card, rather than just a generic unpersonalised thank you. Also those who sent cards or gifts but didn't come got a card too. I think it's rude not to! If people take the time to celebrate with you or give a gift you should always send a thanks!
Not everyone does it but it is a nice thing to receive and I think it's the polite thing to do. I think people would understand if they received a thank you after your honeymoon.
I think Thank Yous are a must
Yes I think you should send them aslong as they are personal and not just thank you for your gift as if I got that I would be like " they don't even know what I bought them"
Yes guest made a big effort so thank you cards a must I think x
Ours were done when we returned from honeymoon , some people had given us money towards experiences so was nice to be able to say what we had done. Etiquette dictates they should be done within 6mths of the wedding but unfortunately too many people now think a txt will do
I hate not receiving a thank you . So yes I think cards showing your appreciation are very important . You set the standard . Have a lovely day x
I think it's really rude not to send thank you cards. It's definitely not old fashioned!
Thankyou a are definitely a must but make sure you write down what everyone got you so you can individually thank them and it's more personal
To be honest I've never received a thank you card for a gift given, however I've never thought it of it as rude either. X
Not just wedding presents - I think if anyone makes the effort to buy and send any present they deserve a thank you . It is quite upsetting when no acknowledgement of receipt is received after thought and pleasure have gone into the buying.
We didn't send thank you cards, but did make a point to see everybody after our honeymoon to thank them in person. Thank you cards are an additional expense that are just going to be thrown in the bin at the end of the day!
I've been to plenty of weddings, never got a thank you card and it's never bothered me.
Mine isnt done yet and my wedding was july. Im using a photo from my photographer and waiting on the memory stick for high res images :) but everuone knows im slow anyway.
I would not expect a thank you card but at same time, me and partner are not wanting gifts at all so its one less thing for us to think about doing lol. I have recieved thank you cards before but i honestly doubt they remembered what i gave them lol. As others have said,if you are going to do thank you cards then make them personal.pay attention to who gives you what before sending the cards. Any couple who have an online registry should definitely send cards to those who purchase those specific gifts though
I've read that Thank you'd should be done within 2 months. So I'm going to go on honeymoon for two weeks then do them the week we get back
I'm getting married in 2019, but even now I think it's important and to be honest respectful to send them. We had an engagement party last month and we sent out thank you cards to everyone that gave us gifts (whether it was money or item). So we will definitely be sending out thank you cards after our wedding x
We waited until our photos were done then made a postcard size picture with a personal note on the back, the last few weddings I've been to we didn't get thank you notes so I don't know if people bother anymore, I just thought it was polite and thought people might want a picture to remember the day by x
And they were absolutely beautiful too ! - reminded us of a very special day x
I think you should, it's rude not to, plus it's nice sending a card that you can sign off as Mr & Mrs! We got ours out about 1 month after our wedding and wrote a personal message in every card (when opening cards and gifts we made notes of who gave us what) x
I'll be sending them but i would never expect one from someone else. A gift is my thank you for inviting me. Do i send a card to say thank you for the thank you? It's a bit never ending really
We are sending thank you cards, but need to wait for the photos as we want a wedding picture on front of the card.
I allways send thank you a for Xmas and birthdays and will be for our wedding too. I think it's nice and the right thing to do. Xx
Hi I think they are important :)
At My wedding some people didn't give me a card or present.i wasn't bothered but they never got one back at their wedding either.i gave thankyou cards out straight away.x
I got married two years ago and spent ages writing thank you cards ... found a load I had forgotten to post the other day ... I think the moment has now passed
In the ideal world it would be fantastic to get thank yous out I got married 8 and half weeks ago and I am still trying to write them not because I am rude but when you go away you want to relax then you get home back to working the kids it just sadly gets pushed back. Ideally I wanted to write mine on the plane but I was so exhausted I just wanted to sleep. They are important but and i hate to think any one thinks we are rude but they also know we have super busy life's too
I think it's important, I gave a money gift once and it was quite a lot to me and I didn't get a thank you or even acknowledged that I gave them it X
I went to a wedding earlier this year and didn't receive one, but I don't really care because she personally text me and said thank you we live in the modern world lol
Every wedding I have been to have sent thank you cards, you have made an effort to go to they're wedding & boughts gifts a thank you card is a must x
Ive never received a thank you card for a gift I've taken to a wedding. To me, being invited to the day, and having my food/drinks paid for is enough,most of the time they thank you for being there anyway, so if take it they thank for the gift at the same time
We got married in march and were so swept up in post wedding stuff we totally forgot to send thank you (we have a gift list for each gift ready for sending thank you's) so we've decided on our 6 month anniversary (end of the month) to send them with a humorous note inside
Thank you is always important, just as RSVPing is. But I have found that it's often something that gets overlooked or people don't think it's important or simply assume you just know. I've learned not to get worked up about it any more, and to just let it go. Follow up RSVP's if needed otherwise assume they aren't coming. As for thank you's, I think it's good etiquette but don't let it bug you if you're not sent/given one - there are far more important things xx
we got postcard type cards made with a few pictures from the day on. we made a list of what people got us and sent them after we got back from a week away we did a few each night and sent them all at the same time.
I couldn't imagine not sending thank you cards!
I will be doing thank you's! I think it's rude not to receive one...you wouldn't receive a birthday or Christmas present without saying thank you why should a wedding gift be any different?
I agree, it's so rude not to say thank you.
Well since we have a honeymoon gift list we will be sending thank yous after the honeymoon so we can send people photos of us on our honeymoon enjoying their gifts...our honeymoon isnt till a month and a half after our wedding so it'll be two months before we can start sending out thank you cards. I wouldnt want to leave it much longer than that and yes I still think it is important to thank guests for their gifts.
A thankyou should be sent. Its good manners .
I personally think a 3 course meal, beverages and entertainment is enough to say thank you. Of course you are extremely grateful for their presence and gifts, that's why you spend the whole night going around thanking everyone for coming. I think thank you cards are very old fashioned x
We sent ours out just over a month after, We wanted to thank everyone for coming and their generosity on the day x
I got married in 2013 and we sent our Thank You cards out as soon as we were back from our honeymoon!
My partner and I are planning for 2020 and will defo be sending thank you cards it's polite and I was brought up with manners x
Me and my husband did thanks in the form of fridge magnets so they were also like favours/memento
God as if there isn't enough expense for the day without having to create thankyou cards. I didn't do thankyou cards at my wedding and if people were offended it didn't bother them enough to say. They got a thank you from me in person and another one when they left at the end of the day. I don't see how putting it in writing makes it anymore of a true gesture
Out of good manners should make the time to thank people properly. Thanks all the way.
Oh yes. Do thank yous. However don't get too pent up and do them on the plane. I'd say within a month of the wedding if you are on a fortnight honeymoon or 3 weeks if you are on a week honeymoon. We probably took longer than that but did as soon as could.
We got ours all sent out within 2 months. I think it's important to show appreciation for what people gave us.
Thank yous are very important
No not old fashioned you just have manners, we did ours about a week after we were married, hope your wedding day is everything you hoped for xx
I think a thank you is important, even if it's an email/text card whatever, manners cost nothing !!
Don't write them on the plane! Enjoy your honeymoon!!
People can wait until you're back but I think they are a must!
I'm old fashioned and think you should thank people too. I wrote ours on our honeymoon a few each evening x
I think a thank you card should always be sent. Asides anything else it acknowledges that the newly married couple received your gift and that it wasn't lost or stolen (I'm not suggesting this happens at all weddings but I it could), or like discussed earlier if you've bought from an online gift registry. But I also think it is important to say thank you for the gift you received. Mine took ages as I handmade them and wrote each one out so it was specific to each wedding guest but I also enjoyed doing them after all the wedding prep was over. I will also add that I've been to a lot of weddings over the years and I've always received a thank you for my gift. I'd rather spend money on a thank you card for each of my guests than wedding favours that often get left behind
I was at 2 weddings this year and got no thank you's! I think they're important
We did a thank you photo collarge of the places we'd been on our honeymoon as that's what we asked for, money for excursions on our cruise, a thank you this is what we saw xx
I have never received one to my knowledge and don't really care either. But then again, I think all cards are pointless In my opinion, the bride and groom have spent a fortune on the wedding for me to go along and eat food and drink wine that they've paid for. Least I could do was buy a gift. I doubt I'll do them properly, but will speak with each person to thank them. Just my opinion x
It's basic manners to do thank you letters. With cost of stamps, an email would do but if can't be bothered to do thank you, don't even know if they received present
I got married about 5/6 weeks ago and only just getting round to thank you cards. We've just been extremely busy since and I'd like to sit down and take time to do them. I'm hoping to get them out in the next week or so. X
I did thank you cards to all my guests. I didn't do them whilst on honeymoon though, I did them and posted them out within the month afterwards. I think its a nice touch these days for big special occasions like weddings and they aren't that expensive to do. Just get prepared beforehand by making a list of who gave what so in writing them I put something special about what I did with each gift. I know that with the feedback afterwards a lot of people were touched with that.
You've been brought up properly. If someone takes the time and effort to buy you a present the least they deserve is a thank you! We got thank you cards made with a wedding photo. Have a lovely wedding day x
We'll be sending them. Personally, I believe it's good manners to do so, whether I see people daily or not. It doesn't have to be expensive or professionally done ones. And also because if I didn't I would get a telling off from my mum and my gran and I don't care how that sounds, even at my old age. I can hear them now "I'm so disappointed. We/Your parents raised you better than that"
We had about 60 to 80 guests and therefore were able to say thank you for gifts in person, on the night. We felt no need to send out thank you cards. But for a bigger wedding where you may not get around to speaking to everyone on the night I can understand feeling inclined to send out thanks.
I do think a thankyou card is nice and personal. But see after the wedding people are so so generous and in the wedding rush and honeymoon rush you genuinely do not have time to text, mail etc to say thankyou to everyone. Most wait on their professional photos coming through for their thankyou cards. Xx
I gave them, its just good manners !
It's a complete waste of paper and rarely recycled, so just another way of destroying the earth as well as being a waste of money. What's wrong with saying thank you in person when you next see them? It's just another thing card companies have made up to get money out of people
I am getting married next yr and will definitely be writing thank-you cards for people. Even if they don't give anything I believe a thank-you for coming is also important to let them know that you appreciated their attendence is polite and appreciated. I am in my mid 20s.
We did thank you cards for everyone that came to our wedding, regardless if they gave us a gift. We didn't do it before/on honeymoon though. I think people won't expect to hear from you until at least a few weeks after you get back. We used ours as an opportunity to send out the details of our online album for our professional photos. Thinking on it I'm not sure if I've ever received a thank you from weddings I've been to (and clearly wasn't that fussed by it!) but I would definitely send them.
It's the right thing to do regardless...
I strongly believe in thanking people for anything and everything, be it face to face, written or in a phone call, costs nothing to be polite
I was going to send thank you photo cards but because we actually got married abroad 3 months before our uk evening do, my husband said it wasn't worth doing. So we didnt in the end. We have thanked everyone personally and via text, call, social media anyway so the photo cards (which most people would have thrown away after a week) were not neccassary. A nice gesture i would have liked to do but not essential.
I wouldn't necessarily be put out or bothered if I didn't get one, but I would never dream of receiving a gift (be it wedding/birthday/xmas or any other reason) and NOT send one! Maybe I am old fashioned but that's how I was brought up and that's how I will bring my children up as well!!!
They should be sent but probably not on the plane. I wrote all mine but half were never delivered (by my husband). We got married in December 2015 and yes, I do feel guilty.
Will definitely be sending thank you cards. Have received one from all weddings I've attended. Thank you's are important to me but I am quite uptight I admit I get offended easily. Also if you send your thank you's to those who didn't to you they will then feel they may be should have
I was going to do thank you cards but unfortunately my husband on our wedding night (extremely drunk) decided to open all of our presents and cards whilst I went to the toilet and take off my dress I was max 10 mins. And when I walked back in everything was completely muddled up and he was in the middle!! Did try find gifts to people but it didn't work lol
I think it's only good manners to say thank you. And to say to each person not just post a general thank you
I believe the etiquette is to send thanks "within 3 months," I made personalised cards with one of our wedding photos (bear in mind if you want to do this your photos take on average 2 months to arrive) but I would always say thank you!
I didn't send thank you cards, everyone wad thanked on the day and we said thank you to people in person after we had opened them. I think cards are often a waste of paper and clutter. If you want to send them, ask yourself if your are sending them because you want to or if you feel you have to. If it's later but you would still lunge to do something nice, give a donation to charity and make site your friends and family are aware you will be doing this instead of sending cards. X
I'm going to be sending thank you notes as I know some people that would be upset if I didn't and if people have gone to the effort to give us something it's nice to go to the effort of thanking them.
We got married 6 years ago we did personal thank you cards but I do thank you cards for birthday & Christmas presents!!! Xx
As a 4 year old child I was taught to write a thank you letter for every gift I received. I still do this, and consider it to be only good manners. Those who don't give the impression that the gift was of no interest or worth to the recipient, and therefore, the giver is of no consequence to them. Just my opinion ...
Its very important to send a personal note
My feeling is that friends come to the wedding and reception to join in the celebration of your marriage. If they are kind enough to give gifts then they most definitely should receive a thank you. For my first wedding I wrote individual thank you letters. This time we will have postcards with one of the wedding pictures so that there is less to write but they can still be individualised. I find it extremely rude that someone doesn't bother. How long does it take? An evening?
Good for you to do them, a lot don't, I think it's usually with in 6 weeks from the wedding date,
Not old fashioned at all! I think it's the only polite thing to do and people who don't say thank you just come across as rude or ungrateful. People attending weddings have taken time out of their lives to celebrate with you and often bring gifts for the newly weds. Spending a few minutes writing them a card to tell them that you appreciate it is the only right thing to do.
Its polite to thank people for their gifts..and appreciated by those who gave. But no one expects you to do thank you card on your honeymoon.
Enjoy your honeymoon together.
Make the cards a priority in the first / second week your home
Very important without a doubt - it's just manners!!!
Personally I think it's common courtesy to say thank you to your guests - I will be send out thank you's to my guests.. definitely not old fashioned, just polite; I'm 23 xx
I have a real bugbear about people not saying thank you for any gift, to the point that those people either receive much smaller gifts or nothing at all .... I was brought up to remember the time effort and money someone put in in choosing & buying a gift for me ,so to spend a couple of minutes to say thank you for a gift was an extremely courteous thing to do.
I will 100% be sending thank you cards after our wedding. It isn't old fashioned it is having manners.
I am doing thank yous I think it is only polite. I have received thank yous from most of my friends although 1 took over a year to send them! x