Question for the page... if we invite all children we would double our guest list. How do we pick a select few with telling the others not to bring there children. Anyone else done it? We just want nephews and our best friends (best man and bridesmaid) children there?
Just put their names in the invite for those you want to be there. x
I just had close familys kids, simply did it by writing individual names on the invitations amd writing 'Named invitees only' on my online RSVP form
Think it should be all or non people will get upset if some are allowed to bring children and others not I know I would
Explain that you only want immediate family children there and obviously the children of your best man and bridesmaid will be with their duties to the wedding......and you may find some people may not come if they can't fetch children due to childcare issues, at that point you could invite other people to take their places but I wouldn't let other peoples children fill their places as that wouldn't be fair on the people declining due to not been able to fetch their own children x
We have the same problem. We are only inviting our nieces and nephews. Our friends have been told face to face and the reaction has been positive. In fact they are happy to have day to themselves and not worry about kids
We said immediate family and close friends kids only or we would have been overrun with kids, only 1 had something to say but has accepted it
To avoid confusion,
We thought we'd let you know.
We asking for no children,
But there are a few who we've asked to go.
Please don't be offended,
This may not seem quite right.
But unless asked please get a sitter,
And come enjoy a child free night.
Its your wedding, so if you cant have loads of kids people will understand. We couldnt afford lots of children so on our invitation we just wrote.
"Regretfully, due to capacity we are restricted from extending invitation to younger family members. On the plus side... you get a day off!!!
Made it light hearted but got the point across. We had probably one person not come out of 70. So I wouldnt worry! Xxx
I'm only having kids belonging to the bridal party to our wedding otherwise I'll be the same as you and have more kids than adults. My family is very big x
I made the children that I wanted there part of the wedding party then a no to all others xxx
I just explained to people that we physically don't have the seats for everyone's children. We would have to change venue to fit them all in! Everyone I've told has been fine with it and glad of the night off! We're only having our own child and my partners niece and nephew. X
If you put a note on your rsvps to say "named invitees only please" and go from there - this is what we did and it worked really well - only 1 person tried to RSVP for their child as well (but this was the same person that tried to buy a bridesmaids dress for their child too!)
We've only allowed for bridal, groom party children and immediate family. We were worried as thought we would offend others but our other guests were over the moon!! Xx
We are just saying only the kids we spend time with which means some family kids wont be invited. We are going to see we understand this could make it difficult to attend and we would love them to attend but cannot stretch numbers for their children
We will only be having nephews/nieces and children of the bridal party. We are just going to write something like "due to the size of the venue, only children of the wedding party are able to attend the ceremony and wedding breakfast, however your children are welcome to join us for the evening reception". I won't be doing a poem as I find them a bit twee personally.
We had printed on our invitations that children are only invited if they are named on the invitation x
Just stipulate family children and children of the bridal party only, that's what we did
We've added to the invite that it's family children only to the ceremony as we wouldn't have the room for all the guests we want there.
Just add into the invite that you're very sorry but you don't have room to accommodate all children. Definitely say something though because I was at a wedding on Friday where people were turning up with kids that hadn't been on the invites and the bride was not happy.
We have the same all of my friends have at least 1 child so it's just my son and our nieces and nephews. Tbf my friends have been over the moon about it as they get a 'night off' plus they've got married themselves and appreciate the cost xx
Make it clear that only relatives children will be invited .
Maybe the others can come to night do
Hi I agree tell them that only family children being invited :)
Same problem here... My best friends have 9 children between them. We are only allowed 40 guests in total! So I an telling them that children are welcome at the evening reception only. However, my OH has a young daughter and I also have a sister of the same age (yes slightly strange), so obviously these 2 are to be my flower girls and the only children there. My friends will understand this completely. Just be honest abd hopefully people will respect it xx
We're just having our son and niece and nephew, then our closest friends kids as we spend as much time with her kids as her. Otherwise it's strictly adults as it just isn't feasible for us to invite everyone's kids too, unfortunately! I think most would understand
We was very lucky, as we only have our nieces and nephews invited during the day and on the evening invites I just put a little line "Get yourself a babysitter and enjoy a child free night" also when I spoke to the people with children about our wedding I added in about getting a babysitter! Some people will understand xxx
Just explain that due to numbers you can't invite children we are doing the same thing and everyone been really understanding xx
Hey we are doing exactly the same, my partner has three nephews so thy are invited and out of our friends we are only inviting one couple's kids to come, because they are coming from Scotland and without bringing their children they wouldn't be able to come, everyone else has to find a sitter! Just be honest, it's your day and I think most people will actually enjoy a child free night! And those who kick off, well they don't have to come! Their choice! Xx
When people RSVP'd to invites I just explained it was family children only and I've had no complaints! Alot of parents like an excuse of a day/night out without the children x
Actually write the names of the people you are inviting on the invitations, therefore families will know that kids are not invited. X
Just don't put them on the invite x
We have said to everyone we are just having children in our immediate family - our twins and nieces/nephews. It would be far too many otherwise and tbh most people are glad to have the peace for the day and night! The children involved are flower girls and page boys so part of the wedding x
We just sent out the invites with parents names then sent a message saying that due to limited numbers we could only have close family children most were more than happy to have a day to themselves!!
We've just not invited teenagers. If they are over 11 and under 18 they arnt invited
I'm the opposite we are only having close friends (3) and family to our wedding breakfast and between them they're are a few children but have asked all no our evening guests (the rest of our friends) that it is adults only xx
Just tell them. Most parents will be glad to get rid of the kids for a night lol.
Say that it's children of family and bridal party only
I would say because of numbers unfortunately we are having to limit children to family and bridal party only that would cover bridesmaids and best man too then x
I never had this problem, everyone just seemed to know. Just say family children
Tell them it's only children of immediate family members and the bridal party being invited, due to space you have can't have any other children there xx
We have just put on the invites that due to number restrictions we can only invite those named on the invite and cant extend to children unless their name is on the invite...that way we aren't saying no children...just no children that we havent specifically invited. You have every right to pick and choose who you invite and you shouldnt need to explain yourself
Only my 3 year old nephew is coming as the only child in immediate family we are saying no across the board to children so no one can be upset with us
Just a thought but I believe as a mum and recent bride that parents have a much better time without their kids at a wedding. They spend the ceremony stressing that their kid will be noisy and then can't enjoy the reception for making sure said kids are safe and behaving. Kids at weddings (boring event for kids) is an expense worth avoiding
If they are relatives fair enough. People understand and probably be glad of a day off from their kiddies x
It's amazing tho how some people assume because they are invited their kids are too! If their names are not on invitation then they're not invited!
We only have family's kids coming and to be honest we have found with friends that they are looking forward to a rare night off to let their hair down
Try asking them casually if they want their kids there or not... a surprising amount may be happy to have a child free day
We did immediate family/bridal party children only in the day and none at night even my step sons were gone by 8 so we could let our hair down x