UKbride Member Request 3 Sep 2017

My Maid of honour is organising my hen, someone has let slip the plans one...

My Maid of honour is organising my hen, someone has let slip the plans one of the things I just can't do physically for reasons,the rest of the plans sound good but it's just not's more things that they want to do I had been asked what I wanted to do and I thought spa day I don't drink so a night getting drunk doesn't interest me I just want a nice relaxing time with my girls before the excitement and madness of the wedding I just being horrible thinking this? I've also seen the invites and there are people on there that I haven't even invited to the wedding as they are more their friend than mine( I know them enough to have a conversation when they have joined us at friends birthdays etc)

Elizabeth Annetts
Elizabeth Annetts 3 Sep 2017

You should chose the guestlist 100%. If you've got issues with it say it sooner rather than later. If you can't bring yourself to do it then put on a smile anyway

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 3 Sep 2017

Hi I don't think I will be having a hen do as my only bridesmaid will only 18 three months before the wedding :)

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 3 Sep 2017

I'm not having a hen do as I couldn't be bothered with the politics and most people want to go out drinking and it isn't my thing either.

Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 3 Sep 2017

Not having a wild hen do, having closest girls going with me to a gig I really want to go to a couple of weeks before the wedding. Can't believe how rude they have been to invite people who aren't going to the wedding. It's not an excuse for them to have a party of their own!!!

Leydis Fernandez
Leydis Fernandez 3 Sep 2017

I think that you MOH is not keeping in mind that is YOUR wedding and that the whole point of a hen do is for the bride to have fun/relax/enjoy with the company of her friends. I think you should have a chat with her I'm sure she won't be offended but it'll be a good wake up call for her. I hope this helps!

Mhairi McKie
Mhairi McKie 4 Sep 2017

Definitely give a list to your MOH of who you want there, Its your day, not hers; a good friend will understand.

Amanda Cosgrove
Amanda Cosgrove 6 Sep 2017

I would talk to your maid of honour and explain to her what you would like as its your hen do not hers x


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