My wedding day is this at the end and of this month (30th)....yet instead of myself and H2B enjoying the run up we seem to be snapping at each other. I feel so stressed and under pressure that final preps will go wrong...anyone else have/having the same?
You are getting married to your best friend, You shouldn't be worried about how things will go on the day. That is not why you get married. Just enjoy the day and remember that it's a marriage you want , not a glorified party where everything goes perfectly.
I've got 4 days to go till the big day and I've woken up in a foul mood as we're doing loads of last minute wedding prep today. Try to stay calm and keep reminding yourself your groom is only there to help not hinder you. Try to keep the last few weeks with your other half as nice as possible. You don't want to lost the spark so close to the wedding!
My husband booked for us to go a spa together he could see what was happening he could see I was stressed it was lovely just us chilling talking about the wedding yes but other things too ️ maybe an idea x
Hi that is part of the run up I'm afraid :)
Stop.stressing. it will.be fine and IF things go wrong its not the end of the world its something to loom.back on and laugh about years later.
Nothing went right on my day. Honestly. The choir didnt.turn up. We couldnt cut the cake as tbe icing was rock hard. The disco was late as it went to.the wrong place. The chef bbq all.the buffet food. BUT 33 years on we have a laugh about it. CHILL and go.with the flow you will have a wonderful.day and if anything does go wrong its not a big deal. Its only 1 day if many years together
Have a night off wedding stuff, go for dinner a walk. Just enjoy couple hours of each other's company with out wedding chat. Maybe help a little ️
Totally and mines a year off. I think it's the realisation that everything is down to the woman to sort lol. It will be worth it on the day. Hang in there and enjoy your special day xx
Me and my hubby were the same xx
Gareth Penn 🤔
Yes me and htb were quite stressed over the smallest things! It's totally normal don't worry and all will be fine on your big day - don't worry about what could go wrong because theres nothing you will be able to do anyway apart from enjoy your day :-) X
Have you found that the things you are arguing over are where you think other people will have an opinion on...?.... For example I had an argument with my other half about the fact I didn't want any flowers anywhere in the day
..and his mother had an opinion of how it would be weird!! So this caused a disagreement between us
..in the end it was our wedding and I had no flowers...Couldn't have gave less of a shit what anyone else thought!!
On the day she saw what I has done instead and preferred my choice of crystal bouquets and arrangements!!! Hadn't seen it before x
The wedding is your day.
.don't argue over little things that don't matter in the end!
Claire....anything and evertything
Us other people and everything in between. Wondering at times if we will even make it to the day , it's devastating we should be enjoying the run up but just can sewe m to go a day without ww3
Same wedding day as me!!! Tbh last few weeks are stressful but I've now took the opinion of it will be the best day of my life because I am marrying my best friend and soul mate. Everything else is minor details and for me the most important bits are seeing my MRs face when he sees me in my dress the first time as I walk down the aisle and promising to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what. Everything else that goes right are bonuses
Angel it's just hard. Outside stresses adding to marital prep stress.
And I hate arguing with him ... as you say he's my best friend
I refuse to let anyone annoy me leading upto it. I've had the world's worst headaches with bridesmaids..... let's just say over the whole problems I've had over them I nearly said screw it no bridesmaids. Glad I just ignored the whole problem for a month or two then looked at it. If you want anyone to talk to about it feel free to inbox me
Ah Thankyou xx
Angel won't allow me to inbox I have tried x
Stop stressing and enjoy the lead up to your big day. It goes so quickly that you need to enjoy every second. I was the same before our day and we had a couple of hiccups but on the day the only thing that mattered was marrying my man. Everything else was a bonus. Enjoy sweetie xx
Thankyou Amy x
Yep! We got wed yesterday & I found everything so stressful that I barked at him for any or no reason at all! So relieved everything went swimmingly & pleased to say we're off on the honeymoon from tomorrow. Try to relax, these arguments will seem like a distant memory when the day is here & you're looking into his eyes saying your vows. It will be the best day xx
Don't let the run up stress you. I am sure you have covered everything that is important. No need to keep going over it. Savour the excitement of marrying the man you love and enjoy the anticipation. On the day you will be so wrapped up (I felt like I was in a bubble) in what is happening to you, you won't even notice if little things don't go to plan. It's an amazing day to cherish and I'm sure it will be everything you want it to be. Enjoy and good luck.
It's completely normal! We get married in a weeks time today and for last month we've bickered more than we ever have in our entire relationship most of it down to me stressing. We booked a spa day for last week and it was really lovely for us just to spend the day together doing nothing and not thinking bout the wedding. Since then our stresses haven't gone its just now we're facing them more together and we haven't bickered since. It's really hard I think us women get really stressed cos it's everything coming together now and it's a worry but for the guys they don't think about it like we do so he probably just doesn't understand why you're so on edge and also he may be feeling really nervous about the big day as well they just don't talk about their feelings as freely as we do. Take some time out with each other that involves a day of no wedding talk honestly it'll do you both the world of good! Most importantly just keep reminding yourself the day is all about you both marrying your best friend and future! Good luck with it all!
Yes , it does get stressful as you get so exhausted from all the preparation .... I got married yesterday & the best thing I did was book to go to Malvern hills the weekend before to chill & stop planning just for the pause / unwind which helped us through the last list .... Plus telling ourselves no one knows what we hoped for so if not completed guests just won't know !! Plus most important thing is I saw davids face & looked into his eyes & soaked it all up , that Special moment ... Xx
Warm wishes ....
The make up is the good part - I've just been joking with my mother in law that he's only just been allowed to actually come because he only got his suit last week lol when he tries to help it goes wrong lol but the day will be fine ppl always remember the fluff ups and in a good way lol besides just think how relaxed you'll be come the evening after a few glasses of bubbly and the making up will be the best bit ha x
We get married the same day and I'm struggling with it all now I have at many time wished we had got on a plane and come back married but im sure come the day everything will be fine xx
Tbh people.make too much of the day. All you need to happen is the wedding ceremony with the vows. Nothing more.
Everything else is incidental.
My sister who.was my matron of honour got the giggles when.i was making my vows. Started me off then my husband.
ask yourself, who are you going through all this stress to please? Is it making you happy, is it making your H-2 B happy? Who says you have to have tons and tons of preparation costing tons and tons of money which you could spend on a place to live after the wedding. If you have committed yourself to spending the money, stop stressing and enjoy. Let the people you have paid to make the wedding special do this stressing instead. BTW, I am 65 and have been where you are now in regards to wedding preparations. It's the marriage that counts. If you are happy that the marriage will be a success, the wedding day is only a precursor, not an indicator, and therefore not worth all this stress. That's my tuppence worth, and I sincerely hope it's of some help.
At MakingMemorieswithTLC.co.uk we make sure that you are able to relax an enjoy both the build up and of course your special day. A planner for either part or all of the event could be the solution, but if you want to stay in control you could try delegating to bridesmaids and bestman - it's really hard but once you have let go of the strings it will be surprising how much better you feel.