Hi, I have 4 bridesmaids aged 2, 4, 7 and 11. I really want the eldest to be...

I had the same issue and went with dressing my three oldest with the same dress (18 ), then the 11 yr old in another one (same colour just similar style) and will be having the youngest who'll be my flower girl in a completely different one xxx

We had our little bridesmaids in pretty little dresses and our older bridesmaids in completely different ones, different colours and everything! She could just be your chief bridesmaid they tend to be different anyway xx

MY BMs are 5 8 & 15 and the 15 yr old is in a more grown up dress. It wouldn't look right xx

I had 4 'adults' (12, 16 and adult) in the same dress, a 9 year old in a different dress but same colour and flower girl in ivory- the 9 year old was too big for a younger dress and it wouldn't have looked right!

I would put her in a different dress. You are going to find it hard to find a dress that suits her an the others. No offence to your OH but they sometimes don't understand girls bodies changing she is going to want to feel like a little lady. My BM was 12 and I bought a size 6 adult dress then got it altered x

My bridesmaids will be 25, 11 and 14. The 14 year old is my sister and she is completely uncomfortable in dresses so I've said she can wear what she feels comfortable in so we're going for culottes and a blouse. My other two bridesmaids are totally girly so they'll be wearing dresses in the same colour scheme as my sister. You want the people you're including to feel part of the day and if they feel uncomfortable it will show on the day. Maybe your fiancée has the wrong idea about them dressing differently and how it would look? X

You can get 'teen' or young adult bridesmaid dresses. I would put her in a different dress style but the same colour as the little ones. Tbh I don't think the 11 year old will be very happy in a flower girl dress any way. Xx

Hi I agree that they could all be in the same colour but a different style for the oldest one :)

All my youngest bridesmaid who will be 5 two of them will be 3 and 1 have got different coloured sashes try that

eldest ones especially if theyre going thru that girly change should wear something more grown up x

Million percent agree with you x

Having had a 10.year old and a 3 year old as well.as 2 adult bridesmsids i.think.your brave. The 3 yr old was horrendous.laid on her back in the aisle shouting all.the way through the service.

I had the opposite issue, I had 2 bridesmaids 10 and 27 and wanted them in the same style dress. Visit a few shops and explain what your after they will more than likely be able to help you - mine were perfect same style dress for both but age appropriate xx

My bridesmaids were between 12 and 29 plus I had 2 flower girls who were 3 and 4. The youngest bridesmaid was in the same dress as the older ones but the dresses were quite a simple style so she didn't look OTT.

I think your oh is right tbh she's still a little girl

I totally agree. The eldest wouldn't appreciate you putting her in a "little girl" dress and would be uncomfortable (based on my own 12 year old's opinion of her dress for our wedding). I wholeheartedly agree with everyone else here, put her in something in the same colour and similar style but so she feels more adult. I'd explain it away to your other half that they don't do the little girl styles in her size so she has to have a different style? Good luck x

I have three bridesmaids and the younger two will be in more youthful dresses and I'm going for a more grownup style for the eldest. Good luck x

My 2 youngest bm's where in long dresses (the youngest doesn't like having her pic taken) and my flower girl was in a different dress agian, and it worked really well

We got married bonfire night and this was an inbetween shoot pic off someone's phone which is why everyone looks like they're freezing to death

When money is tight, have a look in everyday shops on or eBay for a well balanced priced dress and look in craft shops, it will be cost effective more so than splashing out on a dress she'll wear for one day

We had the same dresses for the girls aged 1 2 8 and 9 and I kinda wish I had had the 8 and 9 in a more grown up dress. So yes a different dress is a great idea.

My flower girls are all wearing white dresses with the same coloured sash but the dresses themselves are all different to suite their body types and personalities. For example our oldest will be nearly 10 and the youngest 5, they'd look ridiculous in the same dress!

She's still only 11. Make her dress a little different but not really grown up x good luck x

She's effectively your chief bridesmaid and to be honest they are slightly diff anyway. You should keep it so it's still clear what she is so keep the colours the same but would defo change style x

Make the 11 year old a junior bridesmaid and the younger 3 flower girls. That way they can wear different dresses x

Different dress all the way!!! She may look silly in the same dress, it may not fit her properly! Defiantly different dress!! X X X

My 2 girls were both 12. Their dresses were a style available from aged 2-14. They looked elegant because of the hair and shoes that you wouldn't have chosen for the very young ones

I would put her in a different dress , mine will be 7 , 11 ,15 ,and 24
There dresses are all the same colour but different styles for each of them . As I feel because there different ages and they all have different tastes it wouldn't be fair to any of them to put them in the same dress , plus I'm hoping for less stress
I choose 3 different styles for each person and asked them to choose 1 :)
Good luck x

White for little ones and coloured for eldest x

This is how I had mine. 4 main bridesmaids in same dress, with chief and flower girl in different dresses. The sash on main dresses matched the other two and vice versa xx

I had all mine in the same dress, age 4, 8 and 29! Certainly didnt look silly

I agree with you about a diff dress for the oldest. I know my 12 year old would not want to be in the same dress as my 6&8 year old nieces. At 11/12 they are developing their own style, they tend to be a bit more concious of fashion and they are developing too so suit different things x

I agree with you mine had diff dresses I had my youngest niece in a pink an white my daughter an oldest niece in white glitter tulle and my 3 adult ones in Cadbury purple an it went really well xx

My niece who was similar in age had the adult bridesmaid dress and taken in as she is nearly as tall as the adults bridesmaid as you can see in the picture

(A very long time ago) I was a bridesmaid for two cousins. I was prob about 10 for one wedding and 12 for the other. The first, I wore that same as the younger girls (puffy skirt and sparkles etc). The second, I had a simple long, empire line dress in the same fabric as the little girls capes (it was a winter wedding). I do remember feeling far more comfortable at the second wedding and appreciated that my cousin had thought about how I would feel.

My youngest niece who will be 4 is my only flowergirl originally my 11 Nd 12 year old nieces would be too but, I've changed them to bridesmaids only they will be in coral dresses instead of blue so they don't look too old for their age I still want them to stand out as children. Men have zero dress sense anyways unless they are lucky so I'd go with your choice and tell him to simmer down lol

I agree with you. You would dress an 11 and 4 year od the same normally as totally different body shape.... do for same colour/fabric but different style xxxxxxx

My 1st marriage I had the little ones in the same dresses and the big 1 in a different coloured dress and it worked well with my colours I chose.

I have 3 young bridesmaids 2 2year olds and she's 10 I found this dress to b perfect for all 3 of them ( it's still too big as I'm not getting married untill next year and they need to be taken in)

A different dress is a good idea. You can all of the dresses the same colour

Could you not kind a similar dress but one to suit her that way all are happy

This is why men shouldn't be allowed to have an opinion

I have the opposite, two adult and one who will be almost 11. She is wearing the same dress as the adults in a junior design, I think it is just the age where a young dress doesn't quite work.

My girls were in the same dress. Aged 7 and 14. I guess it depends on what she's comfortable with. My 14 year old wasn't into tons of makeup and revealing clothes so this suited her just fine. Do what you want/ it's your day, no one else's.

My sister is 16 years older than me. She had a few friends as bridesmaids and me and my other sister as a "flower girl" type - we wore the same colour of dress but made just slightly differently so that ours came up over our shoulders and the older bridesmaids to be wearing strapless

Definitely in a different dress, you will want her to feel comfortable (which she likely won't be wearing the same dress as a 2 year old!) and it will show in her actions (and photos!) if she isn't x

I have two flower girls 5&6 and three bridesmaid two my age and my 12 year cousin who is gunna be wearing the same as the adults x

I think it depends on if you can compromise, what type of dresses you are thinking of, and the personality of the eldest bridesmaid. Our eldest was 12 and youngest 3. They had the same dress!

Perhaps if they were all in different dresses of the same colour? I doubt the girl would feel very good being singled out /different especially if she already feels abit awkward. But I do think the right dress can be worn by all, especially if it is a high neck. I think strappy dresses or alter neck dresses are a no as they will highlight the changes between the ages. They tend to look too old for babies then too sophisticated shall we say on a developing girl. It will all work out I'm sure xxx

I agree with your fiancé. She's 11 not 16! Both my flower girls will be 10 and they will be wearing really girly flower girl dresses and 100% no makeup x

I has same colour different style aged 3 and 13 years