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UKbride Member Request 23 Aug 2017

Since getting engaged and asking my best friend of 10 years to be chief...

Since getting engaged and asking my best friend of 10 years to be chief bridesmaid she's gone really sour and everything I say about the wedding is odd to her or not good enough- has anyone else had this problem??? What did you do? I'm starting to regret asking her to be part of the day...

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 23 Aug 2017

Hi try to talk to her if she continues then tell her that she is no longer required, maybe she is jealous of you :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I'd tell her to move on weddings are stressful enough without this I would be grateful to be asked and just do whatever u said xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Some ppl are just jealous. Also some brides to be get to focused on the wedding they forget who and what's important to them. If your such good friends you should be able to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you can't maybe she's not the rite person and would be fare to tell her. Good luck

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UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

My best friend of 10 years turnt sour, i had a whole year of her mentally bullying me in so many ways, she spent all the hen doo accommodation money resulting in the accommodation getting cancelled 2 weeks before hen doo (which my mum fixed) and then 3 days after our UK wedding reception decided she needed to 'go on a break' from me... 3 months later and we are not talking still, deleted off FB the lot... 1 advice i would give: Ditch her now before its too late. 10 years of friendship and 'loyalty' means nothing in friendship terms and i feel free of her negativity she caused me and all the shit she would cause.. I don't regret her being there at all as it was the best time if my life, i just wish i knew her true colours before i wasted time on her knowing she was going to fob me off like trash in the bin But what i would also say, don't hold a grudge, move on and live life, if she ever wanted to talk to me again, i would, i just won't trust her fully ever again.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Sounds like jealousy, I'm sorry sweetie xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Ask.her what her problem is. Is she jealous of you. She shouldnt be if she is your friend.
Maybe you shouldnt have her

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Yup, one of my closest dearest friends went a bit sour and awkward from the minute I started wedding planning. Questioned my decisions, didn't like my choices and made it known, just generally put a damper on the whole thing. Id asked her to do a reading but that didn't go down well as she didn't like it. I tried to wash over it with smiles etc but it hurts. She came to the wedding, was cool and a bit standoffish. I have never seen her or talked to her since my wedding day. I text many times but nothing.... we were friends for 36 years.... sometimes you just need to accept that they're the one with the problem and you can't solve it. If they can't get past their issues there's not much you can do if they won't acknowledge or discuss it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

Jealousy!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

You'll be suprised how often this happens and how people change when it comes to weddings. Been there done that x you don't need any negativity x

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