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UKbride Member Request 23 Aug 2017

How are brides deciding on who to include in the wedding as flower girls and...

How are brides deciding on who to include in the wedding as flower girls and page boys. I have already chosen my bridesmaids they are my closest friends and my h2b has chosen his best man and ushers but between us we have nieces and nephews and I know if some are included and some are not it's going to rock the boat. We have three children ourselves so do people think we should just have our own children or should we decide to include others. This decision is harder than the bridesmaids and ushers

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I have 2 daughters and 3 nieces, we decided to just have my 2 daughters as bridesmaids, it becomes expensive if we have 5 bridesmaids so I'm just having my 2 daughters and my son is page boy x

Emma Wilson
Emma Wilson 23 Aug 2017

I've got 4 bridesmaid's, my sister, sister in law, wee cousin and best friend. My 2 flower girls are my children, and 2 page boys will be my partners boys. Have who you want, don't do anything to try please anyone other than yourself and h2b.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

As it's our 2nd marriages, my fiancee's 3 children will be older, I am having my two cousins carry the rings, one a girl and one boy, my fiance might have his boy as best man, if not it'll just be the youngest daughter helping my cousin's as they will be 3 and,6 at the time of our wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

If you've got several nieces and nephews I'd just have your own children. I've only got 1 nephew so he's my page boy and my children are flower girl and my son is also a page boy. Remember it's your wedding you're not doing it to please other people!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

me and my h2b have between us 9 nieces so we decided to have just our children involved. A few people have remarked about them not being involved and I said it's our wedding its how we want it.

Hollie Clifford
Holly Clifford 23 Aug 2017

Just have your own children x

Hollie Clifford
Holly Clifford 23 Aug 2017

I'm having my two nieces and my h2b's god son as my flower girls and page boy. I don't have children myself you see x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

It depends on your budget and how you want you wedding to feel-intimate or extended. We have 2 children together plus my H2B has a daughter from previous and we are only having them in the bridal party, if we included all the nieces and nephews, we would be looking at around 11 children and I think for me personally, that is too many, I just want us as a family together at the important bits

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I have 3 adult bridesmaids (my sisters and best friend) and 4 flower girls (our daughters and my niece) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Me and my partner are having quite a few but that's down to her having a big family. On my side for bridesmaids/ushers family wise I've picked the children of my cousin that I was bridesmaid for. If any other cousins have anything to say I will plainly say (and not in a petty way) "I was only invited to yours so I'm doing the same for you."

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Iv got this problem with my bridesmaids. My daughter will be apart of the bridesmaid and my 2 sons are going to be page boys, but iv got a possible 4 for my bridesmaids and 2 of them have kids themselves so I'm also stuck on what to do! I suppose I still have time to chose but my brothers are having babies themselves so it's harder that way as they live a good couple hours away.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I have 1 son and 1 daughter but 10 nieces and nephews so to save any problems I am only having my children as flower girl and page boy. I can't have all of my nieces and nephews so I'm having none. It just wouldn't be fair x

Lesley Smith
Lesley Smith 23 Aug 2017

Just your own them if they are offended thats their problem.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Just have your kids. Stops arguments

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Personally I would have your own children, between us at the time we had 2 neices so we had them and my 'sisters' daughter (extremely close family friend) XX

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I'm going for not leaving anyone out! lol we're a very close family and couldn't imagine it without them all so I've ended up with 10 bridesmaids. My advice is have what you want that's what's important x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I only had relatives as bridesmaids etc. I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews. All my nieces were brides maids, and the youngest nephew (9) was pageboy. The older nephews (14 and 18) were ushers.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I'm havin my 20yr old niece and 20yr old sister inlaw as my bridesmaids then our 2 daughters Wil b our mini bridesmaid and flower baby it's our weddin no one else's if family members dnt like it then that's their problem we can't make everyone happy the day is about us

Julie Betts
Julie Betts 23 Aug 2017

I've had are 4 daughters but really wanted to include a few of my nieces as I'm very close to them so I've gone with my heart and now I'm having 9 in total sod it it's going to be the best day of our life's why not do it in style 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

We done oldest girl and boy for kids

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I had so many firends with children at our wedding who i wouldve asked to be bridesmaids but wouldve felt obligated to ask their children too so for the sake of our sanity i asked my 1 closest friend as bm, then used our 2 daughter's, my bridesmaids daughter and my cousins daughter (the only other child in our immediate family at the time)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I'm having my 2 year old as my flower girl my 10 and 11 year old as my bridesmaids and my best friend is my moh and our 2 boys are our page boys and my partner picked his best man and ushers and that's it the rest are guests :) xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

We have our two girls as flower girls (baby due November will be bridesmaid or page boy ) my sister at maid of honour and best friend as bridesmaid. We have 4 neices and decided not to have them as if you have one you have to have them all . We have our nephew as an usher as he is the only boy and my sister's fiancee as an usher .

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I stuck with family only! So my cousins and sisters and then if they had children! I didn't want to upset so literally went with immediate family!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

If it's going to get too costly or you think you are going to have too many then just have your own children. I wouldn't have some nieces or nephews and not others as that is likely to upset people. If you just have your own then at least it's clear that you have made that decision and doesn't look like favouritism.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I've 2 sons and 4 nephews! No girls in are family so I'm not having a flower girl and I'm only having my sons part of the wedding as I can't leave any of the nephews out. They will all still be at the wedding just be guests only

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I'd just have your own children. Then it causes no upset to nieces and nephews

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

We had this problem, we have 2 children (girl and boy) atm we have 3 nephews and 1 niece. We don't get married til 2019 so probably have another or two before then. I don't want a big bridal party and my fiancé agreed. So we are only including our children in the wedding. We love our nephews and niece but it would just get too big including all, and I'd never pick one or two and leave others out x

Rebecca Bradley
Rebecca Bradley 23 Aug 2017

we have 2 boys so they will be ushers and my BM is my sis and best friend who both have one daughter each so they will be flower girls and evens it out x

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 23 Aug 2017

Either choose your children or don't have any at all

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Just have your own kids

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 23 Aug 2017

Just have your own children I'm only having my children

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

just your own id say x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Im having my 2 girls my younger sister and our niece and my goddaughter and our nephew will be page boy i so have other nephews and nieces but we spend the most time with the children we have picked hardly see the others x

Kimberley Russon
Kimberley Russon 23 Aug 2017

Stick 2 ur own. Means no arguments and less expence =) xx

Jennie Kelly
Jennie Kelly 23 Aug 2017

I'm having my daughter as my youngest bridesmaid, she'll be 4 at the time of the wedding, I would only use your own children as it can get messy when other children are involved and some are not xx

Emily Barnett
Emily Barnett 23 Aug 2017

Not having a flower girl and as one nephew is 18 and the other a toddler no Paige boys either. Having 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen. Might get my toddler nephew to be ring bearer but will see how he is nearer the time as little ones are very unpredictable !

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

Were justvhaving our own children as it saves arguments between families my h2b is having his best mate hes knkwn for 35 years ae best man

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 23 Aug 2017

Hi I would just have your own cheldren :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

If there are so many nieces and nephews I would just have your own children xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2017

I have a granddaughter and grandson my h2b has 6 grandsons and he just says it's up to you. So iv had my grandchildren. As flower girl and pai

Helen Kibble
Helen Kibble 24 Aug 2017

I have 3 sister's but only having only 1 and I'm having my future sister in law as another and 1 of my older nieces as have far to many lol and also having my 2 daughter's and my sister in laws 2 daughter's so it was hard to choice can't afford to have 13 altogether lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2017

I had all my nieces and nephews (3 girls 3 boys) involved as i couldn't ever choose between them. For me it was all of them or none of them. I had a big entourage but it was great!

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 31 Aug 2017

I have all of our nieces as flower girls, our son is Paige boy.

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