Some of you may know I've decided to not invite my future brother in laws gf...

I think if she is living there it makes things very complicated. I would discuss it with his parents if they know the situation.

Hi it is more complicated but if she can't be bothered at all why invite her :)

I'm not inviting my brothers girlfriend and she is refusing to speak to my mum. She has two years to say hello and go for lunch. She has been advised of this. She doesn't seem bothered so she won't be coming

its your choice don't let a complicated situation make you invite someone you don't want to be there! I'm not inviting my mothers partner as me and my husband to be cant stand him and he doesn't like us so I wont ruin my day having people I don't like being there :) xx

Irrelevant where she lives. She's not invited as she's not family or a friend.

If she's never spoken to you, why should you invite her? You don't know her. I'd just make sure there arnt any plus ones that you don't know coming as that would raise questions. At the end of the day it's you're wedding and you invite who you want to. What about your husband to be? Does he want her there? You maybe need to make the decision together.

Why should you have her there when she is essentially a stranger to you, if you've never spoken I can't see why she'd need to be at your wedding. If they were married with kids I'd say suck it up, but they are kids themselves x don't stress too much let your h2b deal with it if family have any issue x

My future brother in laws girlfriend never talks to us at all. She got invited to my 30th and not even a happy birthday. But they are together and it is best to support whatever his decision is. Invite her, you will have lots of people to talk to so you won't need to worry about it.

Just playing devils advocate here, but we invited all partners of family members to our wedding, some of whom we'd never even met, let alone spoken to. I wanted to make my guests feel as comfortable as possible, and a family wedding gave the perfect opportunity to get to know the individuals who mean so much to my loved ones. A wedding should be a time for celebration, not potentially creating a family rift. Personally, I'd suck it up and invite her, and if she has a face like a smacked backside all day, let your brother-in-law deal with it. x

I know for a fact I wouldn't attend a family members wedding if my husband wasn't invited. As I wouldn't be happy if he went to one without me. U may not like the girl but ur h2b brother obviously does and like it or not they are a couple

Why not make the effort to get to know her, could be she's a bit shy

Stick to your decision, it's your day, your guest list.

Invite her, makes you the bigger/better person then rather than you not invite her and have them pandering to her when she's "upset" that you left her out.. x

It's your day, do what makes you happy

Why don't you just invite her to the evening, that way you don't have her at the most 'important part' and by the evening there will be lots of people you need to see because you haven't all day and she will be practically invisible to you xx

if they're that young they may not even be together for long lol and aren't most teenagers stroppy or difficult lol its ur day y pay for another mouth if u dont even get along x

We are not inviting my h2b sister she is horrible to everyone my h2b and me and all her siblings she is just vile person but she is the only one that won't get an invite

I wouldnt invite her unless she changes

Thanks ladies . I stuck to my guns ended up in a giant blow up now I don't really know what's happening . I can't invite her to the evening as everyone is invited to everything . I understand shyness as I'm not comfortable with strangers but You can smile or something and I've seen her talk to other people like my h2bs grandma and be chatty first time she met her so I just don't think she can be bothered . I'm more bothered that she doesn't make an effort with my h2b and that's her bfs brother . I might Invite her but hold onto her invitation if she makes an effort she can come if she doesn't she can't.

It's you day, you don't want her there don't invite her. Simple. I'm sure she wouldn't be forced to invite someone she didn't particularly want at her wedding when she gets married.

I refused to invite my H2B's niece to my wedding, she is foul to everyone including her own Mother, whom I am very close to. She refused to congratulate me at our engagement but was happy to eat and drink our food, so I explained my reasons to my H2B and my sister in law, her Mother, and they were absolutely fine with it. Do what is right for you xxx

Don't invite her. It's your day to have there who you want. If we don't know someone I don't want them there. I'm not paying for someone to be there who is essentially a strange over other people I'd rather were at our wedding when we are restricted by numbers.xx

I really don't want mine their either shes a nutta

Haha this is kind of like our situation too. We aren't inviting people because of these reasons and you shouldn't have to either! What is the point of having people like that at your wedding. It's your day to enjoy and you get to choose what you want/don't want