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UKbride Member Request 22 Aug 2017

Hi all ???? getting married August 2018, just about to start looking for...

Hi all ???? getting married August 2018, just about to start looking for dresses and a little excited but not good vibes from my Mum about it, she's a little negative ???? ideas on how to perk her up and get her a little more positive? Tia x

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Rebecca Saunders
Rebecca Saunders 22 Aug 2017

My mum was the same, I'm getting married in August 2018 and I first dragged her dress shopping in February. As soon as we'd booked the appointment she started getting excited and after that appointment she became just as excited as me to find the one!

Miss Allen
Samantha Allen 22 Aug 2017

My mum was a bit the same, made a day of it and took her for a nice lunch too and asked her opinion on hair makeup and bridesmaid dresses. She really enjoyed having a girly day out :)

Emma Bonnar
Emma Bonnar 22 Aug 2017

I'm having the same problem! My mum made my first wedding dress when I got married in my very early twenties (total mistake marriage). I'm getting married next July and I think my mum is a little resentful that I want to buy a dress rather than her make me one. Hopefully when I get my 'say yes to the dress' moment she will come around! If not the future mother in law is very excited to join me for dress shopping as she has no daughters x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

easy don't take her :)

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

My Mum is the same, I didn't take her when I went find my dress, I took my best friend & daughter. I've found my dress & she's going to see me in it soon, but I'm taking an army of people to drown out her criticism! I'm hoping once I'm in it she'll change her mind!!xx

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

Don't take her. Why Have the extra stress.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 22 Aug 2017

Hi my Mum is more excited than me at the moment :)

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

I took my mum first dress fitting. She was so negative. So I didn't take her to any more. Found my dress with my dad. She won't see it until Sunday. Extra stress, think it's because mums don't have much say in the wedding.

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

My mum was the same! Just enjoy the ride and she'll jump on when she sees how much fun you're having xxx

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

My mum is same...not very bothered...dragged her dress shopping with me...now thats done n so is her involvement x

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

My mum says 'it's a year away yet' so doesn't see why I am excitement
She shows no interest at all,so I don't tell her ...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

Just remember, weddings can be a very weird time for parents.. have you tried speaking to her about it at all? She may be feeling anxious about it but once the ball starts rolling she may become excited. A wedding is very overwhelming for those involved in one way or another. And you need to remember that not everyone will be as excited as you are! But that's ok and probably a good thing.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

Is your mum paying for the dress? Cause I'm paying for my own and I am struggling to get excited cause of the cost . I'm sure once she sees you in the dress she'll be more excited

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

Maybe involve her give her something to do for your wedding x

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UKbride Administrator 22 Aug 2017

This same thing happened to me! After I chatted to my bridesmaid that came too and that made me feel much better about the dress I have my eye on.

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 23 Aug 2017

....it's probably because mum is paying and anxious about costs .... So also help yourself by going to January sales and summer sales ...I eventually got my beautiful one knocked down in a February sale to an incredible price that should have been £2,000 = but Phew was an incredible catch !!!! .....

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 30 Aug 2017

Take her shopping for a dress for her . My mum was same until it came to her dress

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