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How to Handle a Bridesmaid-Zilla

Many brides come to us with problems in their bridal party. It can be a nightmare having a bad bridesmaid, but there are solutions to your party problems!
The Fashion-Conscious Bridesmaid

So, one of the biggest bridesmaid problems is that they hate the dress they’re wearing. It’s tempting to go crazy at them – after all, the bridesmaid’s main role is to wear the dress they’re given – but put yourself in their shoes for a second. Sit down and talk with them about it; is it the colour? The fit? Talking to your bridesmaid is the key to solving most issues and therefore there’s no resentfulness or awkwardness on your wedding day and the days to come.

If you find out what she dislikes, you may be able to change it for her. Or perhaps you’re not willing to move on your decision, or she hates everything about the dress. Just ask her politely that she has to wear what is told; changing all of the dresses, may mean someone else may not like the new style. Also, the dresses are what you wanted and it’s your wedding day.

It’s really common nowadays to have all of the bridesmaids wearing different styles completely. As weddings become more and more relaxed and informal, a uniformed bridal party isn’t as favourable.

Periwinkle and Pink Bridesmaid Dresses
In this day and age, you really don’t need to make your bridesmaids wear a uniform.
The Busy Bridesmaid

Another problem is bridesmaids who just don’t respond to messages and put minimal effort into planning with you. The first thing you need to do is think about the last time you asked how she was. If you can’t remember, make sure to talk to her about her. Weddings can consume you sometimes and you have to remember they may not be as excited as you are.

If she just refuses to talk to you, call her and meet up for coffee. Explain how you feel, and see why she’s not responding. Tell her you need her and her input. And if that doesn’t work or she kicks off about her duties, you need someone else to fill her place; she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid so don’t force her.

Multiway dresses are a great way to create individuality.
The Enthusiastic Bridesmaid

On the flipside, if you have a control freak bridesmaid, who is wedding-mad but overly enthusiastic with her input, give her specific tasks to do. Make sure she’s always busy and always has something to do. That will keep her happy and therefore stop her from providing her opinions.

If you’re really struggling with them, or you just don’t want bridesmaids in the first place, you don’t have to! Sticking to tradition isn’t vital, and if you really want to stick to tradition, have your nieces, nephews or maybe your own children as your bridesmaids (surprisingly a lot less hassle!).

Flower Girls
How Cute!

Hope that helps to solve your bridesmaid-zilla stress!!