So we had our wedding day almost 2 months ago and are sending out our thankyou cards this week (abit later than we had hoped!) but some of our guests came and didnt even get us a card!!
We asked for money towards our honeymoon and most people kindly donated towards it and some others gave us gifts. I understand some people cant afford to give gifts or money but still not even giving a card I think is really rude.
Would you guys say anything to them or would you just forget about it? Im obviously glad they came but I still find it rude.
Met In Lanzarote April 2013
Engaged In Rome February 2016
Getting Married In Scotland May 2017
CommentAuthorLesley0401
It would irritate me but I don't think I would say anything to them. Were you thinking about sending a note to them to say thank you for attending?
Can't believe it has been two months, that has flown by!
The future Mrs Perry
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
i think i would be annoyed but as Lesley has said I don't think I would say anything. as much as it is expected to at least bring a card i suppose they don't have to x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
i know, both your weddings are going to come round so quick!! :D
Yea ill just put on theirs thanks for attending :)
I think your both right its probably best to not say anything, i think i find it more annoying cause 1 of the people who didn't even get us a card was one of hubbys past 'acquaintances' and she turned up in a white dress and never even spoke to me. So her not getting a card topped it off lol
Met In Lanzarote April 2013
Engaged In Rome February 2016
Getting Married In Scotland May 2017
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
it's definitely rude... i would never dream of turning up to a wedding without a gift never mind a card but unfortunately there are those who don't mind
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
Hi Mrs C (no longer "2be"!). I agree with the others in that whilst I would find it quite rude, I wouldn't say anything to her. I'm wondering if you should even waste a stamp to say thank you for coming? The cynic in me wonders if she did it out of spite as a past "acquaintance", but then look where you are now and look where she is - you're in a much better position! :-)
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I wouldn't say anything. Just thank them for coming and say you're happy they could share the day with you.
Our best man and wife didn't get us a gift or card either and we know they're loaded. But we just thanked them for coming and for being best man.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorClaire1978
I never go to anybodies house empty handed let alone their wedding! I went to an ex- friends wedding and got her a lovely present and card and never got a thank you card, or even an acknowledgement for attending the wedding. I felt like we were 'rent-a-crowd' prior to the wedding, but definitely did following the wedding. But no I agree you can't really say anything it is their choice, but yes it is very rude!! x
2 Months?!!!! What the!!! xx
CommentAuthorKathleenO17
I wouldn't be too bothered about gifts but I would feel annoyed that I didn't even get a card but I wouldn't say anything as it is not worth the hassle of getting into an argument. I don't think I would ever forget it though.
I probably wouldn't bother sending them a thank you card either.
I hope married life is treating you well! x
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Well, I would feel a bit annoyed but would say anything. But to be honest, I wouldn't send a thank you card either.
CommentAuthorEmily17
I would be disappointed and a little bummed but wouldn't bother saying anything to them. depending who it is I wouldn't send a thank you. I wouldn't to his ex acquaintance but if it was an aunt etc then I would just saying than you for spending the day with us.
I wouldn't mind about the gift as i know some people struggle to afford it but a card doesn't hurt really.
Met in 2009
He proposed Jan 2014
Will become Mrs P 7th October 2017
CommentAuthorLesley0401
I know I have posted before but I totally agree with Emily on this x
What are you going to do MrsC, does you OH have any opinions?
The future Mrs Perry
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
I sent her a thank you card not that I wanted to but i did it anyway! thanks for your opinions ladies :) x
Met In Lanzarote April 2013
Engaged In Rome February 2016
Getting Married In Scotland May 2017
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
How has 2 months gone already? To me it's just rude not to even buy a card- even if you are doing you can pick up a card for £1
CommentAuthorSheenieR
I think I would find it rude.. But that says something about them. Your reaction speaks about you, so dont say anything, just be happy they came etc. Would make me grrr but ultimately we want their "presence not their presents". We are asking for money to book a honeymoon, i doubt we will get much but a couple of hundred quid might be a decent deposit for somewhere xx
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
I had the same thing happen to us mrs c! I haven't said anything to them directly I just aimed it through my mother in law as it was my husbands side of the family! I'm not beithered about them giving us a gift but a card would have been nice! I know exactly How you feel.... it annoyed me at 1st but I think now it one less than you card I have to send out, I even had guests to our evening close family night I add rave and not even turn up or give reason why just have ignored us since! Just let it go over your head! :)
finally became Mrs B 22nd June 2017!!
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
Congrats Toni!!
We had people just not turn up or contact us since too. Deffo speaks volumes about them! x
Met In Lanzarote April 2013
Engaged In Rome February 2016
Getting Married In Scotland May 2017
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
Thanks Mrs c, I couldn't agree more it really does! Xx
finally became Mrs B 22nd June 2017!!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Some people can be so rude. It's simply disrespectful.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
Totally agreen InDreamland :( x
Met In Lanzarote April 2013
Engaged In Rome February 2016
Getting Married In Scotland May 2017
CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
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I'd be annoyed and quite disappointed as cards can be a little keepsake for you, wouldn't bother me about the gifts but you can get a card for like 29p in ****c@rd f@ct0ry lol. As for your husbands acquaintance Id have told her to go home lol. No need for rudeness on your big day. Congratulations also x
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