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    • SarahW9216
      CommentAuthorSarahW9216
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    Sorry to be ranting but I got so upset this morning with my future mother in law. Me and my partner have decided to get married in Las Vegas in two years time, as I don't have many family and just wanted a small wedding and the honeymoon at the same time.
    We are saving hard to help pay for them to come, and we told her this morning what we are doing and all I got was its up to you what you do, it's nothing to do with me. I might as well not bother and just have me and my other half there..I have never been so mad with her.

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    • FutureMrsW
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    I know it seems really harsh and it must be really disappointing for you both to have been all excited to share your news and to just get shot down like that, but it sounds like she was a bit disappointed too. MILs especially seem to want a big day and be involved etc and she was probably just taking the news it will be different badly. I'm sure that in the end she'll get over herself because she'll want to be part of your special day. The important thing is that you both know what is right for you and that you're sticking to your decision - it is about nobody else at the end of the day. Try not to get too upset or to sink to her level and be petty, rise above and she's bound to come round. Good Luck! xxxxxxx




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    • SarahW9216
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    We have decided it's not worth the hassle with her, and we are getting married in 2018 in West Yorkshire. I'm disappointed but I have too try and keep the peace.

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    • JulieB11
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    We were originally getting married in Vegas. She told me it would be lovely and we should do what makes us happy. Promptly dragged OH away and demanded to know What exactly he thought he was doing We are getting married at home now (nothing to do with MIL) and having our honeymoon in Vegas.

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    • Wundatigga
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    Oh Sarah that is such a shame that you feel you can't have the wedding you want. And don't be too disappointed- there are some really beautiful venues in W Yorks! I struggled to decide and would have gone for several of the ones I looked at!

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    • CommentAuthorLoz K
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    Sarah don't do anything that disappoints you. It's your wedding at the end of the day and you have to be happy with your decision. I would wait a couple of weeks before making any decisions and maybe work out costs for both weddings. Once you get chatting with your OH you can make a decision together as to what you want to do. And it may give MIL time to come around to the idea that you may be getting married abroad - she probably just needs some time - it wasn't the done thing when our parents got married so they don't always see these things from our point of view!
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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
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    Sarah please don't start planning a wedding that's disappointing you because of something someone else has said. Planning a wedding should be full of happiness and excitement and if you're disappointed about the location, then it's highly unlikely you will get over that and you will constantly resent your MIL because of it.

    Do what makes you and OH happy, not his mum xx
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    • SarahW9216
      CommentAuthorSarahW9216
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    Thank you for the advice ladies, I will do what I want too do as it is mine and my OH wedding.

    Counting down the days till I'm Mrs B


 

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