Am really needing some advice as this keeps going round and round in my head and can't decide what to do for the best.
A few weeks after we got engaged I went round to a friends house (A) got drunk and asked her to be a bridesmaid. She was over the moon and even cried. The next morning I told one of my friends sisters (B)she wouldn't be bridesmaid as we just werent that close anymore, she took it ok but when I went home I cried as was upset at myself for hurting her feelings.
My fiancée and I then sat down and decided we weren't going to have a wedding party as I hate picking between people. We told our friends and they seemed shocked but fine wIth it.
Fastforwarded a couple of months and my two closest friends have voiced concern that I am going to regret my decision and I see how much it would mean to them to be involved as I have been bridesmaid for one and am in ones future wedding. Am now stuck between a rock and a hard place. Do I stick to my guns and have no one? Do i ask my two closest friends and risk upsetting A or do i ask everyone else and upset B again or just ask them all?
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
To be honest I think if you have already asked A then I think it's a bit mean if yiu stand them down, I think it's good to have BMs to help you with thing and they can help organise people on the day. So you have A and then the 2 others, you've already told B they are not bridesmaid snd if you are not close then there is no point bringing it up again.
I haven't asked my BM yet and am still trying to decide if I have just my sister or another friend- I'm just thinking my sister but OH seems to think it will be better with 2 BM- it's so hard!
CommentAuthorStephH96
I didn't have any bridesmaids and it didn't really affect anything at all.
If you are truly happy without any then that is fine, but if you do decide to have BMs I would ask A plus the 2others.
CommentAuthorMaxineP89
We are having my 2 daughters (aged 21 & 23) and my best friend. I did feel guilty that I wasn't having my niece, but if I had her then I would have had to her half sister, so in the end I settled for just my friend (she is mother of my niece and her half sister)
You need to go with your heart, if you no longer want her as a bridesmaid then just tell her - but sooner rather than later so her feeling don't get hurt
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CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
I have asked bridesmaids as i like the bride and bridesmaid photos lol. i havent needed them though as im doing everything myself (so i know its done how i want it lol) and i wont ask them to do anything on the day other than enjoy themselves!
Its completely up to you if you would prefer not to have them then dont. Or just have 1 on each side! xx
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You need someone to help you get ready on the day, but that could be a mum or aunt. If you decide against, maybe you could give A and your two closest friends other jobs to do.
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CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
If you decided to have them I would have A and the 2 close friends. As upsetting as it is for B you have already told her she wasn't a BM. So should be ok with it. Unless your reason was cause you weren't having any, I would say she should be fine. Xx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Its upsetting for people but theyll get over it. if you dont want bridesmaids dont feel you have to because theyre putting pressure on. xx
