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    • LB
      CommentAuthorLB
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    I wondered if anyone can give me any advice on this issue. I have had soo many problems with my mother and her interference in my wedding. She constantly wants things run past her, she forces her opinions on me so i feel like i need go choose what she wants for the wedding and she has generally made me feel stressed and really down about my big day because every little thing i plan seems to turn into another drama and argument. How do i get her to back off?? She really doesnt realise the effect she is having, she's so head strong and cant see that shes doing anything wrong.


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    • LauraH813
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    You say she doesn't realise what she's doing so maybe it's time to enlighten her? Can you get your Dad or another family member on side if you need a bit of back up? Ultimately you must speak up and assert yourself otherwise you'll regret it. Either you'll snap and blow up at her or you'll keep quiet and resent her forever for not allowing you to have your day your way. Neither are great options. Sit her down and tell her how sad you feel and that you appreciate her help but you need to be allowed to make your own decisions. Hope you get things sorted x
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    • StephH96
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    Great post Laura.
    LB - is your mum paying for the wedding or contributing at all? If she is she may feel (wrongly) that she has the right to choose. Let her know how stressed it's making you, maybe once she sees your log she'll back down a little.
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    • Emily17
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    LB I agree with both posts above and cannot add anything. Just wanted to send support xx

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    • AnikaM60
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    My mom is like this too. Shes actually like this normally but its stressing me out more because its my wedding day. Shes head strong doesnt listen much and thinks her way is the right way. I will just tell her that ill take it on board but im doing it the way i want. This even gets tiring with her constant insistance. Ive found it helpful to not tell her my decision acknowlege whats shes said and change the subject to something else and then do what i want in my own time. I let her get her way with things that dont matter too much to me. That way she feels included and im not railroaded. Also my oh is great with stepping in and saying its something he wants and is putting his foot down to take the pressure off me. The stress
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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
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    Again I can't add anything that Laura hasn't said, but really do need to have that conversation- perhaps you can set her on things that don't mean much to yiu but your mum will feel important bring in charge of and deciding, this way keeping her occupied and out of your way to make the big important devious in peace with your OH

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