Bit of an awkward question but is it ok to invite someone to your hen party but not your wedding....possibly may invite to the evening reception. I haven't seen this person in a while (moved to London and none of us knew) but because they are from same group of friends I felt obliged to ask her to hen party...now I am stuck and my numbers for during the day are extremely tight.
Help??
CommentAuthorWundatigga
It is seen as bad etiquette to invite someone to the hen party and not your wedding, unless you are having a very small wedding of only close family.
I would say though that if you are really wanting them to attend the hen party but really can't accommodate them on your day list, you could call/speak to them first and say that due to numbers you will only be able to invite them to the evening, but still would love them to celebrate your hen with you - that way they know the score before accepting/declining your hen party.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I wouldn't worry about it - I have invited quite a few people to my hen who aren't invited to the day but just the evening. If they aren't even important enough to invite to the evening, then I would ask the question why are they important enough to be invited to your hen? You shouldn't feel obliged to invite anyone if you don't want to.
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
If it was me and I was invited to a hen do, to me I woukd expect to be invited to the wedding, if only the evening. Having said that I went to a girl at works hen do but not the wedding, but then she did have 2 hen dos, one for friends and one for work people.
If you don't even speak to this person I wouldn't bother inviting them, even if they used to be in the same group of friends
CommentAuthorEllie95
Personally if I hadn't spoke to someone in years I wouldn't invite them, but if you feel like you really wanted them there, then explain the situation to them? it's a tuff one really xoxo
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I think I would at least expect to be invited to the evening, if not the day. I'll be inviting some people to my hen do but only inviting them to the evening reception as numbers are limited for the day. I think in this day and age people are more accepting that financial constraints prevent people from inviting everyone to the day and just like to be part of the celebrations if only for the evening.
CommentAuthorStephH96
If you can't afford her in the day then that's fine, just explain you have limited numbers.
I'm sure she will be well aware that you have drifted apart - I mean if she didn't feel like she could tell you she was moving away to London that surely shows you weren't particularly close.
I do agree that she should be invited to the evening though.
I like to reverse the roles for situations like this and think of how I would feel, and I think if I was invited to a hen but not the wedding day I would be pretty peeved. (Unless obviously there's a good reason like it was abroad and couldn't afford to go).
CommentAuthorEmily17
If you are inviting someone to your hen then I would expect them to be invited at least to the evening reception. If you really aren't close to her then I would question why you are inviting her to your hen.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's okay to invite if they're invited to the evening reception at least but not if they're not invited at all.
I had the opposite issue, one of my friends decided and dictated to my sister and bridesmaid that she was bringing her best friend to my hen! I have met her best friend a few times but no way was she invited to any part of my wedding. Needless to say I was not impressed, neither were other friends!
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