So for a quick bit of back story - I have a severely disabled younger brother who won't be able to fly for long periods of time on a plane, the wedding is during the school season, and my Nan is terrified of flying
My problem, my partner has his heart set 100% on getting married in Mexico, we have been discussing it as it seems to be the cheaper option for us, and I have about 75% of my heart set on it as well. I think it would be an extremely memorable day and would be an amazing experience as we've never been... The only problem is, my family have outright said they won't come if the wedding is in the Caribbean as it is too far away... This is due to not being able to get respite for my younger brother... However, they haven't even considered asking his current respite carers if they would mind looking after him for a week... (Which they have said previously they would when my parents were planning a holiday away)
The fact that they wouldn't even consider or try for my wedding has really upset me...
My partners dad and step-mum are likely not to come as the dates we're planning is still during the school season and they won't come for a few days...
So for us to have a wedding which we're almost set on, almost none of our family will attend (his mum said she will attend regardless of where we go)
My family have said they would come if the wedding was in the UK or Europe under a 4 hours flight time, so they seem to really be pushing that idea.... The only problem is since toying with the idea of the Caribbean... It just doesn't appeal to me
I couldn't dream of having a wedding without my family, but my heart is set on the Caribbean and so is my partners...
Do I sacrifice the destination I want to have my family come? Or do I go with the destination and have a rather empty wedding?
All help would be appreciated :(
CommentAuthorStephH96
Hiya, I understand your feelings and where both you and your family are coming from. However it sounds like although you empathise with your family you really have your heart set in Mexico - so do it!
Myself and OH are having a week in Vegas and getting married there and then havin G honeymoon after in Barbados. We knew from the beginning that guests would be limited but now it's just the 2of us and possibly his dad and we are OK with that. It's what we want and to be honest we struggled with the idea of a UK wedding. Vegas is also special to us as its where we got engaged.
You can always ask if the venue doesxa live broadcast on the internet or if you could set up something similar. Or get a recording and lots of pictures and have a party when you get back and make sure to play it and display the pictures.
To be honest if you were to replicate the beach feel in Europe the best places such as Greece and Cyprus can be over 4 hours flight anyway depending on where you are I. The UK.
What are your reasons for wanting to go abroad? I'm sure if you explain to the family they will understand seeing as you both feel so strongly.
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Have you considered just the 2 of you getting married in Mexico and then having a blessing or just big party here where you can where your outfits here?
My OH and I originally said that we wanted to get married in this beautiful church in New Zealand but know his mum won't fly so know we are deciding on Scotland where I grew up or where we live know- in yiur hear you know what is right for you two and you just have to go with it- for me I could not have a wedding where parents were not there.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Only you can really decide what you really want to do weighing up a dream wedding location without your family or a wedding closer to home surrounded by your loved ones. The cost to you is one consideration, time off work and cost for family and friends is another consideration and you'll have to weight it all up and decide what's most important to you.
Have you considered a small intimate wedding in Mexico and then having a blessing/big UK reception after the real wedding and honeymoon? I know a few friends who have got married abroad then hosted a UK wedding reception when they got back.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorEmily17
Its really difficulty and everyone's opinions will be different. You need to decide what is important to you. Having your dream wedding day with you and your OH or compromising a bit to have the people you love there. Its a discussion I think you and your OH need to have and decide between yourselves what's important. Cost may be a big factor too.
Its worth considering having a reception here when you get back regardless because even if you do go for Europe then it's still possible that not all friends and family will be able to come so if you want to celebrate with them its a way of doing it.
I am sure whatever you decide your family will accept your decision and still be happy for you.
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He proposed Jan 2014
Will become Mrs P 7th October 2017
I'm having a similar dilemma only I would never expect anyone to travel abroad for my wedding. If we choose to do it abroad then we accept we'll probably be alone. As much as it appeals to me I think I've decided against it. This is about our families joining together and it probably means more to some of them than it does to us. We've already been together 12 years and have 2 children together. Saying that, if any of my family members did it I'd be completely happy for them and not at all bothered unless they expected me to pay to get there.
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I think you need to follow your hearts, what about a quick UK wedding n then have some vow thing in Mexico on your honeymoon?
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Ultimately it depends how much you want your families there.. Can you sacrifice one day for the sake of you and your family or can you do it in the UK and have the honeymoon abroad for example with a blessing when you are out there? Remember, a wedding is a family affair generally and it will be hurting them as well as you as a lot of families, particularly parents, dream of their child's big day. It's down to you at the end of the day! X
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorCeltic_Queen
Follow your heart, you only get married once! It is all down to you, while I agree that family are important they should not be dictating your wedding day.
I am getting married abroad too but we expect at least our parents to be there and my bridesmaids, I think about 20-30 people will be flying out, the idea of us all on the same plane is exciting for me :)
