Wedding Forum - What's the rule for evening guests?...

Hello everyone - we are in the process of making our wedding guest list. Kids are part of our day as we have a little boy and it's his day too, not just ours. For our evening guests what's the rules for inviting people with their partners and kids?
My fiancé has come up with a list of people and he has included their partners and kids too.
I just feel like it's ending up with a lot of people I know and we will end up with about 30 kids and it may end up feeling like a kids party rather than our wedding.

I was just wondering what other people had done?

Many thanks

We named children on all day invitations, but left them off evening only invites, without specifically saying they weren't invited. We made the assumption that for a do starting at 7:00 most parents would leave the children with a babysitter, otherwise they wouldn't get much time before they had to take the kids home. I mentioned to one couple that we would be happy to have the boys there if childcare was a problem, and they said they were determined to have a child free evening. We ended up with one toddler and one tiny baby being brought, and that was it. I suspect if you don't state either way you won't be overrun with children.

We had a no kids rule with the exception of immediate family only which meant only 3 little ones which kept numbers, costs and poor behaviour interruption down to a minimum.

The only thing I can suggest is to ask your OH to leave off kids and the parents will have to find childcare.

We have invited everyone's children too. It's then their decision if they want to bring them or not, or have a night off of parenting to let their hair down! I personally think it's a bit rude not to invite the whole family unit though, unless you have a strict "no kids" policy that applies to everyone xx

We have invited kids but to be honest the only small children we have to invite are cousins, a niece and my MOH's kids so they are all close family. I think there will be about 15 in total. All the other 'kids' which are cousins etc are 16+ so we wouldn't invite them but not the younger ones. I think you should invite the whole family so we would never have said no kids, it is the parents decision whether to bring them along or not.

We have invited children to the day as they are mainly all family but we aren't inviting any more children to the evening. We haven't included the children's names on the evening invites.