Wedding Forum - Coming off pill and TTC...

any other brides to be or recently married brides planning/planned on trying straight after the wedding? I'm thinking of not taking my next packet of my pill on wednesday and seeing what happens my only concern is my wedding is in 3 weeks and i know you have a withdrawal bleed but im worried i might come on at random times with my body getting back into sync and with my honeymoon straight after (but i was due a period on my 7 day break on the honeymoon anyway) I'm hoping to get pregnant quite soon but seeing quite a few ladies that have been trying for years makes me think i would rather get the ball rolling now so if i do have a problem conceiving my year of trying would start next week and I'm 29 and want about 4 kids so don't want to hang about.
I'm quite nervous but very excited and worried I'm setting myself up for a fall but we will see, just wanted to see if anyone else is in the same boat?
xx

When I came off the pill my cycle reverted to normal straightaway. I finished the three weeks that I was on, and then after the last withdrawal bleed I got a period 32 days later. I wasn't on the pill when we married as I abstained until marriage, but I took something that my doctor prescribed that is a hormone treatment that delays your period, as I knew I'd be due on the honeymoon. I've only been trying a couple of months, as we waited until we bought a bigger house, but I'm really impatient to have my first, as I'm nearly 33 and they don't look for problems until 18 months of trying, when I'll be 34.

I stopped taking the pill for health reasons, and I have always had excellent skin, but when I discontinued it. My hormones were re-adjusting for about a month, and I kept getting the odd spot. I wouldn't do it before my wedding, incase of potential skin, mood or weight change. If you and your fiance are both ready though,nobody can tell you both when is best.

When I came off the pill it took us around 6 months to conceive our LO. My periods never really became regular but I thought I had food poisoning but went to the walk in centre and she told me I was pregnant :-/ I was sick a lot with morning sickness for a week before I found out until the day I had him so I probably won't try again until just after the wedding. Good luck to you x

Aww I really hope it happens really soon for you x

I came off the pill 19 months ago as we hoped to conceive and have a baby before our wedding with plenty of time to spare. Unfortunately it hasn't happened yet for us and we are just about to undergo tests to see what is happening, I am 35! I too would say don't build your hopes up, the disappointment for us has been really hard to take. It also now raises the question of what happens if we do conceive in the next month or so and the wedding etc... but I think we would just be over the moon and deal with it from there.
I wish you all the best for your plans - personally, I would say is if you are concerned about it affecting the wedding for the sake of another 3 weeks or so I would maybe wait and stop perhaps towards the tail end of your honeymoon.

That sounds like great advice from your GP re the folic acid. I feel a bit of dinosaur having read these posts. We want to start trying after the wedding. I am worried it won't happen as I'm 38 and will be 39 by the time we get married, so am stressing that a) it won't happen and b) birth defects given my age. OH will be 38 so I've already told him he needs to start changing his diet - there is nothing of him, but he eats way too much rubbish! Have taken note of the folic acid.

Thanks - that is encouraging to hear!! I do sometimes tend to be a little pessimistic about these things, but I did have my palm read years ago and was told I'd have one pregnancy and two babies, so thinking twins - they run in my family and in his too....!!! Thanks for the tip off too re where to purchase from - I shall have a look tomorrow when we're in town. I've only been on the pill since about last April, but before that was on it for years. I am thinking of using an implant in future. Good luck - think you're brave wanting 4!!!! xx

Lindsey I'm 38 too, and not concerned at all (we only got married last year). We still haven't broached the subject on when we will try either.

It's hard for anyone to give advice on this, as it will effect everyone differently.
For instance I'm 36, I came off the pill about 10 years ago and haven't had a day late since I settled back down...despite tests, they can't find any reason we've not conceived yet.

When I came off, I didn't bleed for nearly 8 months! My skin went terrible, sensitive and blotchy and I get very spotty on my chest when I'm due now.

My sister came off the pill, no side effects whatsoever and pregnant before her next cycle... No two women are the same. But everyone tells me not to stress or worry, even my doctor said it. But 10 years on and nothing.

Like Leasa said every woman is different.

I'm healthy, don't drink or smoke and exercise yet I see people who drink smoke and do no exercise get pregnant. Plus they're older than me.

I will be a few weeks shy of my 33rd birthday when we get married next year. we will start trying about 3 months before the wedding and due to having polycystic ovaries, my dr has advised that if I am not pregnant after 6 motnhs I would be seen for testing. That realistically means if I am not pregnant by october next year we can see fertility specialists. I also don't use any hormonal contraception. I stress about not being able to get pregnant as I was diagnosed also with endometriosis so I have 2 conditions that can affect your chance of getting pregnant. I never used any contraception with my ex for over 3 years and never fell and me and my fiance are not particularly careful now and havent been for the last 2 years. Hopefully one day soon it will happen. I suppose we just need to try and keep an optimistic mind and and think that it will happen. xx