I am seriously getting to the end of my tether!!! I just feel my oh family are never happy for anyone especially family! When we first got engaged oh family were really off with us ( no reason other than they don't like others being happy) and now we have set the date and started planning it thought they were actually ok and come around but they have gone all funny again! I even said about having our nieces and nephews in the bridal party to include them in the wedding but starting to feel like telling them all to do one!! Just fed up that they can't be happy for anyone but themselves and always putting everyone down! And don't see why I should spend money and include them in our special day when they aren't even able to give a compliment to us! Just feels like they are in competition about everything. It doesn't help they talk to each other about everything yet when we r there its like we are complete strangers! And really cbf with them thinking sun shines out of each other and kids yet they want to find fault in us and our kids with everything. Even telling them happy stuff about our kids n they over talk yet are happy to talk about each other kids!! I'm guna leave it til wedding closer but am tempted to just tell them that actually they aren't included in the wedding now! Whenever the word wedding mention one like I'm never getting married blablabla n just puts a damper on it and never interested in hearing about ours
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
I would leave them out and just have them as guests. You want the ppl in your wedding party to be those who care and would like to help n show interest
CommentAuthorVelcro
keep them as guests, its what i did in the end. glad their sour faces arent tainting all our photos!
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
I sympathies with you MrsC. My family are exactly the same. My mum and dad change the subject everytime I mention anything to so with the wedding. They've not offered any contribution towards the day but my in laws are always talking about how happy they are that we are getting married. My mil has even got her whole outfit for the day already. I've stopped talking about it to my parents. I asked my 3 sisters to be bridesmaids and they were all excited to start with now I'm lucky if I get a conversation out of them.
I second MidgetGem89 and Velcro. None of my family are involved in our wedding because I knew it would end up causing me stress and regret. Good thing I didn't too because my sister had a major fall out with me over something incredibly stupid (my opinion on a popular book) that she decided she wasn't coming to the wedding. Fair do's. Only OHs sister is involved in the wedding and thats because we get along really well.
Keep your family as guests. Less stress.
Met in Nov 2005
Engaged 13th June 2013
Becomes Mrs Stewart on 10th Aug 2015 Honeymoon in Florida!
My Diary Thread: My Alice in Wonderland Wedding Diary
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I think it is jealousy and just makes me angry that we are all ment to be family so can't see why they can't be happy for us! My oh young sister asked to be a bridesmaid and was very excited so don't feel like can't have her. But the others think I'm guna cut out as just sick of the constant b***hing all the time and digs and hate against others happiness. Plus will save me on outfits and gifts ect. Guna talk to oh tonight and see what he says although I know he's happy to cut them all out anyway, guess u don't get anything for being nice to them!!
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
Usualy the case.. weddings (and babys) bring out the worst in some people!
Let them get on with it keep your future sil as she sounds happy to be involved but anyone who isnt u have time to change your mind about and say actually no we arent having this person etc. U could choose someone else to replace them if u have any1 in mind maybe waita bit i didnt ask one of my bms straight away. You have time :-)
Dont let it stress u if they rnt happy or dont want to hear about it just dont mention it. A few ppl didnt seem too happy for me so i didnt mention it or involve them planned everything myself and by the time they realised they had been left out it was too late to "help" and they soon realise and change their attitudes to be kept in the loop (i still dnt tho lol)
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Same a my bridesmaids mrsmw. I feel like when I send them pics of dresses etc I'm bothering them and it's always me who starts the conversations about the wedding. I thought if was cause it's so far away but it's not that far now so it's starting to bug me.
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Also hope the come around mrsc2b. People don't understand we want them to be excited too!! The reaction I'm sick getting from my dad is use are mad spending all that money on one day. I feel like saying well you aren't paying for it so be quiet lol
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Haha I feel like saying that too Danielle
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
We have that comment all the time from Inlaws too Danielle! Really winds me up. If I want to spend that amount money then I will! Feel like saying if u don't like it then don't come as ur be happy sitting down eating and drinking what I spent! I've chosen not to say anything to them about it now as oh mentioned I was going trying dresses on and they were like' what already, bit early isn't it' so when I found ' the one' I refuse to tell them and not going to mention a word about it or anything, they only know colour scheme as they asked n its another reason I don't really want them part of the wedding party as would mean getting ready together n then they'd see my dress early and I don't want that as know they'll only b**ch n would worry they'd ruin it by taking photo ect? and its sad that I feel this way as when I first imagined it it was perfect and amazing but realistically i feel like they aren't interested n bothered and that its just going to be my mum n moh that will care :(
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Mrs C, that is so true, people moan about the amount of money you are spending but don't moan when they are getting their bellies full for nothing.
We'll be happy for you, sod them!
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
Never thought of it at that way. Hah, I'll have to mind that if people complain about how much we're spending :)
Met in Nov 2005
Engaged 13th June 2013
Becomes Mrs Stewart on 10th Aug 2015 Honeymoon in Florida!
My Diary Thread: My Alice in Wonderland Wedding Diary
CommentAuthormichgib
Family are nothing but trouble. None of mine will be coming to our wedding, as I dont talk to them anymore as they always cause too much trouble. As they say you can pick your friends but not your family
