My soon to be mother in law is really putting me off having children, that sounds terrible doesn't it. I have a nearly 3 year old from a previous relationship and my daughter has taken to her very well, i've been with my soon to be mister since just before her 1st birthday so she's known no different. We spend all occassions at my mums and my MIL moans about it saying that when i have a baby with my partner it'll all have to change...i don't want it to change, his MIL sees her every weekend as it is, i just know she is going to be so overbaring. Don't get me wrong i'm not thinking of having another baby right now but it so off putting. My partner brother is engaged also and his fiancee says the same. She rolls her eyes whenever I say I'm doing anything with my daughter and my family. I feel like shouting no offence but she is my parents grandchild not yours - but i feel bad, she is very fond of her but my parents would be upset if i was to spend a special occassion as her house over mine. My mum has already said that she worries for me when i do decide to have another and that she'd feel like she'd have to justify any time with a shared grandchild. My other half pretty much shares the same opinion as her and it has caused alot of arguments.
Sorry! I know this is a bit of a rant but i was just thinking about it and had to share!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
first just ignore her stupid comments .......
what about getting everyone together on occassions
Don't let it put you off Hun, what she says and what will happen are two different things. She can say what she likes but at end of day it would be your n your h2b and she has no say. She might be abit ott but its natural for girls to be closer to their family and another child won't change that. I see my family a lot more than oh family as he works 6 days a a week and I prefer for him to be around if we visit them haha so we tend to see them on the weekend and that's enough for us lol. Don't let her put u off its ur life at end of day Hun x
CommentAuthorKatieP68
I'd like to get everyone together on occassions but my mum thinks the MIL is too rude, she's been to my house a few times and didn't say much and when she did talk she had her nose in the air and all about how amazing her sons and husband are. My mums really down to earth and just doesn't like her - i don't blame her haha
MrsC2bee - I'm trying so hard! Maybe i'm just being a bit emotional today haha
xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
Oh god sounds like a nightmare lol. id be telling husband straight though. he is supposed to you on YOUR side. thats the whole point of a marriage. otherwise your just gunna have child related stress for hte rest of your life!
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
He usually is, but he can never see when his mums in the wrong which i find amazing! Will just have to push these thought to the back of my mind for now I think x
CommentAuthormichgib
When it comes to it its your baby and your decisions on its upbringing. Tell her to butt out
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I have days when it use to drive me mad how my mil was excuse the language ( up my oh ex wife bum) and was a good nanny to their child yet had no intersst in our child. But then realised it was her issue not mine and now the ex wife has co pelts stopped all contact my mil suddenly wants to be a nanny! Yet still treats her daughters children better than ours but hey ho. Just concentrate on your little family and everything else will have to just fit in :)
CommentAuthorKatieP68
thank you ladies!! x
CommentAuthorGemmaB596
Believe me, mother in laws get worse after marriage! Personally, I'd say put your foot down if it's something you feel strongly about, and if your OH complains tell him that you have your own feelings as well and he should respect that rather than pressuring you to fit in with what his mum wants... otherwise you'll have a lifetime of a mother in law who thinks that moaning and whinging about things will make you (and her son) do exactly what she wants you to do.