Me and my h2b planned our wedding for 2017 but brought it forward to november this year coz it means alot for our grandparents to be there and their health aint great so we just getting married in registry office infront of mums dads grandparents siblings and our 3 young kids then nice meal after it but even that is stressing me out coz ppl want to invite other ppl and bridesmaids being fussy over dresses etc and we feel like cancelling the whole thing and just get married with our grandparents as witnesses. We just want to get married we been together ten year and all our kids are under three and would rather spend money on them than a big do. Really dont want to upset ppl but this whole thing getting me down. What should i do?
CommentAuthorFlossie
Firstly, do not worry about upsetting people!! It is your day, you should be able to do it however you want without worrying about what other people think. They should understand and respect your wishes without making life awkward for you.
If you go ahead with all your guests as planned, just lay down the law and make it very clear that no one else will be getting invited. No arguments!! Also tell your bridesmaids that whilst you want them to feel comfortable, ultimately they are going to wear whatever you want them to wear.. if they have a problem with it then they should re-evaluate their role as bridesmaid. I think you just need to be tough and not let anyone walk all over you.
Hope you have the best day whatever decision you make xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Forget other people and their wants, do what you want Hun, if you don't want extras there just say you haven't got space. Its your special day Hun do it how you want it. And if your paying for their dresses then they wear what they are given or if they really want to be picky then tell them to pay for them themselves. Just remember why ur doing it and enjoy the day and love and the fact ur love ones are there x
CommentAuthorSamanthaM498
Thanks ladies for the replies spoke to a few family members and they happy n understand if we just get married on our own need to have a good think now all i want to do is stand in front of my h2b and say our vows i dnt mind if no one there or that we dont make a big day of it i just want to marry the love of my life x
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorAprilS61
Dont let anyone else bully you into anything you don't want to do. If they want you to have the big wedding, tell them to pay for it :) That'll stop them.
Flossie
