Wedding Forum - Relatives wedding near yours - why always a...

I would feel like that way too. My cousin (Well mums best friends son who we've grown up calling cousin) gets married in May but i decided to wait until after their wedding before we had ours so I didn't jump in in front of them. Is not such a big deal as we dont share a whole family but when my sister got engaged a month after us i prayed she didnt get married before us which she hasnt she gets married 9 months after so give the families plenty of time between the two weddings

Our friends are getting married in June this year in Majorca and the hotel that is the closest to where they are getting married is so expensive. The flights aren't cheap either. We're getting married next year and can't justify paying nearly £2k to attend their wedding when we have our own to pay for. That £2k can go towards our wedding/honeymoon x

I didn't mind at all when it happened to me. My husband and I got engaged in October 2012 and got married in August 2014. In February 2013 my younger brother proposed to his girlfriend, who he had been with a lot longer than I had been with my OH, and they set their date for May 2014. There were different factors coming into play for each of us. Matthew and I wanted a summer wedding to enable one of Matthew's friends who is a university lecturer to come over from the states, and summer 2013 wasn't ideal as my parents were moving house. Iain and Emily obviously had their reasons for May 2014, I don't know what they were. It didn't worry me. It was only my parents, brothers, aunt and godparents that were affected, the rest of the guests were from different circles. Emily invited me to be a bridesmaid as the groom's sister, and I made it clear that I wouldn't be able to help much in advance of the day, but she was fine about that. I made sure I attended the hen do and the bridesmaid shopping day, and made an effort not to talk about my wedding on those occasions, although if Emily brought it up we'd talk a but about it. Otherwise it was great fun as we were able to compare notes, and I was glad that Emily's wedding was first as I could then focus completely on mine.

I think it's courteous for people to book their wedding after yours, but sometimes it can't be helped. If someone had dreamed of a summer wedding and you were having an autumn wedding, you can't expect them to wait until the next year for summer to come round again just to avoid getting married before you or near you.

I would be a little bit annoyed if a family member booked a wedding before or too near ours I will admit, but I'd like to think if it came to it I would be mature and adult enough to deal with it and not let it upset me. I know no one in my family would mean to do it maliciously! X

I can see why people may get upset but it wouldn't bother me. my younger sister got engaged to her h2b 12 months ago, I went with her in the summer and gave her some ideas for her big day as she has similar ideas to the ones I had for my "dream" wedding. She booked a venue for June 2016 about 6 months ago.
My OH proposed to me on xmas eve so I am now on full on planning mode. However out of courtesy we have decided to set a date some time in 2017 and I have even gone as far as doing a complete U-turn on my original plans and I am now planning a winter wedding (which will come as a shock to all who know me as I am a true sun baby and hate winter with a passion)!!
I love that my sister and I are both planning weddings together we get to do all the fun stuff together, in fact were off to a wedding fayre tomorrow and I can't wait!!

After getting the initial idea and starting to at winter wedding ideas I'm now really excited about it, I think I can make it something really beautiful and the DIY opportunities are endless (plus most venues are already decorated for xmas so I can save a bit of money by cutting back on additional decorations lol). And I still get to enjoy my dream wedding day with a lot less stress as I will be able to enjoy my sister getting married rather than praying I don't trip up on my way down the aisle lol.

It's her ohs gran who probably does not have alot of years left. She should be happy for her finding love. I'm sure his gran is not having the wedding because she wants loss of wedding gifts and she knows there wedding is not far off so having to be Careful with penny's an probably does not expect a gift from them , as grans in my experience are generous ones. And you don't have to buy a new outfit , I'm sure they have singing they can wear. And if the wedding is not nearby (which it does not state) could they not ask some family who does if they could stay there the night to save on a hotel.

I just read this post on fb. I think when someone has a date settled, the other family member should try to give some time between the weddings. Before deciding for my wedding day, I've asked my moh (she is my fbil's fiance) if they have decided for any date and she said no, and that i shouldn't worry about it.

I think I need to start reading more of these things, they sound crazy

i see why people get upset my best friend (also MOH) has just booked her wedding a few weeks after mine... I'm currently in the middle of planning my hen do and already I'm getting people asking me what i think she'll do also if we'll go try dresses on together and share this that and the other its already starting to get to me as these are the moments i want to enjoy myself not have to share I've now decided I'm only taking my mum to try my dress on instead of all my bridesmaids as i know she will take away the specialness of the day... doesn't help that we are both also pregnant at the moment and apparently i copied (cos thats the sort of thing you copy) even though i had been trying for months and she only knew the bloke 3 weeks (sorry for the rant not got many people i could express this to) xxx

i really hope things work out for her too she is my best friend and all i want for her is to be happy i am however sceptical about him and the situation but think thats just my protective nature... i try not to let it get to me and my OH has been amazing when i do get moments where I'm a little down about it just hope the closer we get to everything she doesn't take all my limelight lol xx